After an adventure with some buddies the other night, I found myself in need of gas, so after dropping the boys off I headed to the gas station and I ran into an old acquaintance of mine. We knew each other from church 3 years back. Anyway I pulled up to the gas thingy and she pulled up right next to me, we were talking while pumping and it was a nice little conversation.

I used to have a thing for her and I thought she did too, but when I started dating my ex I never really saw (laura) old acquaintance again, till tonight. She is adorable and I always thought she was cool, and when we used to talk it would sometimes get a little deep, so I kind of liked her. I used to crack jokes to my ex about how I should have chosen laura. It was total sarcasm of course, but if I hadn’t dated my ex, then I think I would have tried a little harder for laura.

Anyway, when her friend (guy friend, possibly boyfriend?) was done pumping she said they were leaving, gave me a hug and she was gone... as soon as I sat back in the car, I thought to myself "damn, should have gotten her number" or at least something. Since then (4 days ago) I can't get her out of my head and I haven’t thought about her at all until now. I want to contact her somehow but I don’t have her number and I don’t want to look through a phone book because I think that would be kind of stalker-ish. And she doesn’t have a Facebook or a myspace… so am I stuck? Do I just wait for another “by-chance” run-in with her? And if I were to contact her, I don’t want to send the wrong creepy message. Meh, that’s life I guess.

I don't think there is anything wrong with trying to find her phone number and giving her a call. Just be up front and tell her that you're not sure if she's seeing anyone or not... and see where it goes. If she's seeing someone she will probably be flattered and no harm, no foul. If she's not seeing anyone she could be on the same wave length and hoping you will contact her and she'll be thrilled that you were resouceful enough to make it happen. One call does not make a stalker unless there's some kind of weird past or something... in which case let it go and forget about her.
Just my opinion...

No weird past at all, thanks for the advice

Darlin, looking in the phone book for her number isn't stalker-ish... its what I did in high school when I wanted to call a guy... PLEASE don't say that makes me old... I'm almost 30, but not yet! LOL! I didn't have myspace or Facebook in school and did just fine... ;)

Go for it! Its not stalker-ie, you have a history with her and would like to see if you have a potential future! That's cool! And in no way weird.

Let us know! :)

Almost 30! Goodness, and I freaked out about turning 21... haha j/k

Thanks for the advice, what do I have to lose anyway? And the worst that could happen is an awkward conversation or rejection... I'm all too familiar with rejection... I guess I'm just afraid of seeming like a creep.

Maybe its time you visit your old church again :)

Maybe its time you visit your old church again :)

I've been trying out other churches in my area, not only will I avoid my ex's family, that is so integrated into the church... so I won't have to listen to my ex's dad tell me "thats too bad about you and my daughter West, i really like you" and my ex's mother telling me what my ex has been up too.

The old acquaintance doesn't go that church anymore either, and I like the new church I've been going too...

I would look her number up in the phone book. Since you guys know each other and have a history of being friends, I don't see anything wrong with it. If you're just calling to see if she is single and possibly interested, then I think that's OK. Do you know any of her friends or co workers or anything? Is there anyone you could ask to see if she is single or not?