I am a 30 year old single mother and I cannot get over my first love whose now married! The funny thing is we lost contact over 10 years ago and just 2 months ago I ran into his friend which was so crazy. When his friend reconigized me I was so shock because we all lived in another state. I was happy to see him but all I wanted to know was do he still keep in contact with my first love. When he told me he do and that he's married now I have to admit I was a bit jealous because he married someone I use to work with. I loved this man ever since I was 17 and the feeling just won't go away. I don't know what to do we e-mail each other and it's cool but sometimes I feel like he's playing with my head talkng dirty to me, playing romantic songs over the phone, and I love it but it also frustrates me because he's not mine. What am a hopeless romantic like myself to do?

Stay away from a married man. You may not consider it cheating to talk dirty on line to him, but I'll bet his wife and a lot of other people would think otherwise.

Honor his vows, honor yourself, and knock off the kiddy porn sessions. It will only lead you to greater temptation... or being used. You're not a kid anymore. Let your fantasies go the way of your childhood and stop trying to relive them.

Does it excite you to think of yourself as a possible homewrecker? I'm sure there are a number of other names that might fit the scenario as well, but they are not nice. If you don't want to be thought of that way, then don't go down that road. Not sure what kind of romance novels you read, but there are some of us guys out there who would consider this sort of thing to be SMUT.

Stay away from a married man. You may not consider it cheating to talk dirty on line to him, but I'll bet his wife and a lot of other people would think otherwise.

Honor his vows, honor yourself, and knock off the kiddy porn sessions. It will only lead you to greater temptation... or being used. You're not a kid anymore. Let your fantasies go the way of your childhood and stop trying to relive them.

Does it excite you to think of yourself as a possible homewrecker? I'm sure there are a number of other names that might fit the scenario as well, but they are not nice. If you don't want to be thought of that way, then don't go down that road. Not sure what kind of romance novels you read, but there are some of us guys out there who would consider this sort of thing to be SMUT.

Thanks for your response and no I am not a homewrecker I never was. The fact is he's married to someone I use to be friends with, actually when I moved away she could'nt wait to have him but I know that is no excuse. For the sake of my dignity I will not have any contact with him anymore because I would hate to be in the same situation if I ever got married.:)

Are you so in love, you are blind to him disrespecting you?? He can only treat you, the way you let him.