These days there are many women have the ability to earn more than there male counter parts. Would you be a stay at home dad? Why? And Why not?

Yes, for sure.

I would dearly love to spend a lot more time with my children.

If my husband stayed home, we would have to hire a maid. Most men do not see the little maintenance details that must be done, sometimes over and over during a day. Maybe there are few guys out there that are up to the challenge. I haven't ever met one.

I couldn't be a stay at home husband. Men are supposed to work that is in their chemical makeup. Its like telling a bird not to fly.

Men are supposed to work that is in their chemical makeup.

Any man who does not think he would work if he stayed home to raise children and keep up the household is living in a dream world. I worked harder, had to be more creative, and used more problem-solving skills as a mom at home than I ever did working for a paycheck.

I couldn't be a stay at home husband. Men are supposed to work that is in their chemical makeup. Its like telling a bird not to fly.

And women aren't? That is an extremely sexist remark. In case you haven't noticed, times have changed. Oh and comparing a man to a bird... doesn't work. Men can't fly. Humans can't fly.

I would love to be at home with my kids and take care of the house. It would be just like a stay at home mom though, you still need to allow yourself time to get out on your own and balance out your life.

I wish both my wife and I could be stay at home parents... I need to win the lottery ;-)

I took 4 months of parental leave for our little girl, went back to work then got caught in the dot-com bust - laid off. So I was home with her for another 5 months. I didn't take time for our little guy because I had contract work. I would easily be a stay-at-dad.

If my husband stayed home, we would have to hire a maid. Most men do not see the little maintenance details that must be done, sometimes over and over during the course of a day. Maybe there are few guys out there that are up to the challenge. I haven't ever met one.

This is a legit point. I quit my 9-5 a couple of years ago to stay at home with my son, as my wife's job was skyrocketting and she needed to travel a lot. Since then, I've done contract work and other work out of my home.. but been the primary caregiver when my son wasn't in pre-K.

Its been maddening and great. The days you play in the park are a dream. The days when he's a little three foot ball of angry fury, can be tough. And the point about keeping the home is real. I worked three times as long as my wife would to keep the house in remote, acceptable order. Just not wired for it. I want to do it well, but just don't seem to be as efficient. Esp with little mr chaos undoing all my good deeds behind me.

So... now being on the other side... where he's in school now and I'm not with him as much, I can say I'm glad I did it, but it wasn't always pretty. It was a blessing and it was infuriating. Mostly a blessing.

A man came home from work and found his three Children outside, still in their pajamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn all around the front yard.
The door of his wife's car was open, as was the front door to the house and there was no sign of the dog. Proceeding into the house, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against one wall. In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a Cartoon channel, and the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing. In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilt on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilt on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a Small pile of sand was spread by the back door.
He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened.
He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door.
As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls.
As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pajamas, reading a novel. She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went. He looked at her bewildered and asked, "What Happened here today?"
She again smiled and answered, "You know every day when you come home from work
and you ask me what in the world I do all day?"
"Yes," was his incredulous reply.
She answered, "Well, today I didn't do it."

Point made! Haha that was a funny one!

Syn... that's priceless

simoneaugie,

Where did that come from? So random!! Funny though...

Out of almost 300,000 members only one man was brave enough to say he would not be a stay at home dad. This is crazy because there are women out there that wouldn't allow there men to even consider staying home. The attitude is if I have to work so do you!

I could only shake my head at the stopping bird from flying comment.

If I COULD make more than my husband, AND we had kids, AND he could clean to my standards, I'd bless him for wanting to be a stay-at-home dad.

However, he has more education than I do, and has made more than twice as much as I have then entire time we've been together. I've also given up jobs to follow him in moves when he was promoted across the country--so his career always came before mine.

IF, all of a sudden, he changed his mind and wanted to be the one to cook and clean and keep house and watch kids once they're born--I'd beat him senseless. In my opinion, the decision on THAT was made long ago, when his career made it so that I've had several jobs over the last ten years--which just doesn't look good when you're trying to get hired or promoted.

I don't have a problem with stay at home dads, I think it's GREAT that there are guys out there that want to, which allows their wives to pursue a career, which, in the end, will end up with more women in higher paying jobs than currently exists.

I just think that actions within the relationship, WELL before kids are born, determine who is going to stay at home, if anyone does.

Out of almost 300,000 members only one man was brave enough to say he would not be a stay at home dad. This is crazy because there are women out there that wouldnt allow there men to even consider staying home. The attitude is if I have to work so do you!

I could only shake my head at the stopping bird from flying comment.

I didn't start it... well maybe I did but I was trying to make a point... :rolleyes:

Hell yeah I would! It's something I aspire to do one day!

(Moomin, if you're reading this, and I know you will, stop your ovaries from screaming - I said ONE DAY! He he he!)

Out of almost 300,000 members only one man was brave enough to say he would not be a stay at home dad. This is crazy because there are women out there that wouldnt allow there men to even consider staying home. The attitude is if I have to work so do you!

I take some exception to this comment "brave enough"... as if him saying he couldn't do it was a more noble thing that someone saying they would (btw... jaguarfan... I take no exception to your post, not at all. You were honest, but not "more honest" than others as I was later implied)

I quit teaching at a university, when our oldest was just entering college, after just buying a bigger home, to raise my son, while getting my income through a small business and through independent contract work. At the same time I had to do a lot of things which were not particularly easy or natural, such as the house stuff and dealing with a grumpy 2 year old. You think that was easy? Cutting a guaranteed income with a kid in college and one in diapers?

Not sure how you ask for opinions and then decide the only valid one is the guy who says he couldn't. Its true a lot of guys wouldn't want to, and its true some partners play the "if i have to go to work so do you" card... but stop making his comment out to be the only "brave" one made.

I don't get the tone here... on one hand you seem to be chiding women for not letting their men stay at home, and on the other you applaud only the guy who said he couldn't do it?

What's your angle here? Maybe I'm just reading it wrong.

Your OP was "would you be a stay at home dad... why or why not"... so I'm guessing you wanted to hear men say their wives wouldn't let them?

I thought the same thing when I read that kp.

Hell yeah I would! It's something I aspire to do one day!

(Moomin, if you're reading this, and I know you will, stop your ovaries from screaming - I said ONE DAY! He he he!)

*ovaries go insane*

One day! Hehe!
Not before for we're... Never mind!

:eek:

Sorry... I wasn't clear. I didn't mean it that way. What I kind of was expecting was a huge about of posts of guys that were for or against it and they would state the reason why?

For example... I would love to stay home watch the kids.. but the budget will not allow it.
& Me quit my job and watch the kids that is a woman's job.

I'm from a different generation and walk of life so my view may differ from lets say jaguarfan. I called him brave because trust me there are a lot of men out there who share his view yet he is the only one to post.

This question parallels another questioned I posted which was Stay home mom. I asked if the wives would abandon the career. Someone took the defensive like I'm not abandoning my career, tending to the home is my new job. The an example of answer I expected to see on that post.. was.

Yes, I would quit my job (career) in heart beat to raise the little ones. Or I wouldn't, I went to school earn my PHD and wouldn't place that on hold.

None of the answers would be right or wrong. Its just a matter of opinion.

And the bird comment... gave me a laugh it was totally sexist. Making this comment to me was either stupid or brave. I am certain there are a lot of old school men that side with him. But they don't come forward post.

This older guy at my job made this stupid statement that "NO! women could take him in a fight." Every time he came back into the office we kept naming women that we felt could beat him and he came up with the crazies responses.

I didn't mean to offend the guys and gals that responded. Everyone have valid points and I respect your input.

I think many men would move heaven and earth to be stay at home Dads. Just from what I see in the office. It's more the younger ones. Meaning... 40 ish and on down.

Me, I wish like heck I was born in the day, where a women stayed home. And all Moms stayed home.

I wore a dress and apron made apple pie and had a hot meal waiting for my hard working hubby when he got home.

Everyone sat around the dinner table said grace and talked about their day.

I don't know why, but I much rather that time.

Now my Dad, back in the day would he have wanted to stay home... even with 5 girls... yup... it would be Mom who wanted to run out the door :).

Men do so much today. They cook, clean, work help with the kids, give the kids a bath, and women do too, but that really has changed from back in the day.

I agree its complicated because we make things complicated.

I don't think its so abnormal for a guy to say "no, id rather work outside the home"... in fact, while I changed my life and work arrangements around to care for my kid as my wife's career took off, one of the hardest things was not working outside the home. Id worked a job of some sort from the time I was 12... and it was a little maddening to not work the kind of work I was used to...

So I agree its not for all guys, and even when you do it, it isn't all fun and games. Glad I did it, glad he's in school now, too.

Well it isn't all fun and games for women either.

The only reason a guy would feel strange about being a stay-at-home dad is because he knows that society puts women in the kitchen so therefore he isn't going to like it. But that can be with some dudes, not all. Some might like the fact of staying home.

I see more guys who spend more time in the kitchen and laundry room then my eyes can believe. (not mine... mind you :).

One time I had to go away for a couple of days and he called me and said you need to get home, I'm running out of pots and pans.

Um Sweetie, that machine to the left, that's a dishwasher. :)

But I honestly didn't mind.

I honestly think a lot of men are comfortable with doing and saying they do things that in the past, were "womens" jobs. It floors me a little but the more I hear it the more I am getting used to it.

A man came home from work and found his three children outside, still in their pajamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn all around the front yard.

The door of his wife's car was open, as was the front door to the house and there was no sign of the dog. Proceeding into the house, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against one wall. In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a cartoon channel, and the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing. In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door.

He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened.

He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door. As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls.

As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pajamas, reading a novel. She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went. He looked at her bewildered and asked, "What happened here today?"

She again smiled and answered, "You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world I do all day?"

"Yes," was his incredulous reply.

She answered, "Well, today I didn't do it."

You copycat, Wondergirl!

You copycat, Wondergirl!!


LMAO - I just had a change in medicine yesterday and thought it was playing tricks on me.
I I saw tat before.

LOL.

Ooops, I didn't reread the thread. Did Syn post it already?? Sorry, Syn.

No wonder it sounded so familiar. I thought it was familiar because it is so true!

I have to give a shout out to my Dad.

I read my post and I remember my Mom telling me that he scrubbed floors, changed diapers, and did all that she asked of him. I'm 44 and the youngest of 5 so that was many years ago and most weeks Dad worked 6 days a week and picked up what he could on the weekend.

My Dad was an incredible man and even though my parents were divorced, to this day Mom speaks so highly of him.

Just had to share that, because that was unusual in my Dad's day.

Love you Dad.

I agree has time has changed men and women had to adapt. Men that don't do dishes, and tend to the children are a dying breed.

People have different 'wiring' as to what drives them crazy, what they excel at, and what they are afraid of. I did want to mention that I noticed certain guys in college who kept their rooms very clean and even decorated. The color schemes were lovely. Those guys were all gay.

I believe that we are all born different. There are those men, and women who would drown in their own filth if the opposite (or same) sex suddenly disappeared from the planet. My ex is one of those. Yeah, he would save piles of laundry and dishes for me to do, he did nothing at home. He expected me to work full time, take care of the yard, oil changes and the garbage too, and I did it. Some people admire me for 'trying' for 12 years. Naah, I was just plain brainwashed.

Why do so many men seem to need a hatpin stuck in their butt?

I don't know about the color schemes and decorations. But being neat in clean doesn't make you gay. I hate when some women assume this. Men should be neat and clean, there apartment should be nice in clean. Most women that I know like clean things. What women wants to come see there boyfriends dirty apartment? If you come into a man's apartments and you see dirty dishes, dirty bathroom, cloths on the floor and no food in the frig, Run the man can't take care of himself. How can he take care of you and the future children?

Being neat and clean does not make a person gay. That's a fact. It probably means that they were raised that way and wanted to continue the tradition.

Sure, I would be a stay at home dad if that type of situation was presented to me. All of the work that I do is self-employment and a lot of it happens at my home. Therefore, it wouldn't be hard for me to be a stay at home dad and also take care of and educate my children while they were at home. I also love to cook and do dishes, by the way!