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lollipopkid08
Jan 4, 2008, 06:14 AM
BOYFRIENDS HIGH SEX DRIVE
I'm 20 and been with my boyfriend about 3 months, he is 21. From the start he warned me he had a high sex drive, which freaked me out, but although he talked about it a lot, he did wait which made me realise he hopefully wasn't with me just for sex, I made him wait over 2 months. Thing is no I enjoy sex too, which yes is good but my boyfriend keeps asking me to do stuff like dress up, talk dirty, asks if he can come on my face, trying different positions etc. basically I want to know if this is normal, I know my mates get A lot of sex, and its not something me talk about in detail, but I just don't know if its normal, as I don't want to be made a fool of by him taking advantage of me. I do usually wear sexy underwear and stockings and heels but he wants me. Also I need help with what he means when he says he wants me to talk dirty more during sex.

SHAVING PUBIC AREA
Secondly I shave it all off down below, I follow loads of tips I read, I soak it in a hot hot both for 10 minutes, then exfoliate for 5 minutes, then soak for 5 minutes, then rub shaving cream on for 5 minutes then wash that off, then I use proper shaving gel and leave that on for a few minutes before I shave, then I soak it straight away again and then I apply baby oil with aloe vera. I'm still getting red pimples/rash and when shaving they are bleeding. I try to leave it every other day but my hair grows at the speed of lightning and its already not smooth a few hours after shaving, can anyone help with this? At one stage I thought it was getting better but its really not, my razor is very sharp and always new blades and the more I shave the less smooth its getting, I'm worried my boyfriend will pick up on this

THE PILL
Last but not least I'm on the pill, which is a good job as we tend to find even durex splitting a lot. I've only been on it one month, and I take my last pill tomorrow, I'm really worried as to know when I'm going to be on, how long it will last, how heavy it will be etc. I'm going away next weekend and I really need to not be on then. Before I went on the pill I had no cycle at all. But I usually found myself on for nearly a week at least 6 days if not 7/ does this mean I could be on for the entire 7 days, and does the pill make them more heavy etc. I really don't want to be on next weekend.

Thanks for your time and help it all means a lot x

Fr_Chuck
Jan 4, 2008, 06:19 AM
No way to really control your period and as you are on the pill longer you will get more regular. But also remember the pill is not 100 percent effective, ask the dozen or so on here that have babies while still on the pill. So always still use another form of birth control also

As for as positions, yes, different people have different desires, the old saying "what ever floats your boat" so to say, if you don't like a specific type then don't, never do more or things you don't feel good about.

Choux
Jan 4, 2008, 10:22 AM
I'm concerned about your first question. You are only twenty... I think you are too young to engage in the sexual practices your "boyfriend" is forcing on you. You probably can't see the harm in being treated like an object, but it is very crippling to your future sexual development!

There are different levels of sexual enjoyment... why stunt yourself at the lowest level of sexual practice and enjoyment, being "the object"??

simoneaugie
Jan 4, 2008, 11:27 PM
As far as question 1. your boyfriend may simply want to experiment. He's getting his ideas from somewhere though. Are you part of his idea generation process? If you don't feel comfortable with an activity, tell him no.

Number 2. Something in your shaving process is causing your skin distress. Change the system/products.

Number 3. Different pills affect different people differently at different times. You may not be on your cycle at all this weekend, or you may bleed heavily. Whatever happens, you will be able to handle it.

Caralyn
Jan 5, 2008, 06:44 AM
Bottom line you're not ready for this type of sexual relationship and nor should you be. You are young, what you speak of is the type of things old married couples try as a way of livening things up. Back off, I'm afraid he may be using you. The steadfast rule is only agree to what you are comfortable with. He should not be forcing you or talking you into anything you are not comfortable with.