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jessi_pooh
Dec 26, 2007, 02:14 PM
Sooooo!! I neeedd someee majorrrrrrr!! Adviceeeeeeee!!
Okay so I am currently kind of stuck and not sure what to do.


Here's the background info..

I dated this guy for a little over a year and then we ended up breaking up over this past summer like June. We were kind of sick of each other and I took the initiative to break up and we stopped talking to each other for a while.

When school started again we were at first a little weird around each other (obviously) but then we decided that we were being stuipd and we stayed friends. We still hung out and talked to each other.. MIght I also say we have the same group of friends too!

Well about 3 weeks ago he started to ignore me and completely avoid me. When ever I was hanging out our group he wouldn't come near us and if I came over to say hi or just to see what was going on he would walk away! Soo.. I tried talking to him about it. (Dont know if that was a good idea or not) and I asked him what was going on and why he didn't talk to me. He told me that he didn't WANT to talk to me or be around me.

Ya. Ouch. I got the message loud and clear..
Well, after that I didn't try talking to him again because I didn't think I did anything wrong right? And we are exes sooo... maybe it wasn't a good idea we still be around each other.

Then... I found out this past Friday he asked out one of my best friends.
!!
She told me about it at a party that same night and I had no idea how to respond. I just asked her what she had said.
She said she told him ¨I don't know¨


I need help please!!

I don't know if I should say heyy go for it

Or if I should be completely honest and tell her that
Even though everything betwween me and my ex is over
I'm not completely comfortable
:confused:
I'm just not sure what to do!! Should I just not interfere..

enjay22
Dec 26, 2007, 02:30 PM
damn straight hunny.
you know my opinion.
honestly, WHAT KIND Of " BEST FRIEND" would even CONSIDER that??
that just shows what kind of friend she is.. and now u need to think about if u really want that kind of frienship in your life.
=]

snowboarding_chick
Dec 26, 2007, 09:23 PM
So many guys go for their girlfriends or ex girlfriends because they act so much alike. Its hard and has happened... so many times.

The two options you have are so hard. I have been there before. I decided that it wouldn't bother me that much and I just told my friend to go for it. I was really over this guy though. Even though I didn't really do much, so many people complimented me on how I handled it. I had so many people tell me how amazing I was for not letting it bother me and how they were so proud of me for not causing drama. I felt like I did the right thing in the end.

However, if you aren't over your ex all the way, that would be hard to see your best friend with him. It really depends on how easy it would be for you to see them together. Hard choice... I'm sorry babe. Hopefully this doesn't start too much drama.