PDA

View Full Version : What to do?


funkeh
Mar 2, 2008, 04:02 PM
Ok, so I really like my best guy friend, and it's the usual, he thinks of me as just a friend and if this was it then I would already know the answer, you can't force someone to like you, but the thing is we've been out before. I went out with him at the end of last year and then we broke up, I haven't been out with anyone since and he has, but now I've started liking him again and when my friend tod him this he just said he likes me as a friend and nothing else. She also tried then telling him that if we went out before then there was obviously something there once and there could be soemthing between us again, but he just went silent and changed the subject. It's really bugging me though because I really like him and I don't know what ot do about it, I mean he's older than me, but he can act really immature at times. There is also a lot of history behind all this which would take up a lot more writing, but if anyone feels it might help them answer my question of what to do then I can do my best to write it out. Thanks in advance to anyone who tries to help me. :)

JBeaucaire
Mar 2, 2008, 10:23 PM
Anything your friend told you should be disregarded. Third party interpretations are worse than email and texts, and those are almost impossible to meter properly.

If this guy is your friend still, start doing friend things together again. Don't let people speak for you, it taints the water and may actually mess things up for you... you can't control how strong you girlfriends come on to him on your behalf. It could be very bad. Speak for yourself.

In this case, I'd leave it alone and rekindle the strongest friendship with this guy you can muster, busy doing friend things again. Watch him. What he does when you try to do this will tell you LOUD and CLEAR whether there's any possible future with you two. If he doesn't even bother responding much to your friendship overtures, then the relationship is hopeless and you haven't embarrassed yourself unnecessarily finding this out for sure.

Don't overdo it, or it's over before you've even tried.