Hi, I have a healthy relationship with my boyfriend, we've tried out different sexual positions, usually its him doing the job. I find that when I'm on top, I moniter the speed, depth, angle... but I can't feel much of anythig when I'm on top.. why is this? What can I do to correct this?:confused:

I don't understand the question. Are you saying that you can think of anything like dirty to say or are you asking if you just can't think of any other ways to do it? I don't understand.

Sorry typo error, I meant FEEL

Well, the girl on top position is supposed to be the best position for pleasure for the woman. Make sure you have the right amount of penetration, you need to have the right speed, maybe play with your clitoris a little (or have him do it) and make sure he's working it too.

Practice is all I can think of, since you are controlling the position make sure it is working for you.

You might want to look at some pictures of how you can place your genitals in the female atop position. Check with your local library. The female atop position is reputed to be a wonderful position for women making sure they get good genital stimulation.

I think then, practice makes perfect... or you abandon the position in favor of what you prefer.

Best wishes in 2008,

Specifically, don't ride the pony, row the boat.

The question I have is, why are you on top? is it to please him or yourself? if its him, then squoting over him and bouncing up and down, for yourself, do whatever feels good, trying to please both of you at the same, I don't think this position really works... not in my experience anyway.

The question I have is, why are you on top?, is it to please him or yourself?, if its him, then squoting over him and bouncing up and down, for yourself, do whatever feels good, trying to please both of you at the same, I dont think this position really works...not in my experience anyway.If it doesn't work then you are doing it wrong.

Trust me...


To the woman, do what feels best for you, he's going to love it anyway. Plus his hands are free to do far more with you.