I don't want to sound like I'm the type of guy who thinks he can get any girl... Because I'm not... but the way this may sound... some readers might think so...

I've never had a problem "getting the girl" that I'm crushing on.. I was close friends with an ex last year, who introduced me to one of her best friends... We hit it off from day one... The sound of her voice made my day... talking for hours each day and night.. we tried to keep our flirting and feelings a secret from everyone for a few months. And then one day out of nowhere, talking on the phone one night I heard her quickly say "I love you".. being in complete shock I was in silence for a minute or two.. she said I didn't have to say it back... but she didn't know that I really wanted to... and I truly did love her at that time... I finally got up the nerve and told her that I loved her a few days later. Sept 30, 2007 (I'll never forget that day)... We started dating in November (I know we weren't dating and we were in love... I know... but its because of my own issues we weren't together)... We dated for a month... She is in school and focused hard core on her studies and what she wants to do with her life.. and Im in school to try to get a degree. But school has always been a issue for me, so I didn't do to great. Besides I was so blinded by my feelings I didn't care about school all I did was focus on her... that's all I wanted to do... With my transfer to a different school back east we planned on moving together, and becoming a family ( her, me and my two kids) we made plans, looked for places, and seen what it would take for "our dream" to come true... Then after a while it would seem as though she was happy to talk to me... then other times it seemed as though I was bugging her.. She said her friendships were slipping away because she would feel bad if she was talking to me and one of them called or came by... or her family wanted to do something she would feel bad because we wouldn't be able to talk... Yes I do admit I didn't like not talking to her. But if I knew that she was really THAT bothered by it I would have stepped back.

So now after you've read my novel (sorry about that.. I just want you to know how it was) we have been broken up for a month now almost two... and I am a mess without her. We are still "friends" but that just isn't enough for me... we have the same friends except for one of mine.. so I can't really ask for advice or let out what I'm feeling/ thinking.. She says that she felt like a possession and that she was losing her friends.. and our "dream" was just a dream and we needed to look at the big picture "reality"... and she felt like she was always disappointing me... and the truth is... Now I know why she felt that way... and I know our dream was out of reach after a while... But I feel like I was cheated out of knowing this stuff was bugging her before we broke up... She never disappointed me... and I don't think she could ever disappoint me... when we did break up it was fight after fight... and I agree with her (she says she did people.. I'm not just saying it ) that when we broke up she would always at me about stuff... and be rude towards me... But even that didn't change what I felt for her... and I don't take crap like that from girls... I usually just walk away...

I have never felt like this over anyone, any other girl I would just move on as I've done in the past... but she's in my mind when I wake up and when I go to sleep... I'm always wanting to know what she's doing or if she's thinking of me...

She says she's not wanting a relationship right now because of her school... But how do I know if there is a chance for us still... I can't sleep... I can't think... I don't even care to do things I used to do... All I want to do is stay at home and watch TV... I told her I didn't want to be in a relationship just to make her feel better about not wanting to be... but I think now I made a big mistake... I told her the other day that I still loved her as much as I did from the first time I told her... and she said she knew... Im only open with my feelings with her... but with the way I'm feeling now I don't care who knows...

Heart break is a... and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy... Can anyone tell me signs to watch for, that shows she's still interested... and most important getting her back... She isn't an everyday girl... she is indescribable and she doesn't go with the crowd...

I love her guys... I feel like I have nothing without her... This has never happened before... PLEASE HELP!! :(

The emotions, and shock, have you feeling bad, I know that. I feel you, buddy, and since you don't know what to do, I'll tell you, but you won't like it. First, you need to let the emotional dust settle, and heal to the point, of being able to be happy without her, and make good decisions about your own future. Since there are no magic tricks, or strategies, to get her back, cut all contact with her, and start to build a life that makes you happy, without her in it. Click on the links in my post, for some insight on what to do in your situation, and let me know if you have ANY questions. Sorry for your loss, but it will get better, if you give yourself a chance.

Im on my third day of "no contact"... and its driving me crazy... that's why I asked the question... I see her on and I want to talk... and its harder than ever to avoid it... I already volunteer as a coach... and I've always done that... and I'm already in school... I don't know.. its like my mind is set on pleasing my heart and just letting myself sit here and be miserable... I keep coming up with excuses...

If I move on am I forgetting?

Trust me, I know how hard it is, and staying busy is not that easy, but it will get better, just hang in there. You are not alone, just check out some of the other posters here.

Well its been several months... what you said really worked... I let her be... I found my own life again... and recently came back into her picture... we talked for the first time... without fighting... she kept talking about how she didn't want to rush into anything to soon again... and I asked her how she knew there was going to be anything again... and she said I basically just rejected her... when I really wasn't... I just didn't want to seem like I wanted her back more than anything to this day... girls are confusing... but things are being worked out... time will tell in the end...

Thank you for the advice

I always say communications is a key, but I know how hard that is, to establish. That's why there is no hurry, be patient, and have fun together, that's the important part.

so... the key is '' time '' after break up?

Give '' time '' and you will feel better?
Yes. Some feel better quicker than others.

Crushed see my thread I've been in a similar situation. It has been five days she hasn't talked to me. People say time will tell. Its driving me crazy. My birthday is in week. I love this girl so much and would do anything not to mess it up. I can't do anything right now. Im so devastated. Need help. People are telling me. DO NOT CALL HER. Let her call me when she is ready. How do I get through this.

Im glad she called you man. There are some times when they don't call and that is what I am afraid of. How long did it take for her to call you back..