I've been in 18 relationships and I've never actually felt in love not once like I don't care if they cheat on me use me is the only thing I care about but is there something wrong with me

Just curious, how old are you?

If I were the poster of this thread I would add.. This is just my opinion, so correct me if I'm wrong...:


I either am an only child to parents that I feel never cared about me no matter how hard I tried to please them and get some positive reaction - all I got was negative reaction, yelling, and no hugs, praise, love or comfort. And since I never got the warmth I needed and wanted, I convinced myself that this was not important.

Or I could be a child of a single parent and never felt important either, therefore I did not expect much at home. I could even have been abused as a child and too ashamed to tell, or felt I deserved this..

Either way, this hurt to a point that I began to enjoy it because it was the only real feeling I had and accepted it as normal - even became addicted to verbal abuse because it was the only attention that I got. Attention by letting someone use my body whether they loved me or not was also starting to be normal in life...

When verbal abuse was no longer enough, I would start looking for someone else to hurt me such as a partner who cheated, and then treated me crappy - because it made me feel something and it was again getting to be normal because I did not know better.

So... is there something wrong with you??? Maybe.. but the good news is that it is 'fixable'.
You need to feel the closeness, warmth, praise, and pride that everyone deserves. You need a lot of self-respect and get rid of the feeling that you are not worth it.

Some people can do this on their own, depending on how much they have been hurt, but most of us need professional help to begin to understand what we lacked and need and deserve.

You have a right to happiness as much as the rest of us, and any way you can achieve inner peace and self-respect should be your primary goal - and believe me alcohol, drugs, an abusive relationship are not the answers - no matter how good it might make you feel for a short time.


What you need are long-term goals and they don't come easy. You have to work at them real hard, but you did take the first step by posting this thread, dear, so continue to work on your choice to change your life.
I don't know where you are from or what type of professional assistance is available to you, but look for options to reach this goal, no matter how long it takes or how hard the raod to reaching that goal is.

We might also be able to help if we had a little more information.. and there are some who might even have addresses and other suggestions to get you on the right road, so hang in there, keep us posted, and by all means, DON'T give up on yourself.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_22_19.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZSYYYYYYMXDE) You have all the right in the world to like who you see in the mirror - don't let anyone tell you different.

Being around your age, I'm 17 and your 15, I would have to say that people aren't looking for love. And even if they are none of us really know what true love is.

There's nothing wrong with you, but there are many many MANY different kinds of love. You don't need to be IN love to feel it.

Seriously, 18 relationships? Come on now, give me a break. Can you even really call them relationships? Be single, hang out with your friends. Check out cute people and flirt with them.

I doubt you're going to listen but no sex, no alcohol and no weed. You'll regret having sex later when you find someone you really care about and you might end up pregnant or with an std. Hangovers are not fun. Puking on the side of the road is not fun. And weed makes you stupid. Most of the people I know that smoke weed are drops outs with no lives.

Peer pressure is a *****(^_^). It seems that all people care about is partying. But you'll find people that want futures and familys and healthy hobbies. You just have to look.

ive been in 18 relationships and ive never actually felt in love not once like i dont care if they cheat on me use me is the only thing i care about but is there something wrong with me

After catching your other thread about the pill and HIV, - one thing wrong with you is lack of education and thinking with the wrong head - both of which are important for you to work on. So please start as soon as possible.

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I don't know what 'pfttttt' means, and don't care. I learned real english and probably got a better education than you'll ever get, and when I got interested in sex, I took the proper precautons. You'll be wiser if you make it for at least 15 more years - unless you catch something on the way.

I was just trying to caution you, but if you can't take it - tough.