My ex boyfriend and I were together for 15 months and things were great. We worked so well together and no body has ever treated me better. We ended up breaking up because I left for school 4 hours away and the distance was too hard on us and we were hurting because our time together was so limited. I never expected our breakup to last, I actually thought we would get back together soon after. But it has been about 8 months now and there has not been one day where I haven't thought about him or wished we were together. I am hurting WAY more now than I was when we were together and couldn't see each other very often. Our contact has been limited since we broke up, but on the few occasions that we have talked it only makes me miss him even more. There is no doubt in my mind that he is the one I want to be with, and I am willing to wait for him to figure that out as well. Should I say anything to him? We have not talked recently and I am afraid that if I push too much I might push him away. Part of me wants to tell him how I feel and hope that he feels the same way. But I'm scared. Please help.

Who broke up with who?

Thanks for responding

It was mostly mutual... neither of us were happy about it but we both thought it was for the best at the time I think.

Someone had to initiate the breaking up conversation

Well I suppose he brought it up first by saying that I deserve someone that I can be with more than once a month

That was a nice way to put how he felt. For your own sake, stop waiting for I'm to change his mind and comeback. Love yourself enough to learn to make yourself happy and move on with your life. If talking to him keeps you miserable, then stop the communications. Sorry for your loss, and I hope you can learn to accept, and cope with that loss.

Hi there:

I definitely think that you need to give him space.

My ex and I broke up a couple of months ago because of long distance, basically sounds the same as what happened to you and your ex. I thought it was a good idea to try and contact him and what not and it hasn't turned out well. He refuses to talk to me, basically because I ended up pushing him away because I didn't give him the time he needed. Now I have no idea whether we'll ever talk again or if I'll ever see him again. I mean every situation is different and every person is different, but I thought I would let you know what happened with myself and maybe that might give you some insight.

I wish I could go back in time to the first time I contacted him -- but I can't, I can only learn from my mistakes and possibly help others in the process. At the time, I was just hurting so bad and I wanted to lean on him, and I wanted things to go back to the way they were when he was here, with me. But what I know now, is it will never be like it was, and time is the only answer.

It seems as though you haven't contacted him to tell him how you still feel, but my advice is don't. I believe the best thing after any break up is time and space -- or at least I realize that now. Especially in the case of long distance relationships (when they break up) I think both people need to take a lot of time and need to give the other person space to get on with their lives. If it's meant to be in the end, it will just happen.

I know that all of this sounds so cliché, and I hope I don't sound like a broken record. I absolutely hate when people think they know my situation better then I do and try to dictate to me what I should do. So, I try to use examples of my experience in hopes that people might be able to relate and take something away from that.

Anyway good luck with everything, hope I've helped even just a little.:)

Tell him exactly how you feel. Say what you said in your question. But just don't seem too needy or desperate. Also, you should convey to him that you're doing good and your life is on track and you're not an emotional mess. That'll push him away. Other than that, after you tell him how you feel... you have to back off a little. Let him chase you instead of the other way around. We all want what we can't have. If he knows he can have you... it won't be as desirable for him...
There is hope, but you have to have a strategy...
But don't forget... don't sound desperate or even that you need him in your life and life can't go on without him. If you do, you'll scare him away.
Be like you were in the beginning, when you were fun to be around.
I'm telling you right now... guys love being around chicks that make them laugh and are good company.
Converse, but don't always talk about you and him... that's a drag. He won't want to be around that. He'd rather be around some chick who makes him laugh and is a bit of a challenge.

Thanks everyone for the help. I think it was good for me to put down in writing how I felt and then read some objective opinions. I really think I need to move on... as much as it hurts right now... thanks for helping me get to this point :)