About 6 months ago I moved a plane ride away from all my family and friends to help find something I was missing in my life (I needed to find myself and focus on what it was I need to do with my life)
Things have seemed to be going well for me in my new surroundings. I have a job and a nice home but no friends and I find myself calling my friends more and more often.
I decided to fly home for my one’s friend’s birthday and I met an amazing guy. Oddly enough not at all the type of guy that I usually go for. We hit it off and we ended up sleeping together. I have never had a one night stand and surprised myself by doing so. The next day he called me up and we went out to a bar he was really sweet and kissed me hello and danced the night away with me. He knew I was leaving again in two days but he insisted on seeing me everyday before I left. I wanted to see him too. We stayed up all hours of the night talking, just talking. We revealed a lot about each other in such a short time.
I was really sad to be leaving him. Now that I am back at home I have talked to him a few times but now it feels like we are just friends. He even went on a date this past week with someone else.
I was already homesick to begin with and now I want to be home even more so that maybe we can be together? Am I crazy I don’t even know what his actual feelings are….any thoughts or suggestions?

Am I crazy I don't even know what his actual feelings are….any thoughts or suggestions?

You had sex, and nothing more. You didn't give yourself time for anything else, so now you have to stop having sex, to see what your really feeling. Not with him though, as he is already satisfied.

Tal is right, but I would add that you had a good time with this boy and the fact that you both knew it was only going to last 3 days probably HELPED make the time you had together so good. It was very romantic, wasn't it?

But a good deal of that freedom was because it was guaranteed to end. You should enjoy those memories for what they are, and resist trying to make it into anything other than what it is. Trying for more would most likely just spoil the great memory you have of it.

Keep it the way it was. Remember fondly, meet some new people in your new place, and resist the one-night stands there since they will be even harder on you than this one was because it's happening where you live.

Live and learn, hon.

Thanks for the advise, I am going to take it to heart and try and get these feelings out of my system... It doesn't help however that I am still not happy in my new environment. Still homesick and want to go home even if I never see this guy again. I just don't want to make a hasty decision...

Thanks for the advise, i am going to take it to heart and try and get these feelings out of my system...It doesn't help however that i am still not happy in my new enviroment. Still homesick and want to go home even if i never see this guy again. I just don't want to make a hasty decision...
You are right, you don't want to be hasty. Even your new place of living might be an awesome life waiting to happen but the time you spend looking over your shoulder keeps you distracted enough that you miss it. That would be even sadder.

Eyes forward... full joy ahead.