I am 25 and I get the urge as if its coming but I can't seem to get there, can someone give me advice with out having to use a toy?

I am going to answer this, assuming that you are a female. Try a vibrator that offers good clitoral stimulation, work up a great fantasy that really turns you on and when you get to that it feels like it's coming point make your fantasy "come" as well. Works for me. **** Sorry.. I can't read. Without.. you said without a toy...

Without use of a toy just takes a little longer. Are you asking as if it was during sex or masturbation?

Why without use of a toy?

The biggest problem most women have is letting go. If you focus too much on having the orgasm, it will never happen. Just enjoy the feelings leading up to it, and let yourself be okay with that. Once you stop focusing on it, you'll have it hit you by surprise on eday.

Have you ever had the experience of an orgasm?

If you haven't, then at your age you need to get serious about your sexuality and orgasm potential. Examine your sex fantasies... what really turns you on? Peeking at people having sex?? The idea of playing with breasts and nipples?? A penis peeking out of a swimsuit?? on and on and on. Focus on fantasies that turn you on.

Female masturbators come in two types:

1. open legged... massage clitoris

2. closed legged... flexing muscles to stimulate clitoris and genitals.

Find out what type you are by practicing.


Fantasize and enjoy... relax... enjoy...

Practice three times a week for 30 minutes... you should make a lot of progress.

I read this and then actually did it - Is this going to help me "" a little quicker also? I recently posted asking why I couldn't climax- I'm hoping this will help. My sex drive is there, but I just can't finish up. (very frustrated)

Have you ever had the experience of an orgasm?

If you haven't, then at your age you need to get serious about your sexuality and orgasm potential. Examine your sex fantasies....what really turns you on? Peeking at people having sex??? the idea of playing with breasts and nipples??? a penis peeking out of a swimsuit???on and on and on. Focus on fantasies that turn you on.

Female masturbators come in two types:

1. open legged....massage clitoris

2. closed legged....flexing muscles to stimulate clitoris and genitals.

Find out what type you are by practicing.


Fantasize and enjoy....relax....enjoy....

Practice three times a week for 30 minutes.....you should make a lot of progress.