View Full Version : When to start having sex
raggablue
Jan 6, 2008, 10:30 PM
There been a lot of discussion about underage sex, about being mature enough to handle it and when people should or shouldn't start.
Sex is popularised in the music, TV and film industries and the idea of sex is open to all age groups nowadays, so what's your opinion?
raggablue
Jan 6, 2008, 10:36 PM
I think if you educated completely and you comfortable talking about it with you parents, partner, tutor, doctor and you understand the dangers and responsibility that goes with becoming sexually active then you are at a safe stage to start
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 6, 2008, 11:15 PM
It is neve safe to start. When your married you can't even say it is safe because people cheat. If you are emotionally ready and can take the necessary precautions I don't see a problem with it. I was 14 when I lost my virginity. Don't regret it at all. I loved the guy and felt I was ready. I got birth control before hand and we always used protection.of course my parents weren't happy when I told them but it is my body and that is how I feel for anyone. I am pregnant now and I am going to raise my child wit the father and I haven't needed anyone's help this faar and won't ask for it unless my baby is going with out. Yes I have medicaid but my boyfriend loses $600 every two weeks to taxes so we have vary well paid in enough to deserve it.
raggablue
Jan 6, 2008, 11:27 PM
it is neve safe to start. when your married you can't even say it is safe because people cheat. if you are emotionally ready and can take the necessary precautions i dont see a problem with it. i was 14 when i lost my virginity. dont regret it at all. i loved the guy and felt i was ready. i got birth control before hand and we always used protection.of course my parents werent happy when i told them but it is my body and that is how i feel for anyone. i am pregant now and i am going to raise my child wit the father and i havnt needed anyones help this faar and wont ask for it unless my baby is going with out. yes i have medicaid but my bf loses $600 every two weeks to taxes so we have vary well paid in enough to deserve it.
Don't start if you don't want to get hurt, no one is safe from being cheated on. Don't regret it at all? I'm guessin you know what its like to be cheated on? People say they love each other then one slip and it all goes spiraling downhill, why would anyone do that to another person especially if they love them, ESPECIALLY if they know how much it hurts?
Wondergirl
Jan 6, 2008, 11:51 PM
I grew up in the Stone Age and lost my virginity at 21 on my wedding night. Sex is a big responsibility, especially nowadays. STDs and pregnancy are two biggies that come because of irresponsible sex. And I don't care how much they deny it, women get emotionally involved or affected even if it's a one-night stand--even if it's a rape! A woman taking off her clothes and being totally vulnerable and opening up her body to a male (or another female) leaves her wide-open emotionally. Being forced to do that makes it even more emotionally affecting.
I'm really upset about what the media has done to sex. Sex is supposed to be a very special and precious thing between two people who care about each other. It's not to be a recreational thing that's done with whomever whenever, making it something very common and ordinary.
I think it's high time there should be lengthy courses required and certificates awarded and even licenses paid for before someone has sex! And the media should promote that. (How's that for wishful thinking... )
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 12:03 AM
I'm not sure about licenses but chastity belts and a court appeal to be granted the key might be more reasonable. I was lucky, I lost my virginity to a girl who turned out to be the most prescious and special person to me but even ten I was "wide open emotionally" (and physically!) there no telling what one person will do to another emotionally (and physically!) so there a lot of trust involved, I wouldn't give it up for the word now, which completely contradicts what I'm trying to say, but if my experience had turned out like soooooo many others I would be even more vunerable
p,s are you the peanut-butter-jelly loving librarian?
Wondergirl
Jan 7, 2008, 12:15 AM
Regga -- yes, the one and the same.
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 7, 2008, 12:24 AM
I say I have no regrets because he did cheat on me and then he hit me. I don't put up with that because no woman should! And after I left that guy I was talking to another guy who ended up raping me because I didn't want to sleep with him so yea I could very easily regret my decision but I don't. I was in love and have dealt with the consequences of it all.
And if only we didn't have a constitution maybe those things would be feasible! I wish they were for my nerves sake when my baby gets to that age!
Yes even one night stands leave women vulnerable because we think about it later and possibly regret it.
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 12:48 AM
You are one tough woman.
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 7, 2008, 12:59 AM
I just got called a little girl in the post about the pregnant 15yo! I don't have anough life experience to inform someone about the responsibilities of having a baby although I have one on the way myself.
Some people on here are so close minded that they wouldn't know what to do if there kid came to them at 15 and said I want to have sex! It drives me crazy because I have been trhough a lot of stuff and feel that I have coped well but older people love to say I'm a child and don't have enough experience.
Anyway I'm not that tough I have just dealt with what life has thrown at me! I don't ever have an answer to "are you OK?" except if I'm not OK I would be dead and as far as I know I'm still living!
Sorry about the second paragraph I'm just really ticked off!
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 7, 2008, 01:11 AM
No me and him agree for the moost part he doesn't call me stupid or immature either when we disagree. I read yalls dispute earlier that was nasty. This is someone I have never seen before and I accidentally gave them two negs I usually try to only agree or disagree once per person in a post but I forgot I had already done it. But it is arrogant and patronising. She tried to out do me and she can't because my mom had it super rough and is super independent. More than anyone else I've met.
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 01:12 AM
Are the "some people" arrogant-patronising-possibley-work-in-walmart-or-somethings? And you don't have to apologise for expressing your oppinions or be put down by some jerk who thinks they're god
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 7, 2008, 01:14 AM
Yea it is but you probably want to get the names off it cause you can get reported or something for it. I don't know how it works but it is in the rules.
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 01:17 AM
We seem to have detracted from the question here and used it as a safe escape from those nutters out there, we should prob put little bits of relevance in amongst our real conv... ithink 15 is fine to start shaggin... then we might not get the tread pulled
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 7, 2008, 01:22 AM
Yea I had one pulled and it was an honest ? But the words were to vulger for the adult sexuallity part I think I don't know and don't care. I asked my dr and she gave me an answer. Lol like I said I started early but don't regret it I think it is different for everyone depending on how mature they are. Lets face it some kids have been through more at 12 than many 40 yo's its just the way life is. People have to role with the puches or how ever it goes. I've got to get off here though ill be back later. I need some peaches and cheez wiz... I kknow sounds gross but I'm pregnant and baby wants it!
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 01:27 AM
yea i had one pulled and it was an honest ? but the words were to vulger for the adult sexuallity part i think i dunno and dont care. i asked my dr and she gave me an answer. lol like i said i started early but dont regret it i think it is different for everyone depending on how mature they are. lets face it some kids have been through more at 12 than many 40 yo's its just the way life is. people have to role with the puches or how ever it goes. ive got to get off here tho ill be back later. i need some peaches and cheez wiz... i kknow sounds gross but im pregant and baby wants it!
Too true unfortunately, life just isn't fair... peaches and cheese huh... fresh or tinned?
Wondergirl
Jan 7, 2008, 01:28 AM
Probably tinned.
Good night, ragga! (It's 2:30 a.m. here.) See you soon, I hope!
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 01:37 AM
Oops, hope you don't have to be anywhere in the morning... are libraries open on Monday mornings?
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 7, 2008, 01:38 AM
What is tinned? They are precut in a glass jar with peach juice! Yummy now it is just whipped cream I ran out of peaches.
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 7, 2008, 01:41 AM
I don't get the pb&j loving librarian? It seems like more people would have joined this thread by now. Everyone seems to have such an opinion on how wrong it is to be a pregnant teen but no one wants to share there veiw on when it is appropriate to start having sex.hmmm
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 01:41 AM
I didn't know you could get cheese in a jar with peach juice
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 7, 2008, 01:42 AM
Noooo. The peaches are sliced in a jar with juice. The cheese is in a tin can that squirts like whipped cream. Sorry if I confused you. Everyone I know says peaches and cheese is gross but I love it as of right now.
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 01:43 AM
I think you scared them off. What's pbandj? An what don't you get about her?
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 01:44 AM
I knew you meant peaches, I didn't think you could get cheese in a tin
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 01:45 AM
Oh did you mean squirty cheese?
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 7, 2008, 01:45 AM
You said peanut butter and jelly loving librarian. I didn't understand where you got that or is that from a different thread.
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 7, 2008, 01:46 AM
Yes squirty cheese. It is gods gift to pregnant women!
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 01:49 AM
Yeah we were talking about blues music and it veered off to sandwich variations, talking of sandwiches... is squirty cheese good in any kind of baps?
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 7, 2008, 01:56 AM
Baps? What is that
Clough
Jan 7, 2008, 01:58 AM
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raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 02:02 AM
Sorry ill um try and find the discussions board and ill try not to get too disparaging in future
brown_eyes_3546
Jan 7, 2008, 02:03 AM
Can we just move it there? I don't know how I've seen others do it. Well I'm going to bed anyway talk to you someother time.
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 02:07 AM
All right seeya.
Ps bas is a kind of sanwich caseing
Clough
Jan 7, 2008, 02:12 AM
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raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 02:19 AM
Oh right I thought all the highlghted points were the ones that applied to me, few!
Clough
Jan 7, 2008, 02:28 AM
we seem to have detracted from the question here and used it as a safe escape from those nutters out there, we should prob put little bits of relevence in amongst our real conv....ithink 15 is fine to start shaggin...then we might not get the tread pulled
Really! You think that the age of 15 is an okay age to start having sex and then, I might add, be responsible for the awesome and tremendous responsibilities of parenthood that could follow having such acts at too young an age in order to take on and accept the responsibilities because of not being able to do so because of being too young?
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 03:02 AM
I can't believe it has taken 4 pages of irrelivent chit-chat before anyone takes notice of the thread title... anyway no, I don't believe 15 is a good age to start "shaggin". Sex as a recreational activity only leads to trouble and should an intimate thing beetween 2 people
Clough
Jan 7, 2008, 03:15 AM
I can't believe it has taken 4 pages of irrelivent chit-chat before anyone takes notice of the thread title... anyway no, I don't believe 15 is a good age to start "shaggin". Sex as a recreational activity only leads to trouble and should an intimate thing beetween 2 people
I agree. It took four pages, if I am correct without counting them, of irrelevant chit-chat before anyone took any notice of your remark that is, because this is not a chat site. Please don't try to use it as such. Eventually, someone is going to notice the remarks that have been made.
So now, you are saying that you are retracting the remark that you made previously?
Originally Posted by raggablue
Ithink 15 is fine to start shaggin
raggablue
Jan 7, 2008, 03:24 AM
Of course, I lost my viginity when I was 14 but I got lucky because I ended up in a serious relationship with that girl and so I was protected to some extent by that bond, had it been a one night stand with some girl id omly just met I probably wouldn't have the same respect for women as I do now and, like many youths today would be even more messed up in the head and would have lost my faith in all things good and pure
Bluerose
Jan 9, 2008, 02:17 AM
raggablue,
I was actually enjoying your 'chat' with brown_eyes_3546. It's obvious that she needs some support at this time. It's a pity but rules are rules. You could always PM her and offer a few kind words.
Sex at an early age? I'm involved in many board (I have nothing better to do with my time - I know, sad git lol), anyway, just last night I read a post of a young girl beating herself up for giving into someone and actually having sex in a toilet. I can understand why she regrets it because it should be something memorable. But what's done is done, it was a mistake but it happens.
No matter the age maturity plays a really big part just for the reason I have stated. Being mature about it involves a plan, a romantic get together if possible, anything but a quick fumble in a loo.
Kids today are a lot braver, more out going, and more open minded than I was when I was a kid, I only hope that when it does happen they are at least mature enough to realise how important it is to use protection.
The worst scenario they catch a STD. Or the girl gets pregnant and the guy is paying child support for the next 16 to 18 years. If they are old enough to ask about it on here they are coming close to doing it, and all I want to say is USE A CONDOM!!!!
brown_eyes_3546,
All that talk about peaches and cheese has made me hungry lol.
When is the baby due?
I have had three of the little ankle bitters, if you have any questions (not medical) I would like to help if I can. Take care of you. :)
raggablue
Jan 9, 2008, 08:46 AM
Yeah your right, gut what does PM mean?
Wondergirl
Jan 9, 2008, 10:19 AM
what does PM mean?
Private Message or Private Messaging