My ex recently just contacted me after 3 weeks of no contact, its funny because she called me at first but I missed the call and I called back and asked her if she called, then she said that she called by accident. Later that night she called again and said she didn't call by accident, she didn't know why she said that and we started talking normally as "friends" as most advisors told me to do. Then she brought up about the relationship again. (she dumped me because I lied and flirted, but I changed and she knows it) she said that she has that "fear' of me doing it again and that she doesnt trust me at all, that we could be friends, but she said its hard for her to let me go because i made such an impact on her life. Now i know she still loves me but what i am asking advice for is how to win back her trust? i want to win her back as a gf because she is the love of my life, if you guys can give me some good pointers as to how to prove to her that i am serious about this relationship i would appreciate it so much. I said to her that i hope with time i can "earn" her trust back and that i didnt deserve it but i wanted to earn it, she said to "not have too much hope" but I know she still cares about me and she even said herself when she thinks back about what she did she still gets pissed off, so am thinking she isn't totally over it yet, and that she still needs some more space. I am currently still giving her a lot of space, but I just wanted to know what can I do from here? How can I go about and start trying to win her trust and most importantly her heart back. Help?

The only thing you can do, is what your doing now, and let her judge you by your actions. That takes a heckuva long time, so don't push, and be friendly, when she calls. That doesn't mean she will go for it, but for sure she was really hurt, and that takes time to get over, if ever. Leave the relationship stuff alone, and be lite and make her smile, as in be interesting, as a friend. Hey she is calling, but don't expect her to fall in your lap. So spend some time making sure you got other areas of your life in order. Don't beg or call, unless she says its okay. Don't ask either.

If you have really change do you really want to go back to a relationship where you will be trying to prove yourself worthy every day? Make no mistake, she will watch you like a hawk and every little in discrepancy will have to be accounted for. If that's what you want then good luck. Personally, I would take my newly overturned attitude out on the town and show the other ladies what they are missing.