musynina
Jan 16, 2008, 01:10 PM
:( This is the issue: My daughter was coming home for Christmas with her other half and I told my brother and sister and my mother that Christmas Eve dinner will be in my house. Well, everything was fine and everyone was okay with it. We had Thanksgiving at my brother's house and everything was just peachy. In the meantime, I have been communicating with my mother telling her that when she comes - she is going to be going to my brother's house. She has been leaving with him for a while. Let me just tell you that she doesn't get along with any of her children because she gets offended for everything. I try to deal with her the best I can, but there are times when I can't deal with her anymore and this is one of those times. She is a very hurtful person and likes to create problems among us (her children). If she is living with (she used to not anymore) she will talked bad about my sister and my brother. If she is living with my sister, she talks about me and my brother and so on and so forth. Anyway, as I was saying, I have been communicating with my mother and telling her that when she comes - she will be staying in my brother's house - which it was okay with my brother. The problem was that she didn't want to stay there. When she left my brother's house, she took a DVR that was in her room. The DVR was a leasing and was in her room for her use and comfort, not for her to take it with her. The day after my mother left, my brother calls me and ask me if I knew where the DVR was. I knew that my mother had taken it, but I didn't want to be involved so I told him that I didn't know. Then, he called me sister and asked the same thing. Finally, he called mom and she told him that she took the DRV. Months later a friend of my mother came from her country bringing the DRV in question and I went to pick it up and deliver the same to my brother's house. In the meantime, I have been the delivery person for my mother's medicines to be sent out of the country, which I don't mind, but everything that has to do with do this - do that - send this - send that, is for me. She never asks my brother or my sister - only because she knows that they are going to say no. I told my mother 3 times that she is not staying in my house because my daughter is coming for Christmas and I don't have another bed. The real reason is that she makes trouble wherever she goes. We have attempted 3 times to live together and there is no way. The 3 times she got upset with me and left upset and didn't speak to me for months and years trying to make me feel guilty. This time before her plane was landing the trouble started, nobody wanted to go to the airport to pick her up. My mother called my sister and told her the flight number and time of arrival and my sister didn't want to go because it was too late at night and so on and so forth. To make the story short - I remained in my position and she had to stayed in my brother's house and she wasn't happy. She came to my house for Christmas Eve with an attitude and my sister's boyfriend also came with an attitude. My sister's boyfriend had previously had an argument with my brother's girlfriend about who was picking mother - so they were not speaking with each other. This Christmas have been very stressful and I promised I will never invite this crazy people "called my family" for Christmas dinner again. Let me just add - we grew up in a dysfunctional family, but everyone is in denial - starting with my mother. Is this my fault? I guess it is, I just wanted to have the family together because my daughter was coming from the other side of the pond - 4000 miles away to spend Christmas with the family. What a family! I have forgotten how dysfunctional this family is... Oh well! I tried for everyone to have a nice Christmas, but it was impossible. The good thing was I was able to spend time with my daughter and we had a great time together. Please give me your opinions.