:confused: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years. Our sex life, 3 years ago was unbelievable, having sex about 3-5 times a week. Sex WAS great.
The last year, sex has been a lot less often. We have sex every 1-2 months. I asked him if he was cheating and he said that he would never do that to me.
I have caught him masterbating to porn movies and magazines after I go to bed. But I am confused, he rather masterbate then have sex with me. I am still the same women that he met 4 years ago. The only things that has changed is the lack of sex. I wouldn't even say that we have a sex life cause we don't have it often enough.

I think in any long term relationship sex hits the back burner. Have you asked him if you can watch the porn with him? Maybe suggest you both masturbate at the same time to the porn? Who knows, it may lead to something else.. if not.. it's still fun!:D

The problem is this. Variety is the spice of life. Change your hair color, get a sexy outfit, ask him what type of porn he likes and act out those thngs together. Have the same type of sex get boring and he will lose interest. Also have a conversation with him why he does not find you attractive? Let us know what happens?

This is over a year old. Please watch dates when responding.

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