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Happybunny2008
Feb 23, 2008, 10:43 PM
Ok, So I'm seventeen and I have this friend, and she went and told a bunch of lies about me, and I ended up in a lot f trouble with a few people. This was about a year ago, and since then I have forgiven her, and started hanging out with her, I believe she's changed, my parents however don't... they don't thnk I should hang out with her, though they d let me make my own choices. So basically I just want a secong opinion on whether I should or shuld not continue my friendship with her.

Clough
Feb 23, 2008, 11:13 PM
People do change. I would assume that your friend has changed for the better. Is there a way that you could show your parents evidence that she has changed? What were the things concerning that she lied about you?

MOWERMAN2468
Feb 24, 2008, 04:08 PM
Well, I definitely would make her gain my trust and she would probably never have my full trust again. But you could be sociable.

barbiechick123
Feb 25, 2008, 12:23 AM
Maybe your parents instincts are right... you shouldn't get too attached to this girl, but if your parents let you make your own choices, than go for it. Just remember be careful..

HistorianChick
Feb 25, 2008, 02:08 PM
There is an old saying that is very appropriate and probably explains why your parents are a little uneasy about you re-establishing a friendship with this person...

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

Basically, your parents don't want to see you hurt again...

Be friendly with this girl, but don't trust her with your emotions or secrets. She may have changed, but you should have as well. Your relationship won't ever be the same as it was before... she hurt you and lied about you. But she may have changed and your friendship could possibly be infinitely better than before!

It is a very mature thing for you to be able to forgive her and move on. That's very good. But, darlin, make sure that you are careful with your heart.

Good luck! :)

shygrneyzs
Feb 25, 2008, 02:13 PM
You can start on a small scale with this person and see if you can even trust her with small things. She has to work to regain what you two once had as friends. Forgiveness is divine but that does not mean we have to forget. Lessons learned teach us to be wary the next go round. Like that fool me once saying, HC shared with you.

I once had a friend my parents would just cringe at. She was a two faced snot but I did not see it with our friendship. Until our soph year in high school. Thankfully my parents did not do the "I told you so" thing. I was cordial to her after, because I had to be in school. But it never could be the same.

Good luck to you. Watch your back but gracefully. God bless.

Happybunny2008
Feb 25, 2008, 08:26 PM
Thank you for the help everyone, I really appreciate it.

Clough
Feb 25, 2008, 11:54 PM
Thank you for the help everyone, I really appreciate it.

You are welcome! Please let us know how things go, OK? Thank you!