I met a guy online and after a few months we started chatting in pm then we took it to the phone. We were talking to each other all the time about our dreams and our future as he lives in a different state. My best friend and I planned to take a holiday down there, anyway the holiday hasn't happened yet but he had a chance to come and visit me, which he did for 4 days in that time everything was fantastic. I couldn't have asked for a better person to be in my life. Any way he went back home and its now 2 weeks later, I haven't heard from him but his bro has told me to be patient cause this guy really loves me. Can anyone tell me how long should I be patient for cause its really hurting me not hearing from him. Oh and he won't answer my pm's, phone calls or my text messages either I'm so confused we are not teenagers he is in his 30's I'm in my 40's if anyone can help I would be much appreciative :confused:

Welcome to AMHD. Things aren't sounding so good with this fellow. Stay active with your life, taking care of yourself.

Things went well from your perspective but maybe not from his. You can't base your relationship status on what his brother said, I mean you can't.

You can't even really base it much on what a guy says, they often say one thing and do another. What you CAN base it on is what he DOES. Men speak most clearly with their actions. Go with that.

Sounds to me like he's rethinking and using the "no contact" technique until then, which is pretty smart for him, it keeps him from getting any further emotionally attached if he decides not to pursue.

That's hard to hear, bt there it is. George is right, you need to take a deep breath and get back to your life. DO NOT let this guy's disconnect turn you into a basket case. He has met you ONCE and doesn't deserve that kind of investment from you at this point.

You two are still just acquaintances, so keep your head. Resist the mistake of making this real-life stranger into more than he is at this point. Obsessissive behavior should be reserved for REAL LIFE mates you've been with 6 months or longer, OK?

Since this guy is just an electronic pen pal, lighten up. Even if the REAL LIFE stuff never pans out, you my keep your pen pal. That's something, right?

I agree that his actions speak louder than anything he could say, and would hope you don't spend any more time wondering, and making assumptions, on why he is not contacting you. He just isn't, and that's your signal to move forward with your own life. It's a very clear signal. You are more invested in him than he is you, and I hope you balance that out, by doing what makes you happy, and don't rely on his bro, for facts.