Assalaamu alaikum,
I have very serious problem in my life,I fell in love with a hindu girl one year ago.She is studying in my college.. I am currently doing my final year B.E. and she also same but not my own class. I saw her during one group activity and very attracted over her now I can't forget her... though I know its haraam to marry a hindu girl I canot give up... I feel that I can ask her acceptance first, then if she accepts I will persuade her to become muslim and if she refuses... what can I do? Sir I am going sick due to this please answer me to decide my life within the boundaries of islaam?
How can I overcome this??
Thank you sir,
By,
Riyaaz

Dear riyaz, Loving girl is a natural thing and its true that Love is blind but its also true that you are not blind Alhumdullah.
Does she know you well? Does you know her well? Does she show interest in you ? If not then first make friendship with her and get know about her.May be she is not of your type.May be it just a crush so first find out this by knowing her well.
(Please don't believe first sight love.its actually crush not love.)
If after knowing her well you think that she is the perfect one for you and you just love her after knowing her bad habits also.Then you are in love.

Then tell her that you are interested in her,If she accept you then discuss about the Religion slowly.Show her the videos of Dr. Zakir Nayak. But hey be careful,don't hurt her on religion.Try slowly to convince her.But note one thing,her parents may be or ll leave her if she accept Islam so check all the possible bad things.May be your parent make a issue of it.
Just do one more thing,Start saying prayers regularly and Allah ll definitely give you way to overcome this.The answer is not over here.Discuss with me and I ll let you know many other things.Take Care
May Allah Bless You.

Assalam,
Zaithe I was very happy to see reply subhanallah... I don't know that girl deeply but I have been seeing her around for last one year and I feel very different that I never felt it with anybody else... of course I am not sexually attracted over her. I have kept her in my heart next to my mother.
How can I know her and proceed further we both will be in same circle only for hardly 2more months after that our college will be over... what can I proceed further?
How can I handle my parents about this.. already my mom came to know this and she asked me to forget her also... even then I tried to forget her but cant.. I never skipped prayers... please notify this.
Thanking you,
By,
Riyaz

Walikum Salam Riyaz,
Actually only seeing is not enough.People feel very different about actress also but that's not mean they love them that is only crush. Tell me one thing logically,what is the most important thing you find in her which you never find in anyone else? Or You just wildly following your heart.Love ends when the person is not able to fulfill your requirements so check your needs and her needs.I m not talking about sex I'm talking about the finding peace.What if you don't like her habits? Are you ready to change yourself?
Now come to your point:
Will she mind if you ask for friendship? At least you know this. Don't think about time, you can even contact with her after college ends,thanks to mobile and mobile companies ;).Just try to make friendship with her. Indo/Pak girls usually like boy which have respect for others,which know how to dress and intelligence. Just check what she likes? And try that she notice you.
Do something which she likes.Make good relationship with her female friends because girls usually discuss their things with their female friends.If their female friends comments good about you,then it will be easy to attract her.
When you feel that she started noticing you then just try to read her eyes.Girls show their will through their eyes and offer her friendship.But important is that you offer friendship before college ends.When she start talking with you then let me know the situation.I ll further guide you.If difficulty at any point.just ask me again.
Friendly asking you, is this first girl in your life? At the end I want to tel you one quote.
"Men always want to be a woman's first love - women like to be a mans last romance.” that mean man can't stop Loving ;) Take Care and Best of Luck

Loving is not a mistake. But think about your families too, from both sides. And don't forget, just love is not enough. Be sure with your feelings, most of the times, people confuse love with infactuation. Learn this girl better! Get to know her, and let yourself decide, if you are ready to go through anything for her

Salaam Zaithe,
Yesterday you answered me and you asked me that have I ever felt such feeling with anyone else ever before? And what exactly attracted me over that girl right?See I have been studying in co-ed right from my LKG... until I saw this girl I never felt such a closeness with anybody else...
I think you feel that I was just following her only because of external beauty... but being 100% honest, I accept she is not beautiful. Many of my friends comment that I am far better than her but for me she seems to be my own pair that allah has created from my soul... I feel very painful when I think that if she doesn't accept me according to our belief she will be in hell... I can't tolerate it.
Moreover I am a shy person and will talk with my girl classmates only if it is necessary and that girl is also of same type... so at this stage suddenly if I go and ask for friendship that I have never did ever before, then it will seem to be quite indiferrent which has no variation even I tell my love to her.. both will be shocking to her.
So I decided to do one thing zaithe, you tell me is that right or not?
Basically I am a very fantastic artist... I have drawn her in paper exactly resembling her..
Shall I go and talk everything I think of her and present this art of her own picture?
At least she will be attracted over me after seeing my creation... I feel she will understand how deeply I like her after seeing the art..
Shall I do that? Waiting for your reply..
Regards,
Riyaz

Walikum Salama Riyaz,
Its nice to know that you are a very simple and sensative guy.well as you told that you are a faintastic artist so just make at least 10 of her sketch with different styles mostly showing inoncence of her and please don't go by urslef to present this book.Dont go fast in love because she is also as you told a very simple and shy girl.The girl who are not beautiful usually against this love and boys but in their heart they really want a true and loving guy.Mostly beautiful girls are not passionate in relations as much as normal girls are.Did she know your name or did she know about you that you are in which standard and others things about u? If she know you then it ll be a plus point if not then first daily show your existence in front of her.Pass by her 2 or 3 times a day.Show her that you exist in this college.this is the strange way but for example you know a stranger who you daily see on bus stop or any where else,you don't know him or her but know her and can know him or her even you didn't talk to each other because you both see each other daily and it ll make a soft corner in your heart so first do this then show your art book to one of her friend.Dont directly go to her because shy girls usually reject without even thinking because they are afraid.so use some indirect ways to show her your art work. Do you have any friend or activity partner from her class? And please be strong.Dont fall in love,rise in love.Make yourself strengthen,Inshahullah soon you ll find a change in her behaviour.Then it ll be a right time to meet with her.But hey becareful because it very hard to tackle a shy girl but not impossible ;) Best of Luck

Salam Alaikum wa rahmatallah wa barakatou

I know it is diffiult for you because the heart knows no boundaries! But I take it you a muslim and we must follow the shariah.

Bismiallah ir Rahman ir Rahim Aoothu bilahi min Shaytan al rajim
Quran surat 5 verse 5

"This day all the good things are allowed to you and the food of those who have been given the book is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them and the chaste from among the believing women and the chaste from among those who have been given the book before you are lawful to you."

Muslims believe in all of Allah's books which are the Torah and Ingeel. With that in mind
The text is telling you the women of the book are the ones you can marry which are Christain and Jews. It is forbidden to marry another woman from a different book. In your situation your not speaking of getting married tomorrow so if you get to know her and become friends and enlighten her about Islam as long as it is within guidelines of shariah then Inshallah she becomes to love Islam and convert to Islam so you will not be taken into doing Haram act and can do what is pleasing to Allah. Insallah

Pray and make Du'a for this women because it seems she may be dear to your heart. Inshallah this works out for you.

Allah Knows Best

Where is it written that you must follow a religious law? For instance the Jews followed religious laws for 2000 years and it got them no where. The law must be written on a mans heart not in a book. That is one of the biggest problems today, people are stuck on religion not God.

Thanks,
I am not going to marry her as hindu I will make her muslim then only I will marry..
But the thing is I have told my love to her and given her my drawing of her face which would impress her.
During proposal she seemed to be very smily and positive she didn't get angry...
Moreover she asked sorry to me for making me disturbed...
I was stunned by her innocency I have written my contact in that drawing I told her to intimate her feelings...
She initially struggled to take that paper but later she took it...
But one week gone no intimation... I cannot meet her college is over...
Only allah should help me I couldn't judge what she might have felt...
Rehards,
Riyaz

Assalaam alaikum riyaz,

You must not rush into these things.
Remember she too has a family and being a Hindu she will have restrictions regarding her marriage.Her family will have a say in who she marries or whom they approve for her marriage.

Would you like to make the person you care about to be estranged from her family in your need to marry her?
And for her to become a muslim,you must remember that it is a big step and should not be only to facilitate your marriage,but because she wants to accept Islam as her way of life.


From a purely Islamic point of view-
Islam Question and Answer - A Muslim is in love with a Hindu girl and wants to marry her (http://islamqa.com/en/ref/8015/hindu%20woman)

Wa alaikum salaam

It may be better that way. The heart is like that. When you get older, you will see falling in love is common and it also passes, but when you choose to look for Allaah first, you get better, also a good wife either in dunja, or at least in akhirah.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=drNV02inzHI&NR=1