I don't know what to do, I was married for 6 years and I was the one that didn't want to have sex at the end of my marriage, no attraction. It was over and the next 1 1/2 years after that I was very sexually active with a few flings and one guy pretty steady. Then I met the most wonderful man! We started dating last year (almost our 1 year anniversary) and we have NEVER had sex. I'm 29 years old and he's 39. He talks about how he has two kids from flings in the past and always talks about being sexually active in the past. He said at one point that he was scared to have sex and get someone pregnant, I didn't want anymore kids anyway so I just had my tubes tied. Then he talked about being scared of diseases and I got tested (should of anyway) and was clear, showed him the results. Then after my surgery, it was about a week later, I was clear to have sex. It was around our 3 month anniversary when we almost had sex, but he doesn't do it when someone is having their period and it happened to be my time. That's it, we have never had sex! We moved in together in November, he has full custody of his daughter (she calls me mom) and I have two boys. We have a fantastic relationship, he isn't cheating or anything we are always together and we are like best friends. We tell each other everything. Sometimes occasionally we have both had orgasms by the other person, just never have sex. One time when he was drunk he told me that he didn't like to have sex and that's all I ever talk about. I seriously just want to know that he is attracted to me and that he wants me! He tells me he loves me all the time and always wants to kiss me! He is very normal when looking at us, holds my hands, hugs me, kisses me, grabs my butt, etc... Then if I start to talk about sex or make a comment he gets mad (only for a little bit and he forgets about it). I don't know what to do... he has even talked about us getting married, quite a few times! Sometimes it bothers me more, because I know that he was with a girl when he met me. He broke up with her and we started dating 2 days later, he was only with her for 1 month and he said it wasn't anything, that's why he ended it to start to date me. However, he was only with her for 1 month and he had sex with her. He drinks a lot and I know that sometimes men can't perform when their drinking heavy, however he's not drunk all the time. So I'm not sure if he has problems getting "hard" or what! He won't talk to me about that if that's the case. I even thought about offering to find some Viagra, but I don't want to upset him. I just want to know that he wants me and is attracted to me! I asked him just yesterday for him to tell me what I have to do to make him attracted to me and he said that's not it! I am attracted to you! Then I walked away and he said you always want to talk about sex! That was it, we didn't talk anymore about that. I made dinner , etc... Two days ago I wanted to go and take a nap, no kids were home and I was kissing on him and rubbing his shoulders and he said no nap, he was going to watch TV, he didn't feel like laying down. I said why because I'm feeling frisky and he said yes. I don't want to end things with him at all! I love him a lot and we have a great relationship! I just don't know what to do! He talks about sex all the time with his buddies, me, past relationships, having sex that night, etc... Anyone have any suggestions or thoughts? I've wore sexy nighties to bed and nothing!

I don't know what to do, I was married for 6 years and I was the one that didn't want to have sex at the end of my marriage, no attraction. It was over and the next 1 1/2 years after that I was very sexually active with a few flings and one guy pretty steady. Then I met the most wonderful man! We started dating last year (almost our 1 year anniversary) and we have NEVER had sex. I'm 29 years old and he's 39. He talks about how he has two kids from flings in the past and always talks about being sexually active in the past. He said at one point that he was scared to have sex and get someone pregnant, I didn't want anymore kids anyway so I just had my tubes tied. Then he talked about being scared of diseases and I got tested (should of anyway) and was clear, showed him the results. Then after my surgery, it was about a week later, I was clear to have sex. It was around our 3 month anniversary when we almost had sex, but he doesn't do it when someone is having their period and it happend to be my time. That's it, we have never had sex! We moved in together in November, he has full custody of his daughter (she calls me mom) and I have two boys. We have a fantastic relationship, he isn't cheating or anything we are always together and we are like best friends. We tell eachother everything. Sometimes occasionally we have both had orgasms by the other person, just never have sex. One time when he was drunk he told me that he didn't like to have sex and that's all I ever talk about. I seriously just want to know that he is attracted to me and that he wants me! He tells me he loves me all the time and always wants to kiss me! He is very normal when looking at us, holds my hands, hugs me, kisses me, grabs my butt, etc... Then if I start to talk about sex or make a comment he gets mad (only for a little bit and he forgets about it). I don't know what to do...he has even talked about us getting married, quite a few times! Somtimes it bothers me more, because I know that he was with a girl when he met me. He broke up with her and we started dating 2 days later, he was only with her for 1 month and he said it wasn't anything, that's why he ended it to start to date me. However, he was only with her for 1 month and he had sex with her. He drinks a lot and I know that sometimes men can't perform when their drinking heavy, however he's not drunk all the time. So I'm not sure if he has problems getting "hard" or what! He won't talk to me about that if that's the case. I even thought about offering to find some Viagra, but I don't want to upset him. I just want to know that he wants me and is attracted to me! I asked him just yesterday for him to tell me what I have to do to make him attracted to me and he said that's not it! I am attracted to you! Then I walked away and he said you always want to talk about sex!! That was it, we didn't talk anymore about that. I made dinner and etc... Two days ago I wanted to go and take a nap, no kids were home and I was kissing on him and rubbing his shoulders and he said no nap, he was going to watch tv, he didn't feel like laying down. I said why because I'm feeling frisky and he said yes. I don't want to end things with him at all! I love him a lot and we have a great relationship! I just don't know what to do! He talks about sex all the time with his buddies, me, past relationships, having sex that night, etc... Anyone have any suggestions or thoughts? I've wore sexy nighties to bed and nothing!
Hi! When he kisses you, give him a very nice kiss and than tell him you got things to do. Do not give it so much importance, let him think you're not thinking about it. Give him some space and always look your best! Do this for some weeks and if it won't work try to tell me to get some help... but don't be so obvious,right? Good luck

I think you just moved to fast before you really knew this fellow, and now your learning more about him, that is not to your liking, and honestly there is very little communications, or working together to solve your problems, so what is so great about this relationship? Looks good on paper, but reality is your not to happy. Why o' Why, did you try to play house with him? Seems your marriage and experiences, would have warned you to take this very slow, before jumping in with blinders. Counseling may help, but I just don't see him going, but you should. Sorry!