Hello Everyone,

My boyfriend and I live together and my parents live out of state. Well they came down to visit and they are staying at our place for a couple of weeks. The other day we both came home for lunch and my mom was home also. Well he was outside the house and was yelling my name and telling me to get something from inside for him. I was busy and I told him I was going. He's a very unpatient person. So he yelled my name out again and was now upset because I was not coming fast to the door to hand him what he needed. Well my mom told me she didn't like the way he talk to me. I still tried to cover for him and said he was in a hurry mom that's why. She doesn't ever get in our relationship. But she just thought she would tell me she didn't like the way he yelled at me. After I left I called him and told him that it was wrong that he did that specially when my mom was around. He told me he did nothing wrong and that I was making a BIG deal. So we argued and he can't admit that he was wrong. He tried to blame me. But he confused me now and he does this a lot. Was I really making a big deal or was he wrong for doing that?

Wrong for doing it I wouldn't do it anyway but with your GF's parents in the home I would be on my best behaviour :) he is been immature

People are entitled to get impatient, but not really in front of your parents, especially if you are just dating and living together. It would be one thing if this was only between the two of you but it involves your parents knowing that he has the capacity to belittle you and that's not cool. Whether he admits he's wrong, he should probably work on his patience virtue a bit more because apparently it's causing a few problems.

Obviously he doesn't care, about how you, or your parents feel.

Your mother reacted to what she no doubt saw as a red flag and did so in the interest of protecting her daughter. I feel she was right to do so and that he was wrong for not acknowledging that his behavior in your mother's presence was indiscrete. Actually such behavior is indiscreet under any circumstances You yourself have said that he's an "unpatient" [sic] person. I'm sure your mother is concerned about what other types of indiscrete behavior he'd be prone to, as I would be if you were my daughter.