I'm 21 and my boyfriend of a long term relationship has been asking for anal for the longets but I'm scared it'll hurt... what are some things I should know... and should I use lube or a condom... and a really embarrassing question... does ''poop'' get on his penis =\

I just wouldn't tell him no if it is hurting...

And yes poop is a possibility

Don't be pressured into it whatever you do. It does hurt at first sadly to say. If you actually want to do it for you, not just him, then yes, use both lubricant and a condom. Also make sure he takes it very slowly and to stop when you say.
Take a look at this site: Anal Sex Tips (http://www.sexinfo101.com/ic_anal.shtml)

Hope it helps

... do it ONLY IF YOU WANT TO! Because if you're having any doubts about it, you'll stress about it and it won't be a good experience for you.

Lube. Yes.

Condom. Yes.

Poop. Possibly.

Everyone is giving advice on only doing it if she wants but did anyone ever think of telling her the possibility of serious infections?! Doing anal can cause serious infections. There is so much bacteria. Some of my friends have done it and gotten infections and they had to go to the e.r. there's more to think about than whether its going to hurt or if you will enjoy it or whatever. My advice is only do it if you want but if you do use a condom so keep the bacteria from getting contact with his genitals and before inserting his penis somewhere else in you take off the condom to prevent the bacteria from entering you. And when you are completely done make sure you bath immediately to kill any bacteria that may have gotten contact.

If you noticed, everyone has stated to use a condom, which is one of the main things. Also, if you read the site I included in my post, it states the safe way to practice anal sex.

Yes, yes and yes.

You are too young to have anal sex. That's my opinion. :)

Oh dear.

Did you ever have to poop and strained?

I would imagine anal sex would be 1000 times worse. I also read that the chances of getting hemroids are greater for folks who have anal sex.

If I were you I would go slow. Literally. :p

I'm a guy, fyi, so what I "know" of the woman's perspective is what I've read and what I've learned from talking to my partners and others about anal. Current partner has no desire for it, a previous partner enjoyed it occasionally. Generally, I think most guys are curious and most women aren't so interested. The girl that enjoyed it had a remarkable ability to bring herself to orgasm through self stim... so she was able to channel the sensations into a different orgasmic experience.

The link provided by clafairey is good...

Lube (warming is good), going SLOW, talking while trying are all important. The first time I had anal with my previous partner she said she was somewhat uncomfortable, and wouldn't have gotten off that time... whereas I almost did immediately... partly because of the sexual tension, partly because the sphincters contract so strongly it "grips" hard on the man. Almost instant orgasm.

Read enough posts here and you'll find most women that post here haven't found it pleasurable, and there are reasons to be careful and concerned. Personally, as great as it felt, and as much as I wanted it, it doesn't interest me so much since I know my current partner isn't interested and wouldn't enjoy it. But... we've also had posts from people who have enjoyed anal for a long time with no physical issues reported.

It isn't, in my limited experience, messy like you think it could be. But the point about cleanliness is absolutely true. Just as "improper wiping" after you go to the bathroom can introduce bacteria into your vagina, so could anal sex without proper caution. Anal followed directly by intercourse just shouldn't happen.

Sooo... his desire isn't bad. Its normal curiosity. Your being scared is normal. And if that means he doesn't get it cause you aren't ready, so be it. Don't do anything you aren't wanting to do sexually.

Be willing to talk to him about it without it being a fight... he's just curious and you just have to do what is right for you, even if that means saying no.

Fyi... before you do anything, Google "anal sex" and read more about it. Being sexually informed is important. You'll find some good links within the first page or two of hits.

Do it in the Shower. And use loob if you want to try it. And don't be shy. He will love everything about it. Evertyhing he sounds like he is very much into it, as for the whole poop thing he probable gets turned on of the thought of that

It does hurt the first time and many more after that. It has been about 5 years since my husband and I tried it for the first time and only in the last year has it really become enjoyable for me. You definitely need to read all about safe anal sex and just remember to make sure and use a lot of lube (you will have to reapply during) and if it hurts just stop and try another time. And poop only happened once!

Well I Think You Should Do It Only If You Want To! If You Decide To Do It Just Relax, Don't Thik Its Going To Hurt And Enjoy The Moment. The First Time I Did It Hurt But I Think Its B Cus That Was My First Time And All I Was Thinking Was 'is It Going To Hurt' Now Its Like A Natural Thing. And I Guess It Has To Do A lot With Being Comfortable With Yourself And Your Partner. ;) Second, Use A Lubricated Condom!! Also Tell Him To Try To Stick It In B4 It Get Hard That Way It Won't Hurt As Much.

Anal sex can be fun, if you're turned on enough in the first place to enjoy it.

Go VERY slow. Use LOTS of lube. Plan on washing up afterwards.

I've had some VERY intense orgasms from anal---with a partner that knew what HE was doing. So... it's about trust, it's about a lot of foreplay---and yeah... don't be jumping from anal to vaginal intercourse. That's bad juju.

And--be comfortable with it. If you can't relax, it's going to hurt like heck. You NEED to relax for penetration. If you aren't comfortable with it at ALL--as in, the very idea turns you off--then don't do it. Your boyfriend has plenty of other ways to get off with you.

I must tell you that It hurts at first and I get hurt very easily. But you will get through it. It can actually be very satisfying.At first I did not want to try ,but later I enjoyed it. Poop is unfortunately a problem and can be very humiliating.

Use A Lubricated Condom and my opinion is to lubricate it first then use the small finger to insert and move up and down until you are comfortable and then use two finger and so on. If you think that is big enough then start anal sex

Anal sex cannot be rush need a lot of foreplay and make sure you are comfortable with it. Use more lubricant if you need to. Not to worry it will not be painful but don't force any thing to it. May be painful

Slow steady and use lots of lube.. start with one finger then two and then three... like long foreplay. Don't dive right in. When you can relax with three fingers then you are ready :D unless you can mistake his member for a forearm :eek: . Then all bets are off. First time may still be uncomfortable, but it he takes it really slow while you adjust then you can find it's a very pleasurable activity. Key is patience on his part, and you being relaxed and getting comfortable before you dive right in and start. Now that time will get shorter with practice. Wife really loves this, because I take the time for her to get comfortable before going at it. And use lube lots of lube.

If you are worried about poop. Time it to be about 1-2 hours after a bowel movement. The parking garage with be empty then. Try it when its full then you will find parking can be a problem.

My personal advice is to get a small anal toy of some sort for yourself. Use it just like masturbating and do it yourself so you have control over the situation until you personally feel that you can handle it. It will hurt and feels awkward your first few times but you get used to it. Also find out if he would let you try it on him, most guys are not open to it but trust me if he is open to it he would love it. Plus then you can use a strap-on on him. Trust me the way your sex life will change is immense. Best of luck to you

My advice to you is say NO and stick to your guns. This is a great way to get some pretty nasty diseases and there are a LOT of them out there.

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO and more no.

And if he goes out and does it with someone else and you find out... let him get the swell diseases as you are happily hooked up with another guy who doesn't want this.

My advice to you is say NO and stick to your guns. This is a great way to get some pretty nasty diseases and there are a LOT of them out there.

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO and more no.

And if he goes out and does it with someone else and you find out.... let him get the swell diseases as you are happily hooked up with another guy who doesn't want this.


Do you have a link for this?

I don't think you can get any more or different diseases from anal sex than you can from vaginal sex.

SOME people enjoy anal sex.

If she's willing to try it, and is looking for pointers on how to enjoy it--well, it's HER sex life. If she doesn't like it, she can always say no. If she changes her mind, she can say no.

But... unless you have the link to the information that shows that you're more likely to get a disease from anal sex, or that there are diseases you can ONLY get from anal sex--well, I'm going to have to say you're wrong here.

IF he goes out and hooks up with someone else--she's JUST as likely to get any diseases vaginally.

Too young for anl sex? Ohh yeah, that's right, I read in the anal book of commandments that you had to be like... 80? Anyway... defenitely use condoms... and as everyone else has said... take it slow. If your lover is a good listener, he'll know what to do when you say the four letter word... OGOD (heh heh, jk!) I mean... STOP.

All seriousness... he needs to know when to stop while you relax... it's best that he fingers you first... and then go from there.

As for the poop part... well you can douche it before you play... PLEASE TELL ME YOU GUYS ARE DOUCHING IT FIRST!! And for the one chick who had the infected bacterial butt friends... DOUCHE IT GIRL!

Anal sex tears and stretches the tissue around the anus and can cause bleeding. That in turn can lead to infection. Anal sex is also highly septic in nature and can cause infection. Moreover, it can cause hemorrhoids and colon collapse.

Oh dear.

Drat... and so many people are having so much fun surfing the Hershey highway.

Use lots of lube and relax like everyone else has said... I've have been doing anal on partners for 10 yrs or more and the poop factor has only happen once... and the thing is this... its part of the act... nothing to get upset about... my wife and I do not use condoms because we are both clean and make sure our bodies are ready for it. Trust me it is VERY sexy and u will enjoy it once u relax.. and that is the key... relax and enjoy

Use a condom. There is a lube called analease, but I've never used it so I can't tell you much about it. Foreplay is a must. I always make sure I'm in a position that puts me in control of penetration depth and speed. Go slow, stop if it really hurts. NO VAGINAL INTERCURSE AFTERWARDS! Anything that was used in anal play (fingers, toys, penis)definitely should not enter the vagina. Not only can it lead to infections, but that's just icky:P Clean up afterwards.