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thegirlishurting
Feb 1, 2008, 04:35 PM
Hi again everyone,

I posted previously my problem about my guy. I don't want to lose him and thought that maybe askmehelpdesk.com can give me some advise on how to deal with it. Everyone here thinks that I should just let him go---which I did because its what he wants.

Anyway, few days after the breakup, he came to my city for a business trip. He called and asked to meet up since he will be free for 4hrs before leaving for his flight back home.

Thinking we are going to 'formally' do the breakup, I decided to wear my best clothes! Might as well look great right?

So, I giddly went out to see him but I stopped short when I saw him. He looked great. He broke up with me because he was depressed, having tons of family and work problems so I wasn't expecting him to look so cool and relaxed. For 3hrs, we talked about everything except our breakup---he would sometimes slip and call me sweety or hunny. For a while I wanted to think the breakup didn't happen until he started asking questions if I've been out seeing other guys already and stuff like that.

I dropped him off at the airport. We didn't kiss or even hug like we used to, it was probably for the best because I felt I was going to break down and cry if I do.

He told me to keep in touch but Im not sure if I should esp on how vulnerable I feel right now. I just can't believe how quickly he recovered, not more than a week! Since we got along pretty well that day, I felt the need to send him an email thanking him for the dinner and coffee. Should I??

kandyfruitcake
Feb 1, 2008, 04:43 PM
Hi again everyone,

I posted previously my problem about my guy. I dont want to lose him and thought that maybe askmehelpdesk.com can give me some advise on how to deal with it. Everyone here thinks that I should just let him go---which I did bc its what he wants.

Anyway, few days after the breakup, he came to my city for a business trip. He called and asked to meet up since he will be free for 4hrs before leaving for his flight back home.

Thinking we are going to 'formally' do the breakup, I decided to wear my best clothes! Might as well look great right?

So, I giddly went out to see him but I stopped short when I saw him. He looked great. He broke up with me because he was depressed, having tons of family and work problems so i wasnt expecting him to look so cool and relaxed. For 3hrs, we talked about everything except our breakup---he would sometimes slip and call me sweety or hunny. For a while I wanted to think the breakup didnt happen until he started asking questions if ive been out seeing other guys already and stuff like that.

I dropped him off at the airport. We didnt kiss or even hug like we used to, it was probably for the best because I felt I was going to break down and cry if I do.

He told me to keep in touch but Im not sure if i should esp on how vulnerable i feel right now. I just can't believe how quickly he recovered, not more than a week! Since we got along pretty well that day, i felt the need to send him an email thanking him for the dinner and coffee. Should i ???

Don't you dare. He wants you to see how good he looked, and he was hoping to see that you'd fallen apart. You send him a message, he'll read it that he got under your skin. If a man broke up and then called me hunny I'd break his nose:)

TrueFaith
Feb 1, 2008, 04:47 PM
He did the same as you. Made me self look good its what you


To make other people look what they misst

Don't go back to him

talaniman
Feb 1, 2008, 05:09 PM
Its over, and time to move on, and start no contact, He put his best foot forward, as did you, now let go and heal.