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rahila
Jan 11, 2008, 03:22 AM
:confused: M husband shared his password with me and never kept it seceret he suddenly changed it because my sister inlaw brain washed him.he changed his password, I want to know both of them password.want to save my marriage I have a child of 2 yrs. Help I have very less time
NeedKarma
Jan 11, 2008, 03:27 AM
Password to what?
And why do you have little time?
simoneaugie
Jan 11, 2008, 03:31 AM
Passwords are made to be private. Is your marriage in danger because you cannot read what he sees? You two need to talk about how you feel. The password is less important than trust.
JoeCanada76
Jan 11, 2008, 03:44 AM
You do not need to know the password, There is no brainwashing here, except for your control in the marriage.
Joe
NeedKarma
Jan 11, 2008, 04:32 AM
We don't offer advice through Private Messages here. Please post relevant information to this thread.
donf
Jan 11, 2008, 05:44 PM
Let's see,
I have a three computer network at home. I have one in my office (shed) off the garage. A laptop and one in our bedroom.
All three have the same user ID's. So even if I didn't give my lady my "Secret" I'd stilled be metephorically screwed. All units use the same password. If she really wanted to, she could just log on as me and get whatever I get. Of course it would cut into her network shopping time, but she could if she wanted to.
So what's the big deal, she can also go through my wallet any time she wants to. All she ever gets out of it is green sheets of paper that she says I don't need anyway.
She's my wife, not my mortal enemy.
shygrneyzs
Jan 11, 2008, 07:31 PM
Are you saying there is an affair going on with your husband and your sister-in-law? His brother's wife? Finding their passwords is not going to stop any affair. Talk to him like a normal, sane person would and ask him what is going on. Explain your feelings and honestly communicate with him.
Even if I knew how to hack into someone's computer to access a password, I would never tell you. Hacking is illegal. No one here on the Help Desk would give that kind of assistance to you.
simoneaugie
Jan 11, 2008, 10:59 PM
I can see how it would seem that simply having the password would solve the problem. But the problem is bigger than a word for a computer. You have to talk to him.
Gho5t
Sep 5, 2008, 04:40 PM
That story along many others are often use for requesting passwords. If your marriage depends solely in your knowledge of his emails,you guys have nothing to hope for.
tiggerella
Sep 5, 2008, 07:29 PM
While I agree with the "passwords are MEANT to be secret" responses above, I have also seen an article by a relationship counselor online in which she says that, if a spouse has been cheating, the only way to restore trust is to share passwords - and that any person the cheated on spouse doesn't feel is "safe" shouldn't be communicated with. (A friend in marital trouble got this same advice from his marriage counselor - and since I'm not considered "safe" by his wife, we aren't allowed to communicate with each other any more even though there was nothing going on between us except some discussions about back injuries - which he and I have both had and he is currently struggling to recover from.)
Not to open a new can of worms, but if "rahila" and her husband get the same advice as my friend, do you all still agree that she has no right to her husband's password?
JBeaucaire
Sep 5, 2008, 08:57 PM
Interesting added thoughts, but why are we adding to a thread over 6 months old?
Deada
Sep 6, 2008, 11:52 AM
I feel if he has nothing to hide then he should tell you. My fiancé and I have an open communication in our relationship where I know his password and he knows minds. It starts with communication and trust see where he stands in you knowing his new password.
Gho5t
Sep 7, 2008, 10:40 AM
:confused: M husband shared his password with me and never kept it seceret he suddenly changed it coz my sister inlaw brain washed him.he changed his password, i want to know both of them password.want to save my marriage i have a child of 2 yrs. help i have very less time
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