Is it wong to have an abortion when you are a 17 yr old girl, in full time education n with a threat of being kicked out of your home from your parents?

If you feel like you shouldn't get an abortion then don't, no matter what, or you will regret it later.

Another can of worms opened here.

Please sit back for a ride. You will get opinions from the Anti-Abortionists as well as the Pro-Choice people.

It will be up to you and you alone to make the final decision of whatever is best for you.

Only you can decide what is right or wrong for YOU in this situation.

If you wish to carry your child to term, and then either parent or choose adoption, there are agencies that can help you, so that you won't be living in the streets and so that you can finish your schooling.

If you choose to abort, certainly you have that right.

Whatever you decide, YOU are the one who has to live with your decision the rest of your life. Don't let anyone else bully you into something you don't want.

Cathy,

Are you the 17 year old girl? I ask this because of your other thread about death and dying where you state you are 21.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/death-dying/depression-death-188513.html


im going to be 21 this july,

You are going to get swamped with advice here. You will be yelled at by vehement anti-abortionists who will try to intimidate you with all sort of horror stories about murdering babies. You will probably also hear from Pro-Choice people who strongly believe its totally up to you.

But it really comes down to how YOU feel. The basic controversary with abortion is when life begins. Many people feel that life begins at conception including most christians. For them abortion is murder. Other people believe that life does not begin until birth. And therefore abortion is not murder. United States law says that it is legal up to a certain point in your pregnancy.

But the decision is up to you. None of us can tell you what's right for you. We can only present our view of the arguments pro and con and then YOU have to make the decision. I would strongly suggest that you speak to advisors on both sides of the issue before making a decision. You need to consider yourself and your future as well as the child's. You need to take into account what you can offer the child and how it will affect you. You need to consider other options, such as adoption. You need to consider the father's desires and what support he will provide.

But the bottomline is its still a decision only you can make. But it may prove to be one of the most important you will ever make, so you need to consider it very carefully.

Feel free to ask any specific questions you think will help you make your decision.

I will even be nice ( for a bit anyway) is it legal for a 17 year old to get an abortion without her parents permission.

It is not right for your parents to threaten to kick you out either way, you are their child and they should love and accept you no matter what you decide.

Abortion in and to itself is wrong unless your life or there is seroius medical issues

I think you have to look in your heart and decide what you think is right for you. You should learn about all your options first. Don't abort just because your parents have threatened to kick you out. They can't force you to get an abortion. That is your decision and yours alone. If you think an abortion is what you want, a good place to start is Planned Parenthood.

If you don't want an abortion there are other options out there. There are also organizations that will help you finish school while pregnant. Your parents have to support you until you are 18, so they can't legally kick you out for being pregnant. But if they try to, there are organizations that will help you. I guess what I'm saying is that the decision has to be made on what you believe about abortion, not the circumstances. You have to be absolutely sure or you may regret your decision, whatever it is. Talking to a counselor can probably help you right now. Your family doctor would be a good person to talk to also.

Personally, I believe that abortion is wrong except under certain circumstances, like when the mother's life is in danger and such. But that is just my personal belief. What is more important is what you believe. Talking to your doctor, a counselor, or even your religious leader (if that applies to you) can help you figure out what you want, but the final decision is yours and yours alone.

Firstly I had my first child at 17 would not swap him for the world it was a struggle but I managed and a great kid he has trned out to be.
But I had family support an abortion never crossed my mind I did not believe in them then.
Times change and I had a friend who got pregnant no money boyfriend or family to turn to my veiws changed.
Is what I am trying to say is do what is best for you do not listen to other people others may sway you from what you really want to do.
But think this through carefully and do what's best for you

I think I have learned to keep my cool from my last posts.

Cathy008,

Though I believe in pro life, you should be given all possible options before deciding abortion. It sounds like a tough decision to make, so think about what will be right and healthy for you. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you do!

Only you can decide what is right or wrong for YOU in this situation.

If you wish to carry your child to term, and then either parent or choose adoption, there are agencies that can help you, so that you won't be living in the streets and so that you can finish your schooling.

If you choose to abort, certainly you have that right.

Whatever you decide, YOU are the one who has to live with your decision the rest of your life. Don't let anyone else bully you into something you don't want.

Synnen, wanted to agree but had to spread some reputation.

The only thing I would add is that you should also talk to the father of the child about this. Not that he has a right to make this decision for you, after all it is your body, but maybe he could help out if you do decide to keep this child or at least carry it to term and give it up.

As Synnen said, don't let anyone else force you to do something that you don't want to do.

You are the one who has to live with whatever decision you make so take the time to come to a decision that you can live with for the rest of you life.

Good luck to you.

I keep looking at your avatar and want to squeeze it!