OK, so I've been single for about 8 months now, that's along time being that normaly I'm single for a week and then back into another relationship. But its been a while so I thought it was time to try it out again. So I met this guy. He's lied to me in the passed week though several times. But for good resaons. Well, not goood but if I was in his situation I would do the same.ok the first was his name. I met him on a web site and I would have lied about my name too because who knows whose out there. So that was fine I let it go, then he lied about his age, which was because he didn't want my mom to call the cops on him if she found out about him. But I'm 17 and he's 18. Not a big deal. So he was protecting himself. So there little things like that. So I already don't trust him really because the fact is he lied. Who knows, he can do it again. Well, I met him the other day and he's really nice and sweet. But he was moving kind of fast. Tryign to hold my hand and kiss me. But I didn't let him kiss me too much. Just a peck here and there. Well,only two. So then later that night we talked and everythign was OK. But I don't really trust him, my interest for him is slowely going away. Befause of the lies. Its only a matter of time when he desodes to execute another. Everythign else about him is OK. Oh yeah, then he's planning on joining the military. And I don't want to have to go threw all of that and worry about him dyingor anyhting. In a way I kind of just want to be friends. And maybe when he's done serving his time we can get together. But I'm not sure. So if you have nay advice please I need it.!

My advice to you is that it is just better to be friends. You need to be honest with him and let him know that this is the way you feel. Tell him the truth that you just want to be friends and give him the reasons as well.

Another thing about moving so fast. It is not good to move so fast, and truthfully you know nothing about this person. Might be sweet and kind but you just never know what else this person could be hiding. That is why it is best to get to know the person really well before moving into a stronger relationship.

He needs to respect that you do not want to move so fast. Everybody moves at different paces but respect, mutual respect needs to be there.

I wish you the best and hope you are honest and upfront and for now just keep him as your friend if he is understanding of this.

Military is a hard thing. Maybe after all the serving and you both have an interest then get together. Just let him know this. Okay.

Take care of yourself.

The problem with the internet is you feel you know someone and there you go
You really don't . It creates a false trust. This person has broken some bounderies
With you already. I agree with the others be honest be truthful hold to your own beliefs
If that little voice inside your head is screaming this is not right listen to it.
You have nothing vested in this relationship take it slow and let him show who he is.
We all do in time
Good luck

You are so young with so much ahead of you. If your intuition tells you not to trust him, follow your intuition. I always do. Fear and mistrust is what keeps us safe or alive. I recommend you read "The gift of fear" by Gavin De Becker... you may just be spotting subtle signs of danger. I'd say go with your feeling... don't trust him and let him go to military and you go on with the life ahead of you. It's O.K. to be single. I enjoyed 32 years of single life.

I think you have been wise beyond your years already, and impressed, you can listen to that inner voice. Just keep paying attention.

I told the guy we should just be friends. He had just got done telling me that he's afraid to fall for me now that he knows that I don't want to be with someone in the military. So that when I told him that we should be friends. Then he said he had to go and hung up. He hasn't text me back or called me. What shoudli do??

Nothing! Is he a nut or something. You have done, what you could.

That showed you what kind of person he is. That is what you mean to him, a click "off". You are fine, you don't need a friend like that. If you feel lonely or need people to share your thoughts, logg in, we're always here to help.

OK to fill you in, I met a guy recently, he's lied to me with reasonable explinations, and he's joining the military which I don't like at all. I told him how I felt and that I think we should just be friends and he hung up on me. Finlay he called back and we talked, he told me he had strong feelings for me but I didn't feel that way. I've slowely lost interest because of the lies and the military thing so while we were on the phoen I practically told him I can't be with him because of the whole military thing. So then he started cryign and I feel like crap. Then we hung up because he was very upset and was going to get over me. So then he txxts me right after and says that his mother just showed him a letter sayign that the gov't is gogin to help them pay for stuff so he doesn't have to go to the military. So now I feel like for saying all of that stuff and I don't know what to do from here. I know that I got to know him better before I go out with him. Because I don't want to take the chance of him lying again so . Should I get to know him or stick to letting him get over me? Any advice is useful to me right now please.

You both could probably benefit from leaving each other alone. The lying is a dealbreaker in my opinion. What can you ever get to know about a liar, other than, don't trust a word they say?