I'm with this guy for over 1 year. He treats me very differently compared to his friends. Generally, I'm not totally happy because he treats more like a tool than a friend. He only treats me well when he needs me to do stuff; right before, during, and right after. He stopped telling stuff about him soon after he got a huge loan from me and said that I'm annoying. He says "no" to me as often as he says "yes" to his friends with the same request/offer at the same time. He returned the birthday gift I gave him last year giving me a lame excuse. I questioned myself a lot, is it me?

I've been in a relationship like your in now and its not nice left me feeling like I was being used if I was you hunny I would find some one else before he takes your life over and makes you feel like you'll never find another and if your not ready for that try saying no give him a bit of his own medicen

What do you call a "huge loan"? If you loaned him more than $100 that was a very foolish thing to do. Has he paid back any of this money at all to you? You are not the problem here... he's the problem. Now that he's borrowed the money from you he's stuck trying to think of an excuse to dump you without you coming after him for the repayment of the loan.

He's using you for everything you have... he should treat you the way you treat him.. and don't be afraid to look at him and say NO cause otherwise you just his slave

Yes, Twinkiedooter, it's much much more than $100 and he's paying me monthly. Well, I'm kind of on the top of his list of loan repayment (he has a lot of loans). I've got a feeling that he's going to dump me soon after he pays me off. At least that's not as bad but it really hurts the way he treated me and I'm not sure what to do.