xileup
Dec 29, 2007, 12:44 AM
Ok.. I have an EXTREMELY jealous boyfriend who I've been with for the last year and some months. I love him with all my heart and I really want to make our relationship last, but it's very difficult with the way he acts. My boyfriend wants to know EVERYTHING I do 25/8 and wants to control the things I do. To help you understand better, he is currently in the military and away on a deployment, that makes it even worse for our relationship. He calls me at least 4 times a week and emails me everyday at least once.The problem is that he never wants me to go out and have fun with the girls, or go to any events where there will be other people. He admits that he's a psycho and that he hates when I'm around people even if they're family. He wants me to stay home doing nothing because "I'm not having any fun, and neither should you" as he always says. His friends all tell him that he's way too jealous and too controlling and that one day it's going to mess everything up. Most of the time when I want to go out we end up arguing and getting upset, but work things out.
Months ago before he got deployed we were going through some troubles with our relationship already. His jealousy got me fed up to the point that I even cheated on him. I felt horrible after I did it and I swore to myself to never do it again. I cheated on him because I was tired of him always trying to control me and trying to act like he was my dad instead of my boyfriend. Plus he always went out with his friends and especially sum girls I really disliked. People around me started saying that it was wrong of him to be hanging out with those girls, knowing I disliked them and that my boyfriend was cheating on me. I let all those comments get to my head and therefore I didn't feel bad when I was with the other guy.
Now months have passed since I cheated and my guy found out about it. When he found out, we broke up for a while. Now he decided to give me another chance, but things just aren't working out too good. He's even more jealous now and thinks that I will cheat on him with the first guy that comes up to me and doesn't trust me at all. I really am sorry for cheating on him and I still love him. The only reason I was with the other guy was because I got fed up with everything and I felt like I needed someone else I could talk to that would understand me better. That someone happened to be a guy I knew from years ago. We started to talk and I was really starting to like him. He knew about my boyfriend and our troubles. Then one day I was over his house and it all just happened, we started to kiss and that lead to more things and eventually ended up in his room.
Anyway I've already explained that a thousand times to my boyfriend and we decided to try and work things out. I know he really loves me and I love him too, but how can we get over this issue and his jealousy problems??
Months ago before he got deployed we were going through some troubles with our relationship already. His jealousy got me fed up to the point that I even cheated on him. I felt horrible after I did it and I swore to myself to never do it again. I cheated on him because I was tired of him always trying to control me and trying to act like he was my dad instead of my boyfriend. Plus he always went out with his friends and especially sum girls I really disliked. People around me started saying that it was wrong of him to be hanging out with those girls, knowing I disliked them and that my boyfriend was cheating on me. I let all those comments get to my head and therefore I didn't feel bad when I was with the other guy.
Now months have passed since I cheated and my guy found out about it. When he found out, we broke up for a while. Now he decided to give me another chance, but things just aren't working out too good. He's even more jealous now and thinks that I will cheat on him with the first guy that comes up to me and doesn't trust me at all. I really am sorry for cheating on him and I still love him. The only reason I was with the other guy was because I got fed up with everything and I felt like I needed someone else I could talk to that would understand me better. That someone happened to be a guy I knew from years ago. We started to talk and I was really starting to like him. He knew about my boyfriend and our troubles. Then one day I was over his house and it all just happened, we started to kiss and that lead to more things and eventually ended up in his room.
Anyway I've already explained that a thousand times to my boyfriend and we decided to try and work things out. I know he really loves me and I love him too, but how can we get over this issue and his jealousy problems??