Hi I'm kaytie... just one of those girls who are heartbroken... I really need your help! The topic or the "subject"(question) which I would like to open is about relationships... I want him back to me but I just don't know how to win back his love for me!:(

Me and my boyfriend broke up 2 weeks ago it feels like its been a long time.. I just can't remember when but I think it was on Jan 6 2008 after our 2nd monthsary together... I had to break up with him because I had to choose from the two... him or my bestfriends... the reason they forced me is because when we were together I was just getting scared of him being too close... I really love him until now and it really hurts... as days passed by he asked for one more chance... I wanted to take it but my friends were controlling me at that time... so it had been rejected... now I'm regretting what decision I had made and I want him back... but then I found out he had fallen for my friend... I acted like everything was all right but it wasn't.. everyday my night ended out me bursting in tears and getting up the next morning knowing the more he has fallen for her and the more he's far away from me... even how many times we see each other everyday its like one time he says hi and the rest are nothing... he passes by as if nothing happened at all... acting like he doesn't see I'm standing there waiting for his smile... I want him back really badly because everyday I end up cutting my arm... (seldom) if I see him with her... am I possessed with him? Or is it that I'm so in love with him and I can't accept the fact that I'm out of his life cause for me he's the one? How can I tell him I want him back?without me getting humiliated?they tell me to get over him.. but I love him so much but it's the hardest thing to do... before when I'm with him his attention is on me.. he never stop coming near me.. its like when he see's me he doesn't want to let go... but now people started pairing us up and it ended us both partners but when we have to practise his mind is on her and he's not concentrating... do you think he would come back to me? They said ever since we both fell in love to each other.. I had controlled his attitude and made him new... just because of my love for him.. but since I left him he became an addict its like he totally changed.. last night I called him and talked like it was still us... I felt happy but I didn't know if he was... but just then it suddenly slipped out of my mouth " you changed.. i missed you so much... would you go back to normal please???:(" and he said it was OK... but then we got to be open and talked to each other which was nothing like before... and he said sorry for the day before yesterday that he couldn't catch me when I fell... the reason I fell was too much pressure I felt dizzy and we had a step in dancing where he had to lift me up... I wasn't holding going up and I was feeling all dizzy and fell backwards and my head had a hard impact when it hit the ground but luckily nothing wrong happened to me.. thanks to God... then when we were talking the words came out... "im sorry if i had hurted you before... im really sorry,,, then my mind wasnt concentrating and i suddenly said.. i love you... yet he had no reaction... i asked him if he were courting anyone and he said he stopped... because he's getting tired of love.. so it came to me as if "if ever we get together he would just get tired of me"..... i need your advice on what i should have to do?? tell him how i feel and get back together?? or fall for someone else cause he's not worth it??.... i need help... :(

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sorry if i was too talkative.. but if you read the whole thing and finished it thanks for listening and understanding how i feel... for those who could finish.. its alright... you dont have to.. cause its your life and you make your choices =) ... just hope and wish for me that i would be happy or get that feeling back of when i was inlove.... "Thanks For Listening" and thanks if ever you leave and answer =')

Ahh.. this takes me back to high school days. He is putting on a show, of course he is going to act like it doesn't bother him because if he shows it does, he will be made fun of. At least that's how I remember high school ha ha... Just give it time, and him space to find out what he wants. He is probably afraid that you let him go before because of friends, why wouldn't you do it again. Hearts aren't yo-yos they don't like to be toyed with.

thanks so much romefalls19 =) hehe... yep.. high school days aren't forgetable.. =P so what should I do? Challenge him back? My friend(boy) tells me that I should find someone better n good-looking than him after he see's I'm happy than I was with him before he'd come back and kneel in front of me... but the thing is that.. I can't do it... I just can't stand seeing him suffer... n I don't like toying around :P hehehehe... but the worst mistake I had made is leaving him =( how can I find out what he needs if he avoids me? :( but if ever he reads this n he's mine again.. I promise him I won't hurt him anymore... =')

Hello Kaytie. I'm 28, and a high school teacher. I see this a lot. I've also been through it for years and years. Remember, people spend years and YEARS together, only to get a divorce and lose half their stuff. Your situation isn't that bad, so be grateful.

Second, I think the main stream media has gotten you confused as to what love really is. If he became disfigured, bald, lost an eye, drools, and oozes goo from every opening in his body, would you still "love" him? I think you might seek elsewhere, especially after only 2 months together, and I can't blame you. If I was half my age, and a female, I'd do the same too. :) Love is a much more complex emotion, so great and amazing that you simply can't ever define it in one sentence or paragraph. And when it finally happens, probably years and years away, you will look back on your youth and see what you had wasn't love at all, and that you were saving it all this time for your very special someone who has probably yet to cross your path.

But one thing that you are experiencing, is heart break, which my dear you are dead on. Everyone goes through it. EVERYONE! You are not alone. It feels bad to break up, it feels even worse when that person moves on and ignores you like you never existed. Oh I hate that so much. If he was in my Math class, I'd give him a couple zero's just for you! :) He obviously has no heart, no soul, and no brain. Now that I think about it... why would you want someone like that anyway!

You sounds smart. You sound VERY intelligent. And if you attracted one guy, you must be cute enough to get more! You will get heart broken probably more than once in life. Learn from this one. Embrace the bad feelings, and learn how to cope. If you can, then you will be prepared for even bigger moments in your life (losing a loved one/family member), things that mean much more than this ever will.

I feel for you. I really do. I'm sure others do as well. But we're also supporting you, pulling for you, wanting to help you cope! We're all here for just that. As much as this guy is looking at everyone else and not you, you are also looking at him and nobody else. Maybe you should look around and find that other person who has been looking for you! Waiting for you! I know he's out there, and probably more than one. You are single girl, you have all the options in the world! Go get them!

Ahh..this takes me back to high school days. He is putting on a show, of course he is going to act like it doesn't bother him because if he shows it does, he will be made fun of. At least that's how I remember high school ha ha...Just give it time, and him space to find out what he wants. He is probably afraid that you let him go before because of friends, why wouldn't you do it again. Hearts aren't yo-yos they don't like to be toyed with.


thanks so much romefalls19 =) hehe... yep.. high school days aren't forgetable.. =P so what should I do? Challenge him back? My friend(boy) tells me that I should find someone better n good-looking than him after he see's I'm happy than I was with him before he'd come back and kneel in front of me... but the thing is that.. I can't do it... I just can't stand seeing him suffer... n I don't like toying around :P hehehehe... but the worst mistake I had made is leaving him =( how can I find out what he needs if he avoids me? But if ever he reads this n he's mine again.. I promise him I won't hurt him anymore... =')

DO NOT try to make him jealous, that will only make things worse. Basically all you can do is give him space to figure everything out. Then in a week(thats awhile in HS I think) tell him you think that you guys should give it another shot.

Hello Kaytie. I'm 28, and a high school teacher. I see this a lot. I've also been through it for years and years. Remember, people spend years and YEARS together, only to get a divorce and lose half their stuff. Your situation isn't that bad, so be greatful.

Second, I think the main stream media has gotten you confused as to what love really is. If he became disfigured, bald, lost an eye, drools, and oozes goo from every opening in his body, would you still "love" him? I think you might seek elsewhere, especially after only 2 monts together, and I can't blame you. If I was half my age, and a female, I'd do the same too. :) Love is a much more complex emotion, so great and amazing that you simply can't ever define it in one sentence or paragraph. And when it finally happens, probably years and years away, you will look back on your youth and see what you had wasn't love at all, and that you were saving it all this time for your very special someone who has probably yet to cross your path........

thanks so much for the comment... hhehehe.. do you think I'm smart? O how I wish! :P hehehe ohh.>~~ math~~ argh.. I'm so bad at that.. >.< ;P hehehe its not acctually 2 its 4 :P xD hehehe wrong type ;P xD hhehehe e:D I wish I could catch them but its like they say.. love is there but don't go looking for it because u might scare it away :P xD wahahah! :P I don't think I'm pretty because its hard :P ahhah! But no matter whathappens.. if I love a person I love them for who they are not for who I want them to be.. even if I see him drooling on the street id be glad to take him home and make him smile again! =P heheeh... hanks so much again!thanks for helping cope =) hhehe *cheers* :P

DO NOT try to make him jealous, that will only make things worse. Basically all you can do is give him space to figure everything out. Then in a week(thats awhile in HS I think) tell him you think that you guys should give it another shot.


Yep... that's what I'm dpoin now.. giving him space.. even if it takes a mile :p but it always ends up being partners :P xDD hahahah! He's eve my partner in a 100m dash xD.. I would never ever have the nerve to make him jealous because I'm not that type of person :P thanks so much!id always!! what do you mean by "tell him you think that you guys should give it another shot." ? Hehehe kind of confused :P xD:D

In a week or so, go up to him and start talking.. then say how you miss him and think that another shot would be a good thing for the two of you

thanks so much for the comment... hhehehe.. do you think im smart? o how i wish! :P hehehe ohh.>~~ math~~ argh.. im so bad at that.. >.< ;P hehehe its not acctually 2 its 4 :P xD hehehe wrong type ;P xD hhehehe e:D i wish i could catch them but its like they say.. love is there but dont go looking for it because u might scare it away :P xD wahahah!! :P i dont think im pretty because its hard :P ahhah! but no matter whathappens.. if i love a person i love them for who they are not for who i want them to be.. even if i see him drooling on the street id be glad to take him home and make him smile again! =P heheeh... hanks so much again!thanks for helping cope =) hhehe *cheers* :P
HAHA! OH HOW CUTE ARE YOU! Lol

You must be smart! It's in the words you type, I can see it! Also, anyone who was feeling down and depressed, and managed to think about using the internet as a tool for recovery has to have some brains! You didn't sit around and mope, you went online, searched, found, and STARTED your own road to recovery. All at your age! For some people, that takes years and years to figure out. It took you a fraction of that. You are one smart cookie. :)

And don't worry about Math hun. That's a relationship that will always leave you heart broken! Hahahaha! :P

Take the time to let the emotional dust, settle for now.