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Ishkabog
Mar 11, 2008, 10:11 PM
I just had sex for the first time, it was unprotected, but we only really did it for not even 2 minutes.. he was no where near ejeculation or an orgasm, every time he would pull out his penis was dry, there might have been a chance that he had a little discharge. About 2 - 3 hours before we had sex he had cummed and then went to the washroom. What are the chances of me being pregnant ?:confused:

ChihuahuaMomma
Mar 11, 2008, 10:31 PM
I would say fairly close to 0.

belsammael
Mar 12, 2008, 12:57 AM
From the previous ejaculation: no chance, once exposed to air, seed/semen tends to die off very quickly.

And if he didn't have any precum inside you either.. well I'd say chances are very small...

Be careful next time, of course. :) - and hope the sex was okay other than that worry. ;)

kp2171
Mar 12, 2008, 05:47 AM
Its one thing to want to make someone feel better about their circumstances... its another to provide incorrect or incomplete information that might lead them to a pattern of unsafe sexual behavior. "no chance" and "close to 0" are the reasons I "reddied" the above posts, as this gives a false sense of safety that is not factually supported in these circumstances (esp with his prior ejaculation). If we were talking about coloring hair or skin care... itd be one thing... this is about pregnancy. Not a lot of room for incomplete or incorrect info.

The warmer and moister the environment, the longer sperm can be viable, though under most circumstances this mean a few hours at best, and commonly minutes on the short side. Its true that on clothing, sheets, etc they should dry quickly and not be of concern. If he cleaned himself off, most external sperm were probably, but not definitely, not viable, especially if "dried" out. Just don't run with the notion that you are "safe" if it was exposed to air. Semen is sensitive to air exposure, and viability decreases quickly in time, but you should not assume nonviable with a few hours, and use this assumption to propagate bad sexual practices.

The real problem here is that he came a few hours before... sperm can survive in his urethra, that warm, moist environment I mentioned, for some time. This is what you should be more concerned about. The good news would be if he urinated between the time he came before and when you had sex, and it's a common sensation for a man to need to urinate after sex. If he didn't urinate, then residual, viable sperm were likely in his urethra and could have been transferred. But visually believing (I didn't see any moisture or wetness) that there wasn't anything in the urethra is just not reliable... how can you know what might have been present in the urethra and then passed to you? You don't.

Knowing this, the next question is where are you in your cycle? Are you at your most fertile period or not? Do you know when this is?

So several things here.

Never assume because he went to the washroom after ejaculation that he is "clean" of viable sperm.

Second, use birth control. While use of birth control isn't 100% effective, with some of the more common forms commonly showing 1-5% failure rate, its better than what you are doing now. And making the man wear a condom can help prevent the risk of STDs. Abstaining is your only "guarantee" about pregnant... otherwise be smarter about your sexual practices.

Third, know your fertility cycle. You can track when you expect to be fertile, though even this can vary some. Knowing your cycle and when you are most fertile in combination with birth control is the best way to avoid this kind of situation.

I'm not scolding you. Your body, your choices. The more you educate yourself, the less likely you'll end up in this spot you are in... unsure, scared, and at risk of an unwanted pregnancy.

Synnen
Mar 12, 2008, 06:49 AM
I have to agree with KP here. Having sex, for any length of time, without protection means that there is a possibility of getting pregnant. Even protection doesn't always work--I got pregnant using the pill, a condom, and a spermicide.

I'm not telling you to panic--but I AM telling you that if you don't want to get pregnant, then you need to use reasonable precautions. Use a condom. Get on birth control. Don't depend on a guy washing up, or pulling out on time.

Pre-ejaculate is pretty much seeping out of a guy once he has an erection. Pre-ejaculate is swimming with little spermies.

I'd like to know, though, why he was pulling a dry penis out? YOU should have been wet.

As far as your chances of getting pregnant? I don't know. You haven't given enough information about your cycle for me to calculate that.

Let's put it this way though: If you really do NOT want to get pregnant any given month, your chances of GETTING pregnant seem to automatically jump higher. If you WANT to get pregnant any given month, your chances seem to automatically be lower. Notice the word "seem" there. Is there a chance you're pregnant? Absolutely. You get to play the waiting game now, to see if your period comes on time or not, and that game is absolutely no fun. Are your chances of getting pregnant high? No idea, since I don't know where in your cycle you were when this happened.

Get on some birth control, and MAKE him wear a condom.

J_9
Mar 12, 2008, 02:12 PM
I'm not going to give a double whammy to the first two posts. KP took care of that for me, but please re-read what he posted. He is factually correct. Sorry KP, got to spread the love.

Preejaculation begins to happen when the penis becomes erect, it is a lubricant that lubricates the urethra prior to ejaculation and the male never knows it is happening, and it does contain sperm. Much like us women when we become aroused and our vaginal canals become lubricated.

It is uncontrollable and we aren't aware of it happening initially.

So, I don't mean to scare you, but I deliver babies on a quite regular basis to women who used the withdrawal method, much as you did.

Please if you are not ready to be a parent, please use protection. Once sperm is in the vagina it can live for up to 5 days. Which really means you can actually become pregnant 5 days after having sex, it takes about 3 days for the sperm to travel up the vaginal canal, through the uterus and up the fallopian tubes where the egg is fertilized.

ChihuahuaMomma
Mar 12, 2008, 07:55 PM
RETRACTION:

I was incorrect, and thank you everyone for pointing it out and leading this young lady in the right direction with you information.

OP, don't listen to me. I'm dumb. If I wasn't on Birthcontrol, I'd probably be pregnant already. Ha.