I need some guidance. I believe that my mother has swindled my brother and I out of benefits if my Father’s Life Insurance and now an asbestos litigation. My father died 6 years ago from Asbestos cancer. My mother did not show us or send us copies of the will. She said that there was no life insurance, no money to be had, our names were not on the will and that only she was listed. We were so distraught that we did not think to argue or pursue the matter. She is a very difficult person and we just did not care to face her. Anyway, I remember having to sign a waiver and consent form right after my Dad died. With the current situation, I wonder now if she lied to us? Why would we have to sign a waiver and consent form if we were not named? I also find it odd that we were not sent copies of the will? I believe that she may have lied and said that she did not have our address and to send it to her where she may have destroyed it.

She is currently in an asbestos litigation and asked us yet again in November to sign a waiver and consent form. She said that this was just to keep it out of probate and that she would split the money to us in the end. Every time I ask her about it she has no information and ignores me. Now she is once again distancing herself from us and I am wondering if she lied to us again just to get all of the money for herself.

Can someone please tell me how I can get copies of my Father’s will and if I have any rights to go back on both of these situations to get some reprieve? I need help tracking down answers. It is very horrible when you have to feel this way about your own Mother, but I have had enough of her lying and stealing from us. She has stolen material things from our homes before so I know that she would be capable of this.

Thanks! Jennifer

Hi, Jennifer,
If your Dad's Will has been signed by a judge, then you can get a copy of the Will from your local Court House, by going to the Court Clerk's Office. Try going there, and asking for a copy.
If it's not there, then your Mother has not had the will made "official".
You really need a lawyer, one who is experienced in Wills. This may be the only way you can get answers.
Meantime, do NOT sign anything else; except on the advice of a lawyer.
This does not sound like your Mother has your best interests at heart, and does sound as if she is hiding many things.
If you are finally tired of her stealing from you, possibly lying to you, then it's time to take action, with a lawyer. I do wish you the very best, and good luck. There could possibly be a lot of money, among material things, that your Dad wanted you to have. But, you will never know, or get it, without legal advice.

Sorry to hear about you problems Jennifer.

I always thought that a husband would simply leave all his belongings to his wife and then the wife left them to the kids. That's how it works in my family.

Any why would he have life insurance, unless for your mother, since life insurance usually is only for people who depend on you.

But perhaps he did leave you something, knowing that he know how your mother was.

I agree with Fredg, look into the will.

Also, don't sign anything else your mother asks you to sign without first showing the document to a lawyer. Perhaps if she gets a call from your lawyer, that might make her realize you mean business.