Depressed in MO
Feb 11, 2008, 09:20 AM
Hello All. I hope I am not wasting your time, but this situation is just eating at me and I would like to gather some opinions.
I have been out of an extremely bad relationship for about 2 months now(was in it about 7 years). I am very happy and proud of myself.
I started dating about a month later. Wasn't in it for the seriousness, just wanted to be the one who is treated nice for once. Well, the new person just ended up being the only person I am currently dating. We are not serious, however, we have talked about it and could eventually end up there-mutually, really.
Ok hope that was enough about that. So here is the story-An old acquaintance who use to live up the street from me happened to move back into the same house (her parents live there). Haven't seen or heard from her in about 4 years. When she left, her and I were not on good terms. She has always had a bad reputation for sleeping around/drugs. I don't know why but I always befriended her. I guess I felt sorry for her, even though she had tried to betray our friendship on a few separate occasions. Regardless, we grew up in the same neighborhood togther. We were just two completely opposite people.
Fastforwarding on now: Was having a slumber party for my 10 year old daughter last Saturday. My old acquaintance shows up out of the blue from nowhere, and acts as though we have always been good friends and everything was just honkey dorey. Ok whatever, so I let the past be in the past, and continued on as if we had always been friends.
Well, later on, my new "boyfriend" shows up. So we are all talking, laughing getting along.
I know my new guy is a good guy and that he is into me. I have complete trust in him as he has not yet done anything to question my faith within him.
However, she had made several passes to him, in which made him feel uncomfortable. She didn't do them in front of me, but I know how she is and I do believe what he tells me. However, he did not tell me that night. I knew something was wrong with him but he did not tell me. Anyhow, I walked down stairs to check on my girl and see how her party was going, and when I came back upstairs, he was gone. He did not say goodbye, he did not say a single word. He would not answer his phone as of course, I tried to call him.
So the next day I got ahold of him and that is when he told me all of this about my friend.
Then he insisted I had copped an attitude towards him, so he said he just felt uncomfortable, was pissed, and just left. He explained to me that he thought I had seen something and thought he was the one encouraging my "friends" behavior. I explained that I already knew how she was and I was upset that he wouldn't tell me what his problem was.
Ok well, that's pretty much the jist of it. Things are weird between him and I now and I don't know if I can handle someone like that. Am I in the wrong? I mean what could I have done, if only I had known? The fact that he was not willing to communicate with me and just left really hurt my feelings. I'm still trying to put back together all the self worth I had lost from my last relationship, I don't need someone else bringing me down. I just felt a little hearbroken that's all because if he would have communicated with me in the first place, I could have taken care of the situation.
Opinions welcomed. Thanks.
T
I have been out of an extremely bad relationship for about 2 months now(was in it about 7 years). I am very happy and proud of myself.
I started dating about a month later. Wasn't in it for the seriousness, just wanted to be the one who is treated nice for once. Well, the new person just ended up being the only person I am currently dating. We are not serious, however, we have talked about it and could eventually end up there-mutually, really.
Ok hope that was enough about that. So here is the story-An old acquaintance who use to live up the street from me happened to move back into the same house (her parents live there). Haven't seen or heard from her in about 4 years. When she left, her and I were not on good terms. She has always had a bad reputation for sleeping around/drugs. I don't know why but I always befriended her. I guess I felt sorry for her, even though she had tried to betray our friendship on a few separate occasions. Regardless, we grew up in the same neighborhood togther. We were just two completely opposite people.
Fastforwarding on now: Was having a slumber party for my 10 year old daughter last Saturday. My old acquaintance shows up out of the blue from nowhere, and acts as though we have always been good friends and everything was just honkey dorey. Ok whatever, so I let the past be in the past, and continued on as if we had always been friends.
Well, later on, my new "boyfriend" shows up. So we are all talking, laughing getting along.
I know my new guy is a good guy and that he is into me. I have complete trust in him as he has not yet done anything to question my faith within him.
However, she had made several passes to him, in which made him feel uncomfortable. She didn't do them in front of me, but I know how she is and I do believe what he tells me. However, he did not tell me that night. I knew something was wrong with him but he did not tell me. Anyhow, I walked down stairs to check on my girl and see how her party was going, and when I came back upstairs, he was gone. He did not say goodbye, he did not say a single word. He would not answer his phone as of course, I tried to call him.
So the next day I got ahold of him and that is when he told me all of this about my friend.
Then he insisted I had copped an attitude towards him, so he said he just felt uncomfortable, was pissed, and just left. He explained to me that he thought I had seen something and thought he was the one encouraging my "friends" behavior. I explained that I already knew how she was and I was upset that he wouldn't tell me what his problem was.
Ok well, that's pretty much the jist of it. Things are weird between him and I now and I don't know if I can handle someone like that. Am I in the wrong? I mean what could I have done, if only I had known? The fact that he was not willing to communicate with me and just left really hurt my feelings. I'm still trying to put back together all the self worth I had lost from my last relationship, I don't need someone else bringing me down. I just felt a little hearbroken that's all because if he would have communicated with me in the first place, I could have taken care of the situation.
Opinions welcomed. Thanks.
T