I'm curious about my really good friend, he tells me he's sadist and has been bottling up his feelings for 7 years now (hes 18yrs old) because before those 7years he used to be extremely angry and take his anger out on others.

He's told me In primary years, he used to get in trouble a lot and lost A lot of friends because of his harsh personality. So now, he keeps his feelings back and tries not to get angry by forgetting his emotions. (bottling them up), so the effects of doing this have been playing with knives, he's got a lot. And being extremely emotional for a long time. He has stabbed himself with the knives before, and says he feels no pain.

I've never witnessed himself inflicting pain but I have seen him playing with the knives and getting close to stabbing. He barely lets his anger out now, but he is very unhappy.

I want to try and help him as I'm a good friend of his, is there any way to let him take out his anger but not hurting?. there must be some way to heal his pain.

Thank you for your responses.

Hmm... seems to me no ones replying..

Try and make him relax, find something you both like doing, any ideas post them here and ill try and help some more

Sounds more like some seroius mental illness to me, ( either way) if it is true for sure mental health issues, and if not true and he is lying, seroius issues for making up these lies.

It sounds similar to the behavior of kids who secretly cut themselves. Causing yourself harm is a way of silently crying for help. You would do best by your friend to get his family involved. If they are on the outs, try talking to him yourself. He needs counseling for this behavior. People who cut generally have a lot of self loathing issues that can stem from all sorts of places. If you believe he is a danger to himself it is your responsibility to call the police immediately. They would be able to take him to a facility where he would undergo observation and hopefully get the help he needs.

I don't know whether he's a sadist or not but clearly he's in a lot of emotional trouble. It sounds like he's a teenager? Just a guess. Talk to his parents about your concerns, or a school counselor and ask them to keep the conversation private.

These are the kids who one day explode and commit suicide or murder, or show up at school loaded for bear and end up on the evening news. You can't help him - you are too close and not qualified. What you can do is stand by him but encourage him to get help.

Usually people who go through this are hurting over things they may not even remember, or may just not feel strong enough to work through.

He sounds dangerous though, and you need to be very careful. If you can't talk to his parents, talk to your own. Maybe they can pretend to have snooped and found something you wrote or something so they get the blame instead of your friend knowing you ratted him out.

Is it wrong to betray his trust? Not at all. He is making it pretty darned clear to you that he's in turmoil and whether he realizes it or not, he's begging for help.