Hello... first of all how are you all, I've been gone for a while, not going so good(not that you really care). So now I need some advice.
All right I had been seeing this guy that said he liked me a lot since last year about in the summer. Only until this year in September I started talking to him and sort of going out with him a little. One way we used to communicate everyday was through text messaging. So we went on like that and I thought everything was fine even though it being my very first relationship, and gon through some tough stuff... I had trouble trusting that he really was interested in me. I mean it seemed so, but I just have trouble trusting. I got to liking him. So last month just a few days before Christmas he came over and we had a good time. But then on the 24th he didn't call... I wrote him a message saying Merry Christmas or something, he wrote back util 9pm. Which that got me to feel funny about it. Then the 25th, he didn't call me either... and again I wrote to him again the same thing... then asked him what he was doing... he answered that nothing... so then I asked him if he would come by but he didn't write until 9pm again. So that sort of broke my heart and got me to thinking there has to be something going on. And it was the same thing for days until the 31st. Then I stopped answering him so later he wrote asking me if I was mad at him and to please answer and that he really wanted me. I told him well you act like you're the one who's mad at me or like you don't want to see me anymore... but he insisted he loved me and that he was sorry... so I said hey I forgive you but things got to change, or I'm out of your life.
Now, things went the same with the difference that he would write to me a little earlier. Until a couple of days ago I told him something which he took in a bad way and then tried to victimized himself, and didn't write me anymore and I didn't either.
I had been noticing for the past few days missed calls on my phone of an unknown caller. Then this morning I actually answered the call, and it was someone who asked if I knew him... I said yes... and said he was a friend... then she told me that he had a fight with his girlfriend because someone told her he was going out with me. I couldn't say anything else... so now you can imaging how I feel... I don't know if that really is true because I haven't talked to him lately. I don't know if I should call the girl back and ask her for more info or if I should talk to him directly and ask him... or if I should just not even bother trying to deal with any of this??
I need at least a point of view... of course if this does end soon I guess it won't matter anymore... but for now I just want to do something. Oh I forgot, he(or I'm not sure if it's him) has called me like 4 times in a couple of hours but when I answer no one answers.
So what do you guys think? I mean I was getting ready to end the relationship anyway after he didn't even bother to spend the holidays with me. I just now feel like I want to conclude this and get some closure.

Call this other girl, tell her everything you'll prob end up talking for hours. As for the guy, he's a liar and a cheat basically the scum of the earth, she'll prob dump him and he'll come crawling to you as a soft backup plan but don't let him worm his way in trow it right back in his face he doesn't deserve either of you, no one deserves to be treated like that

On Jerry Springer, this would end up with the two females fighting each other, which I think is dumb, but the idea of the females teaming up, and kicking his arse to the curb has a lot of appeal. No matter what you do make sure he is out of YOUR life.

I am hesitant to call this other girl because I'm not sure, maybe they're just trying to play with me or something. I'm not saying that it might not be true he had another girlfriend, cause now that I think back there's things which more confirm that. Oh and that girl that called me I really don't know if it's the girlfriend or someone else who knows him.
The thing that bothers me the most is that I met him through my uncle because they're friends, and my Grandma got to know him a bit... so according to their feedback he seemed like a very nice person, hardworker and all that... so I was shocked to know this about him. Even when I talked with him he seemed trustworthy enough but I guess we were wrong.
Now I'm just hurt and kind of mad... feel used and then thrown away... but I know I shouldn't even bother. I know I should be glad that at least I found out. And I want to get over it already but it's hard... I know I will though.
Thanks.

Feeling used is reason enough to put this guy behind you. Close this by informing him that you are deleting him as a contact and blocking his number, in case he wants to call. Then establish a No Contact policy to protect yourself from this weasel.

If he wanted to date two girls at the same time, he should have been honest with you both. I have a cousin who is dating three men and they all know about each other. As long as people know and are okay, then no harm done. But the problem is when deception comes into play. THIS guy you are talking about is a real jerk - to do this to you and the other girl - behind your backs.

Eventually you'll have to decide;or do you actually think you can go on like this?You need to look at yourself;and ask yourself how would you feel if it were you .

Remember one very important thing you might want one of these girls as your wife.When your honest with yourself you will be better as a person and lover.

What a jerk , Dump him now like the others say.

It appears that I didn't really even have to dump him cause things got ahead of themselves. But I don't even know if he knows that someone told me... everytime my phone rings and has his number no one answers or it rings once or twice. He probably does. I won't try messaging him cause if he really cares at all, he should actually talk. But since that's not happening I'm concluding he doesn't care a bit. And of course I'm not planning to take him back if he ever intends to make that happen... I don't want to just be the one who he turns to when he feels lonely or anything.
Well thank you for listening to this stuff, I know it's not the first or only case similar you guys have heard.

So last night he called me like three times which I didn't answer. Then he finally wrote me a message asking me why I didn't answer... which I was like what? Because the day before I answered like 3 times and he didn't. Anyway he asked me what he had done to me and said he loved me and whatever... but then I asked him if what they told me was true... he asked who told me that... I said someone... then he said well that's not true but if you believed them, oh well. Then he kept telling me I was the one he wanted and that he had never played with me. But I just said you guys better leave me alone I don't want anything else just stay with your girlfriend, now you can have as many as you want cause I won't bother you anymore. And I left it at that. I know perhaps the things I said weren't the right things or it lacked something... but there I said it.

Sound like it worked, people like that drive people like us to insanity trying to second guess what people like that want with people like us