What I think is weird is that this all started over a text message. It was a silly forward message that my bestfriends boyfriend had sent me. After that message he told me he liked me and that he has for a really long time. The problem is that his girlfriend is my best friend and my boyfriend is his best friend. They have a baby together also. Well one day when he was out my best friend invited me over to her house.. they both live together. So I went over and I was texting her boyfriend while I was there. He told me he wanted to kiss me and he asked if he could whenever his girlfriend left the room.. I said sure.. when he got home my best friend was in the restroom so she told me to answer the door. And well... we kissed.. I know its so bad but it felt so right. After that time we keep text messaging and we have done things after that.. I don't know what to do because he is about to get married with her.. I care about my best friend a lot and I love my boyfriend to death but this guy just completes everything for me. He tells me loves me and wishes his girlfriend was more like me.. what should I do? I don't want to hurt my friend or my boyfriend but yet I can't stop liking him and he feels the same.. someone please help..




OK I understand everything that everyone is telling me... I'm going to stop... but I don't understand why everyone is just blaming this on me. I'm not the only one involved in this situation. I didn't start anything.. he did.. I know this is all wrong.. I know he has a baby... I know she is my best friend... but this is not just my fault.. and yes they are not really old enough to get married.. all three of us are only 18. The baby is 1 1/2 years old and I really don't understand how this is just "my fault" but I really do know that what I am doing is wrong. I'm going to stop. I have to stop. This is hurting me as much as it should be hurting him and as much as it would hurt her. She trusts him and she trusts me and even though I've already done enough to hurt her... I will stop.. no more contact with him...

I'm sorry but I think you are doing the wrong thing!
Do you not have any respect for your friend?
That's a NO NO you never go out or cheat with your best friends fella!
How can you do that the pair of you?
They have achild did you ever think of the poor baby?

I think your just being ahome wrecker I'm sorry but your out of order doing that to your best friend and their baby!

You need to walk away and start the NO CONTACT rule that means NO TEX,NO EMAILS,NO CALLS,NO NOTHING

I know its so bad but it felt so right


This isn't a damn High Fat Ice Cream thing your eating here!
This is peoples lifes and feelings

What you did was wrong weak and selfish. You will get what's coming to you.

You don't want to hurt anyone you say. The second you kissed him was the second you hurt everyone.

You guys are both in the wrong and you should end things now before you really really hurt them although I can't see how you could anymore.

Enjoy your it feels so right. Way of looking at life, let me know when things go bad if it feels right ;)

and well... we kissed.. i know its so bad but it felt so right. after that time we keep text messaging and we have done things after that.. i dont know what to do because he is about to get married with her.. i care about my best friend alot and i love my boyfriend to death but this guy just completes everything for me. he tells me loves me and wishes his gf was more like me.. what should i do? i dont want to hurt my friend or my boyfriend but yet i can't stop liking him and he feels the same.. someone please help..

What to do??
First stop... and well... we kissed..

I know its so bad but it felt so right... it felt right... so that must mean that your best friend and boyfriends feelings must not... ''feel''

I don't know what to do because he is about to get married with her..
You don't know what to do because he is about to get married with her...
Doesn't THAT ALONE tell you what to do??

I care about my best friend a lot and I love my boyfriend to death
MUST not or you would be thinking more about them than what you ''feel''

But this guy just completes everything for me... completely messed everything up for you!

He tells me loves me and wishes his girlfriend was more like me.. what should I do?
Tell him what a jerk he is.

I don't want to hurt my friend or my boyfriend but yet I can't stop liking him and he feels the same.. someone please help..
You don't want to hurt your friend or your boyfriend but you want your cake and eat it too and you are going to end up with ziltch if you don't realize that you need to leave the other guy alone 100%

True faith is right the "chocolate or strawberry?" candy/ice cream store days are over and it is time to make the real decisions in life.

Are you serious , this is so wrong , ask yourself this:

How would you feel if you found out your best friend was doing that with your Boyfriend??

What i think is weird is that this all started over a text message. it was a silly forward message that my bestfriends boyfriend had sent me. after that message he told me he liked me and that he has for a really long time. the problem is that his girlfriend is my best friend and my boyfriend is his bestfriend. they have a baby together also. well one day when he was out my best friend invited me over to her house.. they both live together. so i went over and i was texting her boyfriend while i was there. he told me he wanted to kiss me and he asked if he could whenever his girlfriend left the room.. i said sure.. when he got home my best friend was in the restroom so she told me to answer the door. and well... we kissed.. i know its so bad but it felt so right. after that time we keep text messaging and we have done things after that.. i dont know what to do because he is about to get married with her.. i care about my best friend alot and i love my boyfriend to death but this guy just completes everything for me. he tells me loves me and wishes his gf was more like me.. what should i do? i dont want to hurt my friend or my boyfriend but yet i can't stop liking him and he feels the same.. someone please help..
Yes I know everything I am doing is wrong.. I don't want to admit it but I do know. I can't just stop talking to him. Then my friend will ask why and things will just get out. I told him that after he is married I want things to stop. The thing is that OK.. him and his girlfriend were talking and since she is the only person he has been with, she told him he could do whatever he wanted with someone else until the day they got married but he had to tell her with who he was going to do something with. But since I'm the best friend its kind of hard to say something.. we don't act any different with each other when she is around or my boyfriend is around.. everything is perfectly normal... but I understand... I do have to let him go because he's not mine and he never was.. I'm guessing this was all just a stupid crush..

You've already done the damage and you can't fix it you need to stop this before everybody gets hurt,I'm even mad at both of you for what you are doing and I don't no you,but I have 2kids and if I found out that myfriend and boyfriend did that to me boy would they be sorry.

START THE NO CONTACT RULE PLEASE BEFORE THIS GOES ANY FURTHER!

I think that is what I'm going to have to do.. I have to.. it really does hurt me when I'm around her telling her that he loves her and he would never do anything to hurt her... but deep inside I know the truth.. we took things to far.. much farther than they should have gone... he was the one that came onto me though... but I know this has to stop.. I don't want to hurt her anymore...

It takes two to Tango

I hate myself for the fact that we already took things to far.. I regret it.. but I can't take it back...

BUT YOU CAN STOP and tell him it is just wrong and you do not want to lose your best friend or your boyfriend.
Every time he tries to talk with you picture your best friend walking in the room and how it would devastate her.
Think of how hurt you would ''feel'' if you caught your boyfriend with another girl.

But you can STOP IT!! So start now for everyone's sake and hope it doesn't come back to bite you.

How old are you 10??
You should have realised this was wrong when you got the tex and just ignored it,you are destroying that baby's life if she finds out it will be OVER between them and you will be AHOME WRECKER!!

i think that is what im gonna have to do.. i have to.. it really does hurt me when im around her telling her that he loves her and he would never do anything to hurt her... but deep inside i know the truth.. we took things to far.. much farther than they should have gone... he was the one that came onto me though... but i know this has to stop.. i dont want to hurt her anymore...


Do you not no the words ''no you have agirlfriend and ababy'''??

Hello reality check!!

Is No One But Me Thinking About The Baby Hear??

Is No One But Me Thinking About The Baby Hear?????

Very true... and the GF , if this guy has done it once , and who's to say this is the first , he'll probably do it again.

It takes two to make a relationship work and 3 to break it up. You are tearing a family apart, do you realize that? These two have a baby together. Should they get married, probably not, they don't seem very mature, either do you. He may have started this but you finished it when you let him continue, when you let him kiss you.

You say that you care about your friend and your boyfriend, Dear, I think the only one you care about is yourself. Search deep inside and realize that this is wrong, put a stop to it NOW! If not, then you deserve what you get.

Also, seriously, your friend told her future husband he could sleep with and fool around with anyone he wants to before they get married? Are they actually old enough to get married? I mean, really, are you guys 11, because you all are acting like it.

I agree with everyone else, it's time for a reality check, and time to grow up!

Is No One But Me Thinking About The Baby Hear?????

I don't see where it says a baby
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What i think is weird is that this all started over a text message. it was a silly forward message that my bestfriends boyfriend had sent me. after that message he told me he liked me and that he has for a really long time. the problem is that his girlfriend is my best friend and my boyfriend is his bestfriend. they have a baby together also. well one day when he was out my best friend invited me over to her house.. they both live together. so i went over and i was texting her boyfriend while i was there. he told me he wanted to kiss me and he asked if he could whenever his girlfriend left the room.. i said sure.. when he got home my best friend was in the restroom so she told me to answer the door. and well... we kissed.. i know its so bad but it felt so right. after that time we keep text messaging and we have done things after that.. i dont know what to do because he is about to get married with her.. i care about my best friend alot and i love my boyfriend to death but this guy just completes everything for me. he tells me loves me and wishes his gf was more like me.. what should i do? i dont want to hurt my friend or my boyfriend but yet i can't stop liking him and he feels the same.. someone please help..

Just here NoHelp

[QUOTE=susy280] the problem is that his girlfriend is my best friend and my boyfriend is his best friend. They have a baby together also. QUOTE]

Yep she's said baby

Have to spread the rep.

Yesterday the chocolate vs strawberry
Then the baby
Then the marriage

Kids grow up TOO fast!!

If he cheats on her, he'd cheat on you. Sounds like he and maybe even you, have a problem with commitment. Maybe you deserve each other.

Yeah switch boyfriends and then he can find somebody else to cheat with.
That is the way it usually works.
Well not the switching bf's ---but sometimes it happens
But I'd guess you would lose the two friends in the meantime

What's this world coming to, is this what we have to look forward to, this is the future generation? Honestly, were can I find a cheap cabin in the woods?

They don't even teach the kids good sex ed anymore I can't even tell you how many kids [15 year olds] I've told to go to their doctors on this site because they think that they are pregnant its rediclous

You are such a liar, and he is a lying cheat. If you were concerned for others, you wouldn't be doing, what your doing. If you weren't doing, what your doing you, would be telling your friend, what a lying cheat he is. But have heart, when they get married, you can STILL cheat with him, and be complete. And still babysit.

Girl, you and this guy are a mess. He does not need to get married and I feel bad for your girl friend. She is about to marry one cheater and has another one for a friend.
Your selfishness has messed with your friend, this baby and your boyfriend. What you really need to do is come clean. Let her know what kind of creep she is about to marry and what kind of person she trusted as a friend. Best friends don't do this to each other.
All of you guys are immature. Too immature for relationships let alone marriage and there is a baby in the midst of this mess.
Pitiful!

You are plane and simply humpy.
How could u do that to your best friend.
And they have a child.
And ye decided to start while she was in the toilet.
That's very nice of ye.

There are two of ye in it but to me he is just using you to have one last fling before he gets married... he obviously has no respect for his girlfriend and to me you have none for your boyfriend... all you had to do was say no when he made advances to you... just imagine how you would feel if the roles were reversed and you had set up home with your boyfriend and your friend was seeing him behind your back...

Hon, she is not your best friend. You may be hers, but she is not yours. No honest person would do this to their best friend... And you know what? Once this all gets out (because it WILL get out) you will realize what you've lost. Hopefully, you'll have learned your lesson and tried to repair what you could in your relationships - with your boyfriend, your "best friend," and her boyfriend.

No, its not normal and no, its not all right... you must stop the madness. You're setting yourself up for heartbreak, pain, and the loss of the "most special people in your life."

Good luck - I really hope you do the right thing.

The toughest question here is "Who to feel the most sorry for?"

The boyfriend isn't around most of the time, so he doesn't have a clue. This is going to hit him completely blind... a bolt from the blue.

The fiancée is the leading candidate. She has a kid to deal with and she is about to marry a thrill seeker who would probably be boffing anyone available any time she is out of earshot. That marriage has great potential. I know a guy like Romeo... a friend actually. He began cheating on his first wife while they were engaged and, according to one of his stories, managed to snag some extra stuff while on honeymoon. She was not pregnant when they were married. He continued doing that sort of thing through maybe a hundred or so women until she finally threw him out after they had been married for almost 20 years. They had two kids. Hearing him tell stories was/is a lot like watching a car wreck. The wife's life may not be THE most miserable life one can live, but it has to be close.

The next candidate is the coming child. What is life going to be like for him/her with a father that he/she might catch in the act with Susy280 in a couple of years? Won't that be pretty.

Susy is a candidate. She is so in need of attention and so lacking in judgment that she is willing to scre* her best friend's fiancée almost with her in the next room... and she is asking us if it is OK!

Please! These posts crack me up. Are we sure they are real?

Please! These posts crack me up. Are we sure they are real?
I don't know how real some of these posts are but they got "general hospital" and the "edge of night" beat.

I don't know how real some of these posts are but the got "general hospital" and the "edge of night" beat.
You got that right. Prime-Time Soap Opera

I think it's time someone jumps in and says it...



JER-RY JER-RY JER-RY!!

What i think is weird is that this all started over a text message. it was a silly forward message that my bestfriends boyfriend had sent me. after that message he told me he liked me and that he has for a really long time. the problem is that his girlfriend is my best friend and my boyfriend is his bestfriend. they have a baby together also. well one day when he was out my best friend invited me over to her house.. they both live together. so i went over and i was texting her boyfriend while i was there. he told me he wanted to kiss me and he asked if he could whenever his girlfriend left the room.. i said sure.. when he got home my best friend was in the restroom so she told me to answer the door. and well... we kissed.. i know its so bad but it felt so right. after that time we keep text messaging and we have done things after that.. i dont know what to do because he is about to get married with her.. i care about my best friend alot and i love my boyfriend to death but this guy just completes everything for me. he tells me loves me and wishes his gf was more like me.. what should i do? i dont want to hurt my friend or my boyfriend but yet i can't stop liking him and he feels the same.. someone please help..




ok i understand everything that everyone is telling me... im going to stop... but i dont understand why everyone is just blaming this on me. im not the only one involved in this situation. i didnt start anything.. he did.. i know this is all wrong.. i know he has a baby... i know she is my best friend... but this is not just my fault.. and yes they are not really old enough to get married.. all three of us are only 18. the baby is 1 1/2 years old and i really dont understand how this is just "my fault" but i really do know that what i am doing is wrong. im going to stop. i have to stop. this is hurting me as much as it should be hurting him and as much as it would hurt her. she trusts him and she trusts me and even though ive already done enough to hurt her... i will stop.. no more contact with him...
OK I haven't talked to him in 3 days... I don't understand still why you guys are just blaming all this on me. What about the other blog where the lady was messing with a married man and he has two kids and she knows the wife? You guys aren't as harsh to her as you guys are to me. I know what I am doing is wrong. What me and him are doing is wrong. I'm not asking you guys if its OK I know its not I just need help getting over him...

He did not do anything you did not let him do, and this girl is your best friend. You could have stopped this from the first text mess and you chose not to. No, you are not the only one to blame, this guy is pure scum, but your friendship with this girl should have prevented you from messing with him.
You want to get over him? Tell him to leave you alone and then you stay out of both of their lives.

You shouldn't need help getting over him, you should never have gotten in to him in the first place, you had no right to. That's the problem. You are screwing around with your supposedly best friends soon to be husband, while she's in the other room. I don't only blame you, get him to post and I'll give him a piece of my mind as well. Unfortunately you get to take all the flack because you're here, he isn't.

Just stop doing this, it's wrong, I don't think I can say that enough.

I agree with altenwegs last comment [cant agree in comment box agreed with you to many times lol] but you get him on hear hun I'm really sure A lot of people have LOTS to say to him. We no its not just your fault but you had the ball in your court when he texed you,you either ignore him or you get in to this mess you've gotten in to its your own fault

[[[[[you need to give your head awobble and get back to reality and stay the hell away from your so called best friend/baby and her cheating botfriend]]]]]

I too would like to see him on here... but you know what , there's no chance.
Anyone who does what he has done , wouldn't have the balls.

Susy , I'd like you to show him this.

GREAT IDEA!! Friends4u178
Show him all this,dout she will

What she really needs to do is stay away from him the girlfriend and the baby. No contact whatsoever. There has been enough damage done.

Well I completely ended things with this guy. I told him that I couldn't do this anymore. Ive already hurt to many people that I should have never hurt in the first place. I tried telling him about this website to come on here and see what everyone has told me but he chooses not to. He knows already what we both did was wrong. He knws it never should have happened and everything was a mistake and I understand that. There is nothing for me to get hurt about because I wasn't in a relationship with him in the first place. With my best friend on the other hand... it sucks... I really don't want to tell her anything. I just want to forget that all of this ever happened. She is getting married tomorrow and she is very excited about it. I am happy for her too. Even though her husband-to-be is a cheat and her best friend which is me is stupid, I don't want to ruin this day for her. I know I should tell her, and that would be for the best, but I can't seem to come out with it.. so I think it is better if we leave things the way they are and I just don't talk to him anymore. I hurt myself so bad through all this. And now I understand the wrong that I did. I was stupid. We both were being immature. But we both have come to realize that all this was wrong. And we both need to continue with our own lives... without each other... the way it should have been since the first day. I was starting to care about him and I know that is bad and so wrong, but he is not mine. I have my own boyfriend to worry about. I know it sucks but one day I will have to come out with the truth. But for now, I don't think the time is right. I don't know what all you guys think about this...

Do you guys think I'm doing the right thing now? That's kind of a stupid question to ask, but I just want to get your insight on this now.

You can't take it back... but you CAN STOP IT

Ok, I'm not blaming you for what happened. But I will say this: What you're doing is wrong, indeed. I suggest you tell both your best friend and your boyfriend (if you're still together) what you've done. I won't lie, it'll probably kill them inside and you may lose both a boyfriend and a friend, but its better to be truthful now than to lie and for them to find out later. Believe me when I tell you, cheaters never prosper. You said that the kiss "felt right". Well, I don't know how long you two have been seeing each other but from what you've posted it sounds like its only been a short time. I suggest you keep as far away from your friends boyfriend so you can lose those feelings for him. Its not right. I hope I've helped.

Good for you. Now learn form this and be care ful who you mess with the next time. Don't mess with someone who belongs to someone else

Hi. Please stop this right now... and it might be best to come clean with both your friend and your boyfriend right now. I just found out that my boyfriend and my best friend hooked up over a year ago. They did it while I was passed out in the other room... actually risking me waking up and finding them. It is one of the most heartless and horrible things that has ever happened to me, and I wish that I would've found out when it originally happened. I don't understand how you can even be contemplating this... is she truly your best friend? I could never even fathom doing something like that to somebody who I even just consider a friend. It's not worth the heartache that it will cause... believe me... take advice from somebody who has been there. :(

My 2 cents. Your best friend has a right to know that she is getting into a marriage with a cheater. Once a cheater always a cheater... She might hate you for it, but better then her getting married to find out he has already cheated.

Everyone makes this mistake at least once but look at the dates before you post people! This thread is about 7 months old.

I don't think it's all your fault, I'm in a similar situation, and sometimes love is just F*ed up :(... I mean you know you have to stop, need to stop... but you don't want to stop, you have to do what's right... but don't forget about listening to your heart, I don't know about your whole situation but maybe you guys should just come out with the truth...