I a lecturer (female)at a college I have a major crush on one of the lecturer(MALE)AT THE COLLEGE. I am certain that he knows although I hope he do not know. What do I do? I think he has a kid and a girlfriend. Do I let him know I have a crush on him? Won't that ruin our friendship?:confused:

Do your research hunnie, find out info from other people before you make a scene.

do your research hunnie, find out info from other people before you make a scene.

Excatly what research should be done?

Find out from people who know him, have a casual conversation with him ask him if he has any exciting plans for the weekend. Anything to find out info

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find out from people who know him, have a casual conversation with him ask him if he has any exciting plans for the weekend. anything to find out info
:o I am sort of a shy person I just can't come out and ask him about his weekend. We text occasional to each other cell phones but nothing personal it either to as a question or so. Well for my birthday he give me a gift well I have only known him for approximately 4 months was it not kind of strange he giving me a gift? Does he know maybe that I like him? I thank him for his gift telling him it was a sweet idea was I to mushy? I am babbling here :) what you think should be my next move ? Just leave things as they are or let him know?:confused:

If he has a kid and g/f, wouldn't that be like cheating? What purpose can letting him know anything, accomplish if he is off limits.

If he has a kid and g/f, wouldn't that be like cheating?? What purpose can letting him know anything, accomplish if he is off limits.
:( I did not say I want to be with him . I just thought letting him know will ease some of my awkward times and uncomfortable situations... I can be wrong am no expert in these things. I know he is off limits but at times it just don't seem so. Why will he give me a gift if ? Can it be that he likes me to?

If he has someone, then common sense says he may want to cheat with you. Do you think that's appropriate?