Hi to everyone!

As browsing the internet, I have found this site as a number of good people do share their valuable insights to one's life, and I find it very good.

From here I would like to post the current scenario of my life. I have been to a relationship, an unofficial one. I call it unofficial because the person I've been with has a girlfriend in it's own sense. Even if it is wrong, I have fallen in love and went to several dates with him. I am older by eight years from him, and he says that is not an issue with him.

Just very recently, I got tired of the situation, having been treated at the back side of his life. He doesn't call me at the office and never visited me at the office either. He had said many times that he will be visiting one day, yet until to this date, it did not happen.

He is so demanding, wanting a reply whenever he sends an email or text, yet I am pretty busy at office. He is suspecting me so many things, yet in the first place he is the one that has a lot of girls around, and this has been a major argument on us.

Until just this late, I have stopped replying to this email. It has been more than two weeks already as I know this relationship is not going anywhere. I just got hurt because I have already love him as who he really is. It is still every night, when I'm on to bed, I cried because I felt he never really loved me. He have just used for his own purpose.

And last Christmas, I did sent a holiday greeting. As I still miss him a lot, but he had just simply call and greet me. No words of explanation why he have stopped texting me.

My question is, will it be okay to still send a holiday greeting to him? Do I still have to text him, knowing what his condition is? Please give advise as what is the best thing to do...

Thanks in advance and may God bless all of you.

Your in love with a guy who has another, officially?? Do not ever contact him, and don't let him contact you. That is unless you like being his thang on the side. You love the real him huh? Is that the one who has a g/f, and you help him cheat on her? Is that the one who is always around other females, and ignores you when he pleases, and expects you to be there when HE has time? He IS using you, and you know it. NOT HEALTHY.

"It has been more than two weeks already as I know this relationship is not going anywhere." I believe I would let this one go; the more serious you get with him, the more frustrating he will be. Why do you want to enhance the relationship when you are saying it isn't going anywhere?

I agree with Talaniman...

U love the real him? The sucky man he is and perhaps will forever be?
A man like him does not even deserve your attention, what more your undying love?

It is true that bad boys attract women all too easily. You could be wishing that your kind understanding and unfailing love will tame him to be your ideal man. Unless you reach your silent goal, you are not going to give up on him. That is why you have mistaken your bruised pride to missing him.

You are absolutely right not to email or text him!! I applaud you for that. But you must have the self-discipline not to get involved with him ever again. To him, you are mere convenience. He can take you back at any time because he makes no sacrifices to be with u. Turn your love to someone worthwhile instead.

Get on with your life and find somebody else.
Demanding someone to reply instantly when they don't is double standard and that is a red flag in itself. What right does he have demanding anything of you.
Often when guys DEMAND it is a form of manipulation and that is all I think he is looking for with you.

Had to spread the love, but very well said ladies. I hope she listens.

Had to spread the love, but very well said ladies. I hope she listens.

I honestly appreciate all your advise.

After hearing all your thoughts and realizing the scenario, it is indeed right that I have to end things up as it really is not healthy. Got to get over with all the crazy feelings I have for him, start a better life and I believe I that at the right time I will meet the right guy for me.

God bless you all... Happy New Year...