All right, here I go not to sound stupid or ignorant but what is the word love mean and how would you express it to your partner in marriage.I was brought up in an era where love was known within a family but never shown,(at least my family-4rough mischieviouse boys) now all men and married and struggling with this love concept towards there spouses.By the way one brother getting divorced because of so much anger and having trouble expressing his love. Thanks for your help I work on and stuggle with this little word every day. LOVE

If you read my posts on the forum, you know I'm no big fan of "love" as a trustworthy benchmark for decision-making. But that's mostly in dating scenarios.

If I were to argue "for" love, I'd say love is a different thing for men and women and that's why even when it's working, it's misunderstood. This leads to all-out arguments between people over the whole "love" thing when in truth they may love each other plenty. It's sad, but look at your brother. This is one of the reasons I caution so strongly against people putting so much emphasis on whether they love or not.

FOR GUYS - Love is commitment to action. Love is a decision. They are laser beams emotionally and tend to obsess on one topic at a time. They can feel things deeply and be just fine not talking about it. They stand in the fire for their families, they slay the dragons and they bring in the crops. All of this they do as a sign of love.

When men love and feel the love returned in the form of appreciation, admiration and assurance, they will stand guard over their loved ones until their last breath.

TIP: Men are visual creatures, and respond most readily to visual stimulus.

FOR GALS - Love is a commitment of the heart. Love is an uncontrollable response. They are flood lights emotionally and deal naturally with information from multiple directions at once and make peace with it. They feel things deeply and immediately and must express it verbally. They are the nurturers and the cement that holds a family together in their steadfastness. They forgive and welcome and reassure and guide with intuitive connections to all within reach. All this they do as a testament to love.

When women love and feel the love returned in the form of appreciation, admiration and assurance, they will cleave to and love over their loved ones until their last breath.

TIP: Women are emotional creatures, and respond most readily to emotional stimulus.