Hi my husband seems to think he does nt last long enough in the bedroom so he s got it into his head that he does nt satisfy me I love him dearly how can I help him

Well... the question is... does he satisfy you? If he does, and he just doesn't think so... then I'm not so sure. Perhaps he's just insecure. If he actually isn't lasting that long, there are plenty of websites online that has information on "exercises" that he can do in order to increase his ability to last longer.

Just out of curiosity, how long is "not long enough"?

They also sell a lubricant that he can put on that can help

On top of suddenImpact's advice, they also sell condoms that come with the "lubricant".

The active ingredient is benzo... which isn't harmful, but I will let you know, that it does NOT feel good. If anything, it numbs the guy. So yes, he'll last longer... but he won't feel much. So... your call. You guys can both decide to try it. I believe... trojan sells the condoms... called extended pleasures.

Some women have partners who can't last long enough for them to have an orgasm. Some women just don't care. Some don't care because they don't realize what the're missing. In any case, the question is that the hubby feels bad, the wife does not, and what can she do for him?

Oral sex, first for her, until she has an orgasm, then for him. Then see what happens.

Are you able to be orgasmic before he ejaculates? Have you ever been orgasmic?

My husband was a premature ejaculator, and so I had to train myself to come very quickly during our lovemaking bouts. I was glad that I could do this because I never like the feeling I was being 'worked over' by my lover. A woman has to be a full powerful partner or the imbalance makes for "bad" sex. A man isn't responsible for a female's orgasm... that's too much responsibility for any person... being responsible for another person's sexual orgasms?!

If you are orgasmic, then you have no problem, right?

Your husband are focusing on FAILURE, and perhaps, you are joining him in thinking failure?

I think you two would benefit immensely from sex therapy. You would find it enjoyable and eye opening... why waste another week?


Good Luck!!