Hello there...

Well my problem is that I been with this guy almost eight year with up and down, two years ago he cheat on me and got someone else pregrant. I never found out until the baby almost due, I left him for that. After the baby born, the other girl left him and he try to work out with me. I always ask him why can't he bring his son around me. His first sentence came out his mouth " Why shouldn't I bring him around you, you going to kill my son!!!" that when the baby is three month... I told him for what reason, I never saw how he look like or be around him Why you judge me like that for. Two years later, now he got half custody of his son so he bring him over our place every other weekend. This is my first time saw his son, he told that I can't be around him or near him because he think that I might cause harm to him. Every time his son came over I have to lleave all day, spend night at my friend house or rent motel just to stay away from them and sometime it last the whole weekend. Which I don't think it fair because I pay the same amount of rent as him so there no reason for me to leave my house when his son is here. I told him to bring his son to his mom house how if he don't trust me.This very upset me so much that I don't want to continuous on with this relationship. I talk to him about this so many time that it bother me, all he say that I'm was wrong, What should I do ? I really need some good advise right now?


Thank for reading my drama life...

RUN.

From what I can tell the following is true:

1. he is the wrong guy
2. you need to get more of an education
3. this guy does not love you
4. your life will never be happy with him
5. you need to find a better job and new friends that will help you start a new life

I hope this is not too harsh, I just sense no one has said this to you this directly.

And life is short and you cannot waste more time - no matter how tough this may seem.

Why do you even listen to him, I wouldn't. If your not good enough to be around his son, your not good enough to be around him. Get him out of your life, and get a real man, not booboo the clown.

I been with this guy for eight years, He cheated on me couple times. I forgave him, and try to move on without brings up the pasts. Everything going pretty good until last year when he went back to school and getting to know this girl who is disable. Well I know her too but not that close, so I thought everything is OK. I thought they are friend and I feel sorry for her. Then one day my boyfriend left his cell phone home, his phone keep rings and rings. Usually I don't pick up but the phone keep ring so I just look at it. The number had no name so I thought that the people got the wrong number. I call back with a private number, I immediate hang up when I heard her voice. Then she text and say should she came over if I went to work. She wanted to spent time with him alone without the kids. Telling him to make excuse to tell me that he unable to watch the kids tonight so they could spent time alone. And you know the rest of the story etc... Anyway now I found out the truth that they are dating about 4 month now. My question is What should I do? I can't see anyone else because he living with me and he not move out... I don't want any guys to be in the middle of my drama until I over with this guy.. second I can't move out because I'm on a year lease, I talk to my landlord about the situation he told me if I move out he going to take me to court. I got 9 months to go... third I can't call cop on him because I'm on porbation with CPS for three years. Well What next? I'm so stressing out because I'm the only one working and pay the bills while he staying home... I'm so mad everyday because I don't know if the girl come over or not. He stop watching the kids. He don't answer the house phone when I call... His cell phone always on slient mode... WHAT SHOULD I DO?

As long as your staying in the same place together, you will be miserable.

What you must decide is it worth the misery to stay. Leave, and take your chances in court. (If he is on the lease, he owes half.) If he stays, he is on the hook for the whole thing, I think.

Get some legal counsel, and then pack up, and disappear.

I would make it miserable for him. He is getting over on you big time. You should have got rid of him a long, long time ago. Now your going have to go legally evict him and handle all all your issues with him in court. How sad! =(

This is a horrible relationship, you need to get out as soon as possible.

Here are some other suggestions:

Like talaniman said, find a lawyer who can tell you your rights in the lease agreement. There should be some legal aid or pro bono if you can't afford a lawyer.

You can also try to find someone else to take over the remainder of your lease. Or tell your boyfriend to find someone.

Whatever you do, the bottom line is you need to get OUT.

I'm not sure how old you are, but I strongly suggest that you move back in with your parents (if possible) and go back to school to get a better education so that you can get a better job.