Hello everybody.. I got a problem.. I don't understand how to explain but I am trying hope you uderstand it.. a guy I used to know since 2 year... he loves me a lot but he is lose temperd guy he get hyper in small things he get rude with me.. but I don't know why am I arracted to this guy.. he say he loves my too much can't lived without me .and many more thing like this.. so last Friday we had fight in fact he shouted at me very badly.. he always says me that he give me all his time even he don't sleep he talk to me blah blah.. last Friday everything waz going fine.. at noon he called me iwaz not in the room my cell waz on vibration so I conld not hear that he waz calling.. he called 5 tyms I said sorry to him about this.. and after that he waz very rude then I just got hyperd and said it is not my fault I did not heard at all that you were calling stop getting rude.. oh GOD after this he said fyn stop why did you shouted at me how dare you shouted at me.. who are you thts that.. again I said sorry to him.. thts then he said OK from now I am not going to call you again if you wants to call me call I am not ever going to call u... so at night I called him he waz like again in angry mood again talking rudly... so again I waz like OK sorry finish relax this that.. but no he waz not getting OK.. then I said oh thts you who's love like hell and can't live without me and giving me your tym... this thingi told and he OH MY GOD... SHOUTED SHOUTED bad names and like too much hurting thing.. he said your nufin to me from now you are this that don't.. he said his ex waz good then me who listens him and don't even say anything to.. him .then he off the fone and said go away don't ever call me again... am so worred did I said wrong to him or I hurted him... :mad:

There is something called verbal abuse. My suggestion would be to work on communication. Without commuincation you will not go very far. There is a difference in "couple fighting" and in "we just dont click" fighting and it looks like the two of you just don't click. Communicate, both of you need to not jump to conclusions and start shouting at the other. If he is not willing to communicate, and you two are not willing to work on your stubbornness or anger, then there's no point.

U mean I should contact him.. after this... all... calling bad names and many things.. without listing or understanding me... is it my mistake... becuse it is like 14 days he did not contact me after that all...

No it's not your fault. You two just seem like quick tempered people, especially him. It seems like you got tired of hearing his yelling and ill tempered attitude. Maybe you should take this time and take a break and look else where or see if you're happier without him. If you still want to be with him, then call him and see if he's willing to work on communication and the relationship.

Yeah becca your rite.. but what I have told him that was not what I actually wanted him to say he took me wrong and shouted like monster... huh... he even did not listen to that time.. he told me don't call me again and now am scared to call him.. but I miss him..

It is NOT YOUR FAULT. He is a abuser. At the same time. You keep trying to contact him is going to make things worse.

I honestly do not think you should be with this person at all. Your innocent and trustworthy and this person was taking advantage of you.

NEVER EVER EVER CALL HIM AGAIN. This is important. You need to stay AWAY from this person.

You might miss him but his actions are louder then words. He only wants to control you and make you scared of him. He is controlling beyond means and one day his temper might kill you? Is that what you want?

So please do yourself a huge favour. Let go of this mean nasty person. He has lots of issues that has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.

Also I personally feel that your not ready to be in any relationship either. You need to know that it is okay to speak up. It is okay to miss calls, it is okay to be your own person, it is okay to do your own things.

Do as he wants, and never contact him again. What do you want with this abuse? That ain't love at all, and he has done you a big favor. Leave him and his issues alone.