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am17mu
Jan 27, 2008, 12:04 AM
Hi
M a 25 yrs old single woman. M working in a good company. I want to adopt a child, but m not sure what laws are there to adopt one. I don't know whether, I can adopt a baby, without having a man in my life. I have no intention of getting married , or associating with any man.
So I want to know what are my chances of getting an adopted baby?
Thanks
am17mu
Wondergirl
Jan 27, 2008, 12:10 AM
You will be asked this question (and I'd like to know the answer too) --
Why do you want to adopt a baby?
am17mu
Jan 27, 2008, 01:26 AM
I love kids, and m an only daughter of my parents.. I hv been hurt before, so I know how it feels to get rejected... looking after and taking care of a baby , I know will give a new and meaningful existence towards my life... since , I do not want ny relationship with ny guy, I know I can never be a biological mother... so I want to be a mother to an adopted child, whom I 'd love more than nything else in the world.
Now would you answer? Is it possible for me to adopt a kid?
Fr_Chuck
Jan 27, 2008, 07:52 AM
Many agencies will adopt to a single household,
Synnen
Jan 27, 2008, 08:17 PM
I've been thinking whether to respond to this all day.
Yes, there are agencies that will allow you to adopt as a single woman. However--most adoptions these days are open or semi-open. And most birthparents are doing the choosing, not the agency, not the adoptive parents.
For MOST young women choosing adoption for their BABY, part of what they'd like for their child is TWO parents that will be there for them. If they wanted a single parent for their baby--why not parent themselves?
I suggest you start talking to agencies that will do single-parent adoptions, and start going through the counseling required to adopt. It may be that you will have to adopt an older child to have your dream of being a parent--but older kids need parents as much, or MORE, than babies.
Lastly--there are THOUSANDS of people out there wanting to adopt an infant, and fewer people are choosing adoption all the time, due to government programs that help them keep their children. Look into your local foster care agency as another option for adoption, as you might have better luck there.
If it's just being a parent--you might look into artificial insemenation. Yes, that's expensive, but it's on par with adopting, since domestic adoptions can cost as much as $30,000.00.
shygrneyzs
Jan 27, 2008, 08:26 PM
I can understand what you say. My question is - do you think your child will always accept you? Teens are not that accepting of their parents at times. Read through some of the posts on the Help Desk from teens in angst. Ask yourself what you would do if you were that Mom?
I did have a female co-worker who adopted a child - she was single and still is single. It can be done. You will no doubt be asked many questions, be interviewed by the agency and/or Social Services, your home inspected, a background check, and (depending on state) an evaluation by a psychiatrist. People who have biological children should go through all that once.
Good luck to you.
am17mu
Jan 28, 2008, 12:39 AM
Thanks! I know , there will be all kinds of problems once a child goes into his/her teen, and m quite ready to face those... but still I would very much like to adopt.
Never thought of artificial insemenation though..
And I would start counceling, to increase my chances of getting a baby
Wondergirl
Jan 28, 2008, 10:09 AM
i know , there will be all kinds of problems once a child goes into his/her teen, nd m quite ready to face those
No, you aren't ready. No parent is ever ready.