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just4u
Feb 27, 2008, 11:47 AM
Well, it goes... I know this guy from back when I was in HS... we didn't talk though I just knew who he was... recently went to a party with a friend and saw him there but I didn't think much of it. Then, I found him online and he send me a message telling me he had seen me at the party... he asked for my number and I gave it to him... he called me about 2 days later and asked me out. We went out to dinner and then took me home... 2 days later he took me to the movies, the next day we just saw each other outside his house and then 2 days later he took me to dinner again and went to his house after... in one week we saw each other 4 times and talked everyday... well, the thing is that after I left his house on Sunday he didn't call me anymore... he said he liked me... what should I do? Keep in mind that I've only talked to him for about 2 weeks... oh and we kissed 2 times!

JerseyGuy
Feb 27, 2008, 01:51 PM
It's only been three days, nothing to really worry about. Maybe things were going a little quick and he's going to give it a few more days until he sets something up again.

JBeaucaire
Feb 27, 2008, 01:59 PM
He also could have dates with other girls. You aren't exlcusive yet, nor should expect to be. Just call him, nothing melodramatic is happening here at all, so don't fiddle with your own head about it, either.

Relax.

topladyj
Feb 27, 2008, 02:18 PM
I would definitely call him. Showing that you are interested too. Ask him what he's up to on some day. If he likes you, you got to call him too. Don't rush in and have sex with him though. Especially if he may be dating around. But make an apearance and if it's there it's there and you both will know.Good luck and happy dating!

just4u
Mar 7, 2008, 10:39 AM
Well, he's been calling me everyday now and gone out with him too, he's really sweet to me... I really like this guy but some friends of his have been saying bad things about him... that he's a flirt with everyone... what should I do?

JBeaucaire
Mar 10, 2008, 02:45 PM
What grade are you two in in school? Are there group activity opportunities that are a safe starting ground?

just4u
Mar 11, 2008, 07:05 AM
Well, we're not in school and both are 24 years old.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE
Mar 11, 2008, 07:34 AM
Don't rush things as this may cause this former friend of yours to lose interest.

I know that men don't like to rush into relationships, but sex on the other hand they would... :)

just4u
Mar 11, 2008, 09:48 AM
So if I like him ( and I really do ) should I have sex with him?

JBeaucaire
Mar 11, 2008, 05:42 PM
so if i like him ( and i really do ) should i have sex with him?
OUCH. Only known a guy a few weeks and contemplating sex already. Well, I know half the world thinks that's just fine, but this forum is FULL of experience-stories outlining why so often it is simply not a good idea.

A recent poster asked when was the best time to start having sex... many interesting responses. Mine was... and still is... jump right into bed with ANY one that you're completely ready to raise kids with... today.

If you're not ready to be a parent TODAY, you really, REALLY need to reconsider the use of sex as a relational stepping stone. I know it's a commonly accepted thing, but don't MOST of the bad relationship stories you know include sex? How much easier would all those bad situations be without that added level.

Getting pregnant or getting an STD from someone you are life-committed to... that's a whole different place to be in than just casual dating, isn't it?

So, I know sex feels awesome (nature's way of making SURE you do it and make little babies), but my caution is that sex should be between two people completely ready emotionally-physically-financially to raise children. If that describes your relationship with this guy, then sure, go for it.

If not...