Wildcat you always talk about not getting into the friend zone after a girl breaks up with you. However, in order to have any chance of getting her back you must be in her company so how is this achieved without getting oneself into the friend zone?

I know this question is for Wild cat but I really HATE it when a guy breaks up with you on apparently friendly terms and acts like he doesn't want to be your friend anymore. They got to start acting like jerks to you. I miss some really great friends because of that stupid macho rule. So yes I want to understand the friend zone too. :( :confused:

Any advice?

I would have to agree with Wildcat that if you feel that you want to get back a girl who has previously broken up with you, then you need to play it cool and act indifferent. Get on with your life without her and let the whole world see that you can do just fine without her. Meet and date new people, do things that interest you with friends and don't give her a second thought. When you do these things, ex love interests seem to have a way of crawling back into your life. I can't honestly explain how or why this happens, just that it does. I say this from direct experience during my bachelor years. Then, once they start pursuing you, you have the upper hand and can hold the power in the relationship. Trying to stay in the "friend zone" will probably only serve to push her away further and make you appear obsessive. I think that women need to see that you have a life and that you can get by without them. I guess that when they do they feel safe in that they don't perceive that you'll be so needy and clingy. Then they decide that they miss you and want your friendship so they come calling. That's the real trick ; to make them pursue you rather than you pursuing them.

It is strange, but ignoring the ex will some how have them trying to crawl back. Some only make contact to see if you are interested in them (power game). Some really do want to give it another chance. Some are too proud to make the first move, and just forget about the whole idea. Some take the risk and try to pursue you.
Just watch out for the ones that only want to play games with you.
Trying to be friends might back fire on you, she might only see you as friend meterial. Make contact once in a blue moon. Be indefferent towards her. There is nothing wrong with moving on, after all you might find someone much better. Why settle for less.

Okay I get the I got to do it to get her back with me thing. But for example me and this guy were really good friends I mean like we told each other everything and soon that turned into boyfriend -girlfriend. Well he was the one to break up with me he said something about he saw me more as a friend than girlfriend and that he would always be friends with me. Well I didn't get mad at him because you know if its not working then its not working. I was happy he still wanted to be my friend. Well the next day Im hanging out with our other friends and he comes up and I am talking to a friend and he starts making cruel remarks to me and starts going around saying mean things about me and avoiding me. He is not the only one who acts like that. None of the guys I have broke up with stop being my friends it is only the guys who break up with me. Is this a defense mechanism or something. How do I keep from losing my friends who are guys if I date them? Should I never have a guy for a friend? What is wrong with the world today?

I agree with everything you people have said it's just that I want to know what constitutes the "friend zone". Like for example if an ex girlfriend on a few months asks you to come over and say hi to everyone, would that be a friend thing to do? How do you find the mixture of keeping in touch but not being a friend?