Since December I've been seeing this guy. For about the first month we were hot and heavy. We talked all day, everyday about everything. It was like we couldn't get enough of each other. Naturally, I started to really like him and I saw myself falling for him and he said that he was starting to feel the same way. But then, he started to back off, saying that I scare him because he felt I was pushing a relationship on him. He's says that he's not ready for a relationship just yet, to give him time. It's been a few months now, and in my head it's been long enough for someone to figure out if they want to be with someone or not. We even go on vacations together! We are suppose to go to Canada in a month and I feel like telling him that if he doesn't know by then, then I am done. It's taking an emotional toll somewhat because it makes me feel as if I'm not good enough for him. We've talked about it and he says that he really likes me and he doesn't want me to give up. I don't know what to do.

Well at the end of the day you have to do what's makes you feel good and what's best for yourself..

I'm kind of in the same boat me being the boy I'm working hard here and I want to be with her just work won't allow me.

I'm sure he is just nervous you can either chose to wait for me him or as you said if your sick of waiting then end it with him

Its really up to you on this one.

Good Luck

He wants to back off, then let him, and continue what you were doing before you met him. Be less available, and be busy enjoying your own happy life. After 4 months your barely friends honestly, and should be still having fun, not wondering what the next step is. No ultimatuim needed, just slow down, and let each other catch your breathes for a minute. You may be more invested, and he may be overwhelmed.