missffd
Mar 16, 2008, 12:37 PM
Hi everyone
I need some help please. 3 years ago, when I was in college, I met this guy. We hit it off and I was attracted to him but I knew things could never work out because we are different religions and we and both of our families are quite staunch in our religion and neither of us could convert or marry out of our religion. We became good friends, but eventually found ourselves falling in love.
Longgg story cut short, I was thinking with my heart: I wanted to be with him no matter what, but he was the strong one, thinking with his head and made it clear that even though he loved me, we could never be together and therefore should move on. However, we did have many many moments of weakness where we got together, which I didn't have the strength to stop. I couldn't get over him, I was miserable for 2 years, cried almost everyday, picked up weight, couldn't study, slept till 11 everyday, and was just in general bad condition.
Anyway, the last time we got together was last year June and since then, I told myself that I need to move on. I got a fantastic job, new hobbies, lost weight & counted my blessings every day.
Problem: I still can't stop thinking about him, nothing seems worth it without him there. I've met so many guys, but I can't seem to be attracted to anyone, whereas I never had a problem with attraction before I met him. I dream about him so often, even though I never see or speak to him. I try not to think about him, or only think about his bad traits, but he's always on my mind. A few weeks ago, I heard that he's getting married in December :(:(:(
I'm happy that he's happy, but my selfish side is saying: I can't believe I'm not going to be spending the rest of my life with him.
How do I stop missing him so much?? My time with him was the most wonderful in my life. I'm afraid I'll never feel that way about someone again. How do I stop pining?
Thanks in advance to anyone who helps me!
I need some help please. 3 years ago, when I was in college, I met this guy. We hit it off and I was attracted to him but I knew things could never work out because we are different religions and we and both of our families are quite staunch in our religion and neither of us could convert or marry out of our religion. We became good friends, but eventually found ourselves falling in love.
Longgg story cut short, I was thinking with my heart: I wanted to be with him no matter what, but he was the strong one, thinking with his head and made it clear that even though he loved me, we could never be together and therefore should move on. However, we did have many many moments of weakness where we got together, which I didn't have the strength to stop. I couldn't get over him, I was miserable for 2 years, cried almost everyday, picked up weight, couldn't study, slept till 11 everyday, and was just in general bad condition.
Anyway, the last time we got together was last year June and since then, I told myself that I need to move on. I got a fantastic job, new hobbies, lost weight & counted my blessings every day.
Problem: I still can't stop thinking about him, nothing seems worth it without him there. I've met so many guys, but I can't seem to be attracted to anyone, whereas I never had a problem with attraction before I met him. I dream about him so often, even though I never see or speak to him. I try not to think about him, or only think about his bad traits, but he's always on my mind. A few weeks ago, I heard that he's getting married in December :(:(:(
I'm happy that he's happy, but my selfish side is saying: I can't believe I'm not going to be spending the rest of my life with him.
How do I stop missing him so much?? My time with him was the most wonderful in my life. I'm afraid I'll never feel that way about someone again. How do I stop pining?
Thanks in advance to anyone who helps me!