My ex and I broke up, cause he wants to be with a nasty girl.:mad: I never did him nothing wrong.:confused: I really love and care about him, now we not together worry about him. I just want him back what shall I do.:confused:

You want him back? Well, go be a nastier girl.

In all seriousness, there is not much you can do. He wishes to have a new girl friend, someone who is serves his sexual needs better?? If that is the reason.

But if he wishes to be with a “nastier girl” then odds are he won't be coming back to you.

I suggest you try to get over it and move on.

What about her makes her so nasty?:cool:

Hi, lady la,
I assume you are talking about sex, or something else you don't do!
Please don't start doing whatever it is, just on his account, or for him. You will, eventually, meet someone who respects you, cares, and is just right for you. It's sometimes hard to get over someone, but talking with other boys, meeting new ones, is the fastest and the best way.
You will meet someone just for you! I do wish you the best of luck.

People do not always work out together. Breaking up is hard and we do miss the other person. But as mentioned, he he does not respect you and want you for who you are, then the relationship will never work.

You really did not give enough to fully understand what the problem is, but really it will just take time, move on

You sound quite young (pardon me if I am wrong) and you will encounter plenty of boyfriiends a long the way.

This guy really does not sound like the one for you. If he really wanted to be with you he would not have left you for this other girl.

So instead of wasting your efforts on trying to get him back, concentrate your efforts on yourself. You will meet someone eventually that will respect you and like you for who you are.
Don't settle for less (trust me, been there done that, really isn't worth it)

Thank you all. That really helped. Me and him talked this morning we got into it and he saying when he get off we need to talk cause maybe he want to work things out. HELP!! What should I do. Cause I feel like he hurt me once he will do it again.

thank you all. that really helped. me and him talked this morning we got into it and he saying when he get off we need to talk cause maybe he want to work things out. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!! what should i do. cause i feel like he hurt me once he will do it again. Dear, if you feel you did nothing wrong, and he expects things from you that you are not willing to give, then let him know that you want his respect or he can close the door. You should not worry about anyone but yourself, and/or children (if you have any), never a boyfriend - because they can take care of themselves. If you do not trust him anymore, then the relationship is not worth trying again. Take our word for it, the pain will go away, and you will respect yourself for not sticking with someone you don't feel comfortable with. Go out, meet new people, and start enjoying life. Let us know how the 'talk' went, and good luck.
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thank you all. that really helped. me and him talked this morning we got into it and he saying when he get off we need to talk cause maybe he want to work things out. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!! what should i do. cause i feel like he hurt me once he will do it again.
lady la, of course you love him. Of course you worry about him. Let me ask you this, is he worried about you? no. does he love you? no. if he cared about you he would not leave you. Think about it. If he was happy in the relationship would he leave you?. NO. so, when he comes back tell him you need time/break to think about stuff. Then, see what he does. If he cries like a baby he is one. If he says OK and stands up like a man taking responsibility then he is a man. But, he left you. And I'm sorry that happened but I happens all the time. Both to men and women.
If you can't make a decision when you two talk, then don't make a decision until you're ready! Period. Good luck...

lady la, I can understand talkng with him to work things out if there wasn't another girl in the picture. Did he break away from you to sleep with her now he wants you back? That's a pretty rotten thing to do to you. Tread carefully with this one. Personally if I were in the exact position you are then in my mind he already made that decision when he walked out the door for another woman.

Do you know what this talk is going to be about? If he tells you that he will take you back under conditions that you do things that you are not comfortable about, tell him to take a hike and never talk to you again, cause he isn't worth it. Never, ever do somehting that you are not comfortable with just because it will make someone else happy or keep them around. Number one you will loose your self-respect and two this guy already has proven that he's got a wandering eye, even if you do what he asks you to do, there is no telling that he would only get it from you and not any one else. I really don't think he is worth it, but it is your call, do what's best for you but really think it through

I'm really taking heed of the advice everyone is giving and to me my ex has a very trashy life. I'm too young to go through it so when he comes to talk he can really save the leave it to beaver for some other trashy girl. Lol

I'm really taking heed of the advice everyone is giving and to me my ex has a very trashy life. I'm too young to go through it so when he comes to talk he can really save the leave it to beaver for some other trashy girl. lol

Now you're talking. Take charge of your life. Don't take bs from him. Leaving you for another is his choice. This choice has nothing to do with you. You're fine. I'ts him not you. You will find someone else that wants to be with you. Trust me. It happens to all of us.

Do you really want to talk to him?

We all know you love this guy but what I can't understand is why?AS you said he lives a trashy life so why would you even think that is what you want.Leave him to his trashy life and get you a real man who can return your love and respect you.:cool:

To keep it real I don't want him. Of course I still love him cause that is my baby's daddy. But he can keep kicking.

To keep it real i don't want him. of course i still love him cause that is my baby's daddy. but he can keep kicking.

So... 'you love him becase that's my baby's daddy". bs, he doesnt love you when he is f$%ing another women! there is nothing wrong with you except you "love" someone who wants to hurt you. Why do you want to be with someone who wants to HURT U? I don't get it. Why let him hurt you. Let it go my friend. Real love doesn't happen to often. If you have 'real love' you would not be discussing this here.

so... 'you love him becase that's my baby's daddy". bs, he doesnt love you when he is f$%ing another women! there is nothing wrong with you except you "love" someone who wants to hurt you. why do you want to be with someone who wants to HURT U?. i dont get it. why let him hurt you. let it go my friend. real love doesnt happen to often. if you have 'real love' you would not be discussing this here.

This is true. My relationship with my boyfriend is so wonderful that I just want to share how happy I am and how wonderful he is with everyone. I have asked questions about me and my feelings due to my hurtful past; but I have never questioned Petes intentions with anyone or asked what others thought he sounded like.

Maybe you know the answer deep down, but just want it clarified by us. You need to let go and move on. By all means keep a friendship of some sort, given that he is the farther of your child, but do not pursue anything else with him. It just is not worth it. You deserve much more and you need to be happy :) This guy will not make you happy.

You can have some respect for someone for your child's sake, but that doesn't mean you have to love that person. I have a big hunch that you really don't love this guy. How can you love someone that treats you like crap 99% of the time? I sure hope he doesn't do this stuff in front of your child.
You don't have to love someone or say you love someone because they fathered your child, no one is going to think less of you if you don't, everyone here wouldn't blame you. Just remain some sort of communication with him for your child's sake.

Make sure he pays child support and if he wants to be part of his child's life fine! Be civil,but don't fall for anyone's crap.raising your child is number 1 priority now.:cool:

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My ex and I broke up, cause he wants to be with a nasty girl.:mad: I never did him nothing wrong.:confused: I really love and care about him, now we not together worry about him. I just want him back what shall I do.:confused:



thank you all. That really helped. Me and him talked this morning we got into it and he saying when he get off we need to talk cause maybe he want to work things out. HELP!! What should I do. Cause I feel like he hurt me once he will do it again.




I'm really taking heed of the advice everyone is giving and to me my ex has a very trashy life. I'm too young to go through it so when he comes to talk he can really save the leave it to beaver for some other trashy girl. Lol Is she really trashy, or are you jealous and not giving him what he needs at home?


To keep it real I don't want him. Of course I still love him cause that is my baby's daddy. But he can keep kicking.
But in the beginning you still loved him and worried about him? What's really going on here?

This is confusing as all get-out. You apparently did not think of him as 'trashy' (by the way could you explain a little more about this?) or you would not have his child (or are you pregnant now). Why didn't you tell us that and explain a little more in the beginning? After all of your posts, you still can't be clear enough so that we can see the 'whole picture' here - how about a little more information before we get it bit by bit which does not benefit anyone here.

If you are pregnant, your hormones can play with you and make you change your mind a lot. Also, after having a child, a woman goes through the 'protective' stage where she only concentrates on her child, and the man generally feels left out - (or purposly gets left out by some women) which is not fair either. Some of the things you feel are 'nasty or trashy' might be absolutely normal to most people and you just may have a prudish attidude right now, or don't want him to touch you anymore - which is it? We cannot read your mind or between those VERY SHORT lines you post, so please try and explain a little more in order for us to give you more accurate advice and help you.

Truthfully, if you received the above quoted posts bit by bit, what would you wonder about the person posting? So, please meet us halfway and try and give us as much information in one post as possible so that we can help. Thanks, and hope all goes well! No matter what your choice, he's still going to be a part of your life due to the child, so be an adult about it and straighten things out in that aspect - for the child's future.

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