My roommate and I were domestic partners for 9 months living together in an apartment. He was not on the lease and never signed it and I did. We split up and he took some of my things and left without any notice and has not given any money toward march rent. I changed the locks on the doors with the permission of the landlord. My former partner/roomate now shows up and demands that he be able to get some clothes for work. The clothes were mostly mine that iw ould let him wear. He says I have to let him in the apartment to get things or he will call the cops and they will do it. He is taking my things I have worked hard for and I can not handle this. Do I have to let him in the apartment?

Gather up what is his and put them all in one spot
Make a list of the things you want back and tell him he will get his stuff at the time that he hands you the stuff he took. Have a witness or two there when he comes to help if he tries to pull anything.

No you do not have to let him in the apartment without him having a police escort to make sure there is no trouble.
I think they give 10 to 15 minutes for him to gather up his stuff. If you have everything confined to one spot or one room then it can help cut down on him wandering through the apartment trying to claim anything he wants.
He might try to by saying his "whatever'' is not with everything else and he wants to find it.

Gather up what is his and put them all in one spot
Make a list of the things you want back and tell him he will get his stuff at the time that he hands you the stuff he took. Have a witness or two there when he comes to help if he tries to pull anything.

No you do not have to let him in the apartment without him having a police escort to make sure there is no trouble.
I think they give 10 to 15 minutes for him to gather up his stuff. If you have everything confined to one spot or one room then it can help cut down on him wandering through the apartment trying to claim anything he wants.
He might try to by saying his "whatever'' is not with everything else and he wants to find it.


I'm not 100% positive but unless the roommate took all his belongings, stated he would never be back (and maybe then it's your word against his), he can't be locked out, no matter what the landlord says. The roommate would have to be evicted. He obviously was paying rent and so he has to be evicted.

The Police are not going to be terribly interested in this, at least in my area, without a Court Order or some other legal document stating who has possession and who does not. They aren't going to stand there in what appears to be the legal residence of two people and divide up the property.

After he's evicted, sure, they'll get involved but not now. Maybe a friend can be there, I don't know who is interested in getting involved. If your roommate just wants his "stuff" and then he'll go peacefully, look for witnesses to the property switch.

I think you have locked him out and are not entitled to March rent.

I'm sure you'll both end up in Small Claims Court.

Yeah true. I was thinking along the lines of him being okay with not living there and just wanting his stuff back.

In my state if you are fighting and want to get your stuff back they do do the 10 to 20 minute escort.

I was thinking of the tell him he will get his stuff at the time that he hands you the stuff to give a little leverage against his threats.