I am currently involved with a man that is in the middle of a divorce. His not to soon to be ex wife is telling all kinds of untrue things about me to his family trying to make them not like me. I have also heard from other people malicious things she has said about me. My boyfriend, his family and I all know none of the things she is saying are true. Should I sue for for slander or defamation of character?:mad:

Have any of her comments caused you financial damage that you can prove? Also, if for example, she said your were a total whore how would you go about priving in court that the statement is untrue and caused you harm? She is obviously really ticked and may say many bad things, do you want to get into a wee wee match with a skunk?

What do want to get out of suing her? IF everyone knows she is lying then don't worry about it.

Why bother with an expensive court case of this type slander. She is obviously upset about the situation and striking back the only way she can. It will go away and be forgotten about as many people have found in similar instances.

So you want to sue her. Maybe she wants to sue you - after all this is her still legal husband you are sleeping with. You throw a rock and she throws a rock. Just ignore her and the accusations. Risinig or descending to her level gets you nowhere. In fact, it makes you look like the whore. Take the high road and don't return mud for mud.

Who said we were sleeping together?

I really think it will all come back on her and she will be the one everyone will be talking about. :)

I am currently involved with a man that is in the middle of a divorce. His not to soon to be ex wife is telling all kinds of untrue things about me to his family trying to make them not like me. I have also heard from other people malicious things she has said about me. My boyfriend, his family and I all know none of the things she is saying are true. Should I sue for for slander or defamation of character?:mad:


She is probably saying (among other things) that you are "involved" with her husband, which is true. Certain States still allow alienation of affection lawsuits (Hawaii, Illinois, Mississippi, New Hampshire, New Mexico, North Carolina, South Dakota, and Utah) so depending on where you live this could get interesting for all of you.

Simply stated, it isn't slander unless someone actually believes it and you suffer a financial loss because they believe it. It would appear from what you have posted that no one believes it, anyway.

I personally would be less angry with her and more angry with him because you are in this position -

SHe has already threatened to sue me for alienation of affection, but the state law is that she would have to prove there was an affectionate marriage before they separated, which everyone in this area and surrounding areas that knows either one of them knows there wasn't even a marriage between he two of them and she would have to prove that I had the finances for it to be beneficial to her, which I do not.
As far as being angry with, I am not even aggrivated with him. He is a wonderful person and I am thankful that he is a part of my life. SHe is just mad at him for filing for divorce because she is the type that worries about what people will think about her and what she has done. SHe never appreciated him when they were together and nevr did anything a mother and wife should do for her husband. SO, I guees the old saying, "You don't miss the water till the well runs dry" is definitely true in her case. She doesn't want him, she just doesn't want anyone else to have him

You can't win with a crazy person. People sometimes get so angry there is no way to reason with them. She may have threatened to sue you but that is likely just posturing and won't go anywhere. Stay out of the courts with this issue. Getting into a wee wee match with a skunk is never a good idea.

You'd have to prove that damage was caused by her actions... and courts don't really like to award for emotional damage. Unless she has caused you financial harm, I'd say don't bother wasting your time.