How can you stop the female ejaculation and normally have an orgasym so you don't make such a mess?? I enjoy it, but it's embarrassing to get everything so wet. Please help this lady.

You can't stop it. It's a natural occurrence. Enjoy it.

Yes, I agree. It is part of the excitement. Hmmm Hmmm, Just enjoy it like the above post said.

I think really the only way to stop it is to not get excited, but what fun is that?

The male gets hard. The female gets wet. Neither condition is an orgasm, (unless you are a squirter during orgasms, and that's quite rare). Use a towel underneath the two of you. The wetter you get, the more you are enjoying being with him sexually. Most men are turned on by excessive female moisture. You being embarrassed by your sexual response would be the same as him being embarrassed every time he has an erection.

You being embarrassed by your sexual response would be the same as him being embarrassed every time he has an erection.
Which is also rare!

I am one here who doesn't believe there is such a thing as "female ejaculation"... I think it is urine being expelled.

Of you want more information, just post here.

Got to disagree with you on that, Choux.

I'm a "squirter".

It's DEFINITELY not urine.

I'd think I'd know if I peed myself. Wouldn't YOU know?

We can agree to disagree... :):):)

Once again... oh dear.

For the OP just place a towell underneath-or better still, don't worry, enjoy it..

OMG, you don't have to be a squirter to ejaculate. A female expelling "" is ejaculating. And MOST women do it whilst an orgasm. It's not urine.

Try tantric... better orgasm... less often. It's like shooting a machine gun at a target or dropping a bomb on it. If you're going to destroy something you should do it right and have all the ooos and ahhhs to go with it.

Based on the reading I have done by sex experts Annie Sprinkle, Betty Dodson, Carol Queen and having attended countless Good Vibrations sex workshops I DO believe in female ejaculation. It is clear and different from pee.

As for the poster: YOU are so lucky to be able to do this. Not all women can. Do you have any idea how hot this is and how many men are turned on by this? So many women are only able to come via clitoral stimulation and don't know much about G-spot orgasms--in fact of you want to share how you reach this I would love to hear;)

Don't be embarrassed. It is a sexually charged, erotic nuance that is totally human.

It's urine. Where is the organ this so called "ejaculate" is stored?? NOWHERE. :D

Where is the "wetness" that comes with being turned on stored, Choux?

We agree to disagree. :)

Choux read this:

Female Ejaculation (http://www.whitelotuseast.com/FemaleEjaculation.htm)

I squirt on occasion, and it does not look or smell like urine.

My question for Choux: you say that you do not have a g-spot thus you don't believe in female ejaculation. SO--how would you know if you have never been in this position? Furthermore, have you had sex with a woman? Seen her do it? Have you watched enough (lesbian) porn to be 100% sure--looking close up and seeing what it is? Have you ever read Dan Savage? I do disagree with you but there's nothing wrong with that.

It's urine, ladies. The g-spot and female ejaculation are simply not proved by *reputable scientific* research...

We agree to disagree.

OK Choux... maybe we are BOTH right:

Nature of the fluid
Studies have been done by Beverly Whipple, John Perry, Gary Schuback, Milan Zaviacic and Cabello Santamaria but their findings are limited. While current information offers no solid information about the source of the fluid, chemical analysis performed on the fluid has revealed that while it sometimes contains at least traces of urine, it regularly contains chemical markers unique to the prostate (whether male or female).

The latest research indicates the possibility that all women produce female ejaculate, even if they are not aware of it:

The expelled or released fluid is not urine, it is an alkaline liquid secreted by the paraurethral (alongside the urethra) glands.
The paraurethral glands produce an enzyme called prostatic acid phosphatase (PAP), along with prostate-specific antigen (PSA).
Skene's gland also produces Human Protein 1, a trait formerly believed to be unique to the male prostate.

I got that off Wikipedia--search female ejaculate if you want to read the whole thing...

I'd like to see your reputable scientific facts for it being urine.

Because, frankly--you're essentially telling me that I'm p!ssing myself when I have sex, and while you say we "agree to disagree"--you're not agreeing to disagree. You're pushing it and pushing it as urine, and frankly, I'm offended that YOU think you know more about what *I* am doing in bed than I do.

So... unless you've done it yourself, or have witnessed someone doing it--don't presume that you KNOW that it's urine. And frankly--there's a difference between the urethra and the vagina, and I happen to KNOW the difference, and so does my husband. It's NOT urine--it's coming from the vagina.

So--if you just want to agree to disagree, then just shut up about it already.

"l12 disagrees: Sorry, it happens and it sure don't smell like urine....it smells sweet as a matter of fact" I think you misread what I am saying l12. I am agreeing that it ISN'T urine. I said it DOESN'T look OR smell like it, I know because I myself squirt sometimes. I think your negative comment belongs to Choux, not me!

So sorry rockerchick26... you're right it was meant for Choux... please forgive me, I'm new at this

It's OK! =) What he was saying got me so worked up that I may have sounded harsh when I responded to your comment.

I don't think you should be embarrassed by it by the way. I was at first myself, but most men find it incredibly hot. When it happens they know they are doing something right and it drives them wild. Just relax and enjoy yourself. If you focus on it too much, it will take some of the enjoyment out of the experience!

You go rockerchick26 and thank you... I'VE searched this too. And could not find an answer to just... cu... ing without the mess... so that's why I inquired on this site... but I do know that it is an awesome feeling, and afterwards... the towels, the sheets... or whatever come out smelling like a Rose... per say... so sweet.

I'm with *most* of the other people who've posted on this thread, I think you're probably a "squirter" and if you are, DAMN you're a lucky lady! It's something to be proud of and definitely not an embaressment! As long as you're enjoying having sex I wouldn't want to suppress anything that comes naturally as a part of it!

I know plenty of men (and women for that matter!) who find this a massive turn-on!

As has been said before, if you're worried about the mess you made, put a towel down, relax and have some fun!

Experimentation my dear! Haha!

You need to take some time to explore your body as there are ways to have an orgasm without making a 'mess'!

ENJOY!:p

l12,

You are so GOSH DARN lucky to even be able to orgasm! I don't know why you would want to stop that wonderful sensation. I am SO jealous : )

As far as stopping it... don't have sex. Plain and simple.

The day I have an orgasm it will be the messiest freakin explosion EVER and I won't give a damn what my boyfriend thinks. I'm sure he will love it though.

Like the aboves posts, put a towel under you. Do you not like the wet feeling between your legs?

I have extensive sexual experience, ladies, and a few spasms of your urethra and shots of urine are very pleasurable, it is not at all like the thunderous impact of multiple orgasms which rock one's brain, consciousness and reproductive system... :) You are all speaking of spasms in your urinary system... I'm talking about orgasms of the female reproductive systems.

Now, do you get it?? :):):)

For the one nasty lady, I feel sorry for *you*. :)

We agree to disagree.

I've been having sex for 16 years now. I've got a leeeetle bit of sexual experience myself.

I think I know my own body, thanks.

It is NOT urine. Sorry. Not even CLOSE to urine.

Believe me, I know what urine looks and tastes like, and this ain't it.

Now--I'm done.

Agreeing to disagree means we BOTH shut up about it... so... this thread is CLOSED.